Hey ladies, would you date a short guy?

Question

There is this guy at my job, he asked me out. He’s nice and smart and kinda funny but there is a problem, he is 5’6 which is wayyyyyyyy too close to my height. I rather date a man 5’11 and up, does that make me a bitch? Should I been ashamed of what I want? He has asked me out so many times but I just can’t

DonCachondo · Accepted Answer

The key is to assess WHY you want a taller guy.

1. Is it because a positive height difference contributes to your ease of sexual arousal like, say, a nice large pair of breasts would to mine? Well, that's fine because you can't help what comes naturally like that! It's better to admit it to yourself from the get-go than to let yourself start (and tumultuously end inevitably) a relationship based on denial with a man you're not even attracted, who would probably not be too happy with that revelation... Also, don't sweat it because preferences ebb and flow over time and sometimes even disappear completely and permanently.

2. On the other hand, is it ONLY because you're concerned about about your image as a couple and what your friends and peers would think? In that case, yeah you kind of suck because you're letting everyone else decide what YOU are attracted to. First of all, what kind of weaksauce is that? Secondly, and more importantly, it's bad because it reinforces masculine "beauty standards" that, if every straight woman reinforced them just like you currently are, would inevitably leave a sizable chunk of men on the shorter end "undateable" PERIOD.

axayjain · Accepted Answer

It is not bad to have preferences. And it wouldn't mean anything if you aren't interested in him. And just doing it out of pity or think will it make you a bitch.
You are not attracted to him. End of discussion.

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

You personally shouldn't attempt to date a co-worker for these reasons because it can cause problems for you on the job and possibly in the future. 2ndly, if his height really bothers you then you don't have to date him. Lastly, you shouldn't worry about what others think about it. Your reasons are yours. But his problem is that he is highly insecure and there are plenty of women under his height that would be more than willing to date him. If you rejected him so many times, he should respect it and move on. Either way, don't date somebody who won't respect you. If he keeps on harassing you, please warn him to stop or else. That is wrong for him to keep doing this.

Hemlenn555 · Accepted Answer

Hey don't be ashamed! There's nothing wrong with what you said. It's called having a standard.
But if you aren't fully repulsed by him, it might be a good idea to go out with him once and see what happenes? You said he's got a good personality, at least the "date" won't be shit.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Hey guys, would you date a girl with small boobs? There is this girl at my job, she asked me out. She’s nice and smart and kinda funny but there is a problem, she looks like she has 34B boobs which are wayyyyyyyy too small for an adult woman. I rather date a girl 34D and up, does that make me a bitch? Should I been ashamed of what I want? She has asked me out so many times but I just can’t

sejla · Answer

Height wasn’t a thing for me when I was young but I’m short. My ex was 5’6”. My dad was that height. I come from short people.

Post note: tall men can help produce tall babies and think about pushing out a big baby. my brother is only 5’6 or 7 and his wife is 4’10”. She broke her pelvic bone giving birth to my niece.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I would if I liked their personality - I would say around 10% of the guys I liked were under 5"5 and 90% were over 5"5

Desconhecida · Answer

Shorter than me, it wouldn't be even normal

LEETSBEREAL · Answer

Your question is misleading the way you ask this question it's as if your asking it from a tall persons perspective esp the use of this picture however it turns out he is the same height as you. Don't waste this guys time if your semi intrested and so hung up on his height leave him for someone who will appreciate all the qualities he has rather then ponder on weather he is 'worthy' or not based on his height. You might meet a tall guy that's an ass hole. Then what? Your preferences could cost you your happiness just so you know. But don't waste his time he doesn't deserve it. Tell him you want to be friends and on with your life.

Afrenchgirl · Answer

Since I am almost 5’8 I only go for tall men (6’1 and more) because when I wear heels, I am 5’10...
Sometimes I think « I don’t give a chance to smaller guys, this is bitchy » but, this is not. You are not bitchy for not feeling attracted by someone. You don’t have to justify your dating choices. Guys don’t have to blame you because you say ‘no’. You have the right to say no. He seems like a good guy, maybe a good match for you, but I don’t think you reject him « just because he is little ». It’s because you don’t feel enough attraction and that’s okay. Don’t tell him you reject him because of his height, instead tell him you don’t feel the same but want to remain friends, like this you don’t hurt his feelings.

HartleyB · Answer

Never had this problem cause I'm not even 5 foot tall 😂 but sure? If you don't like that then fine but do not say that is the reason to him because that is something he cannot change and he may already be insecure about that..

But also, don't be upset if you end up with guys who don't really care about you and just use you with that mentality because you will probably find a tall guy but that doesn't mean he will be caring of you and you are severely limiting yourself and potentially missing out on the love of your life for something quite superficial really..

But each to their own 🤷‍♀️

CubsterShura · Answer

I'd date a short guy.

Also, how tall are you that you feel like 5'6" is wayyyyyyyy too close to your height? I'm literally 5'2.5", my boyfriend is around 5'7" and I honestly feel no dramatic difference between our heights at all. The shortest guy I ever liked was 5'3.5", exactly one inch taller than me and I saw no issue with his height either, in fact we know each other since middle school yet the thought 'he's short' never even crossed my mind until the last year of high school when he himself brought up his height while having a conversation with me. I saw him everyday in school for 6+ years.

And you want me to believe 5'6" is too close to your height?

lumos · Answer

I dated a guy who was the same height as me for three years. I do think it's kinda silly to dismiss an otherwise interesting and attractive person just because of their height. What if he ended up being the love of your life and you chose to dismiss him because he doesn't fulfill a really unnecessary criteria? I'd understand that it would be a bit more complicated if there was a massive height difference, but if we're talking about simply being close to the same height, I really don't understand what the problem is. And yes, I think it's pretty shallow.

Josephx760 · Answer

Well that's a foolish reason to not date someone.. and at that point not only are you cheating him out of happiness you're likely cheating yourself out of a great relationship.. you should ask yourself why do you care about height are you banking on tall men having large male parts? That would be faulty, or is it because you want to match his height in photos when you're wearing tall heels? Or perhaps you associate height with safety and security along faulty short guys can fight learn martial arts etc.

jsincal · Answer

It’s what you are attracted to. Nothing to be ashamed about. I’m attracted to women of all race. And I do have a thing for red heads and blondes. But that doesn’t mean all red heads or blondes are my type. For example I don’t like chicks that are too lean.

Does that make me a bitch? I’ll leave that to you.

Dongtai · Answer

Why are you asking other women about who “you” should date? If the opinions of other people dictate who you date regardless of how YOU feel, yes, you’re a bitch and immature.

But if you date whoever the fuck you want because YOU want to regardless of what everyone else is doing or thinking, you’re a cut above the rest.

DRad123 · Answer

Wait, so are you like 5'5" or 5'7" or what?

For me personally, I think I would prefer a girl more around my height, but to each their own. If you are attracted to him, it might be worth trying. But if you really don't want to, just let him off nicely, I would say.

sdtabot · Answer

I would date a short guy but that doesn't mean that you have to date a short guy too. The reason for not dating him is shallow tho. But if you really don't like him or feel that you will never have any affection for him, then don't date him. You'll just waste his time and hurt him if you do.

iKante · Answer

I can’t give you my opinion on whether you should date him or not, but I want to ask you a question. If that guys makes you feel great, laugh and cares for you, why do you think that height is a big deal? I would understand if you said that it’s one of your criteria but since you said he is close to your height then what seems to be the problem?

jgokgotit · Answer

Don't waste his time. There is nothing wrong with liking what you like, but do not waste his time by getting his hopes up. On a side note, if the height of a guy is a deciding factor then you are not yet mature enough for a relationship, just like a guy who rejects an otherwise amazing woman just because her boobs are not big enough to use as a pillow or her ass is too small to grab. Everyone is attracted to looks, but mature people look past the looks.

BloodSweatandTears1 · Answer

You're not a bitch. Wanting tall guys is your preference. However, I will tell you this. Good things come in small packages. In addition, this guy is going to be very loyal to you. A taller guy is going to be wanted more by other girls. You have a higher chance taller guys will cheat on you.

Anonymous · Answer

These questions are so brain damaged man I swear. “Should I be ashamed for wanting this?” Sometimes what you want is not right for you. Both guys and girls should learn to put their preferences (aka shit that can’t be changed) to the side and just have fun and date. Nothing wrong with having preferences but not giving someone a chance over something they can’t change? You’ve already listed nice qualities of him so go ahead and give him a chance. Sometimes we can say we want this and that but when we get something we don’t really prefer, there is a chance that we can change our minds

Lost-Wicked-Artist · Answer

I don't think height matters, I mean yeah, you can have preferences but if you really like this guy then his height shouldn't matter. If you truly like him, then go for it, it's alright to have preferences but there will be times when someone won't meet all requirements. do what makes you happy.

CuddlyPanda · Answer

I'd feel very awkward because I'm submissive and having a dom be shorter than me is kinda awkward. I dated this one guy who was 5'4 while I'm 5'9 and it made me uncomfortable because he would call me his "Amazon woman". Ever since I've been very conscious about my height and would rather go for someone my height or higher so it's not awkward for me.

Anonymous · Answer

I am 5’7-8 most my life people have commented on my height. I’ve had 0 luck in finding a guy that fancies me... the only ones who have shown interest are level to level with me or an inch or two shorter, I hate feeling like a giant, I just want someone to hold me... it doesn’t make me feel good when people assume I’m athletic or would be interested in modeling just bc I’m tall and my physique is slim. Right now.. I’ve literally met a guy that makes my heart pound and mood change he’s 2 inches taller I’d like to say.. I think he likes me too im getting some weird signals. But just like the feeling of secure-ness and he makes me feel this way so I’d like the person in dating to be taller than me

shortster · Answer

Having preferences for physical attributes is one thing; but giving them so much weight is another. Especially when the character of your partner is much more essential to your happiness in that relationship. At any rate, ask yourself this, would you rather be single or try dating him? Your answer should tell you what to do in this situation.

magiusX26 · Answer

not saying you in particular here. but usually this is a byproduct of modern culture's thinking. along the same lines that many magazines get most girls to thinking that only a size zero woman is attractive. by the way, to me size zero means you don't even exist

Wealthydentist · Answer

I’m 6ft2 I’m so glad I’m tall 😅!! You sure sound like a bitch! I mean you’re not even tall yet you expect a taller male height? Lower your standards to your level. 5’6 is probably too short. But you should be fine with an average man height. I mean the average female height these days is like 5’6-7. Sounds like you want a perfect man like me, but do you have it all like me? Doubt it...

OptimisticDaria · Answer

Damn, cuz of his height? I can't find hardly any nice/smart/kinda funny people, especially guys. This is rare, if he makes you happy, skip the fucking height problem. If this guy is actually like this, you'd be dumb to not even give him a chance.

pillow-wisp · Answer

Thats my fetish D:D:D: Specifically I am into guys who are around or a bit taller. Also ok with them being shorter but once a guy goes below 5'2 it starts to look like he has a medical condition.

potatoiswhoiam · Answer

I'd go as far as dating a guy a bit shorter than me, not too short tho, as I wouldn't feel attracted to him. Same height is actually good, a bit taller is great too. Appearance shouldn't matter that much

Tstrbrainer · Answer

You don't have to force yourself to date someone who you don't find fully attractive.

But if height's not a impossible factor for you, then you should think about it.
Don't keep on hanging out with him or get into a relationship with him unless you are fully convinced. It's better for both of you

Flower7 · Answer

There's nothing wrong with that. You can't help what you're attracted to and you shouldn't feel guilty about that. And to answer your original question, I would prefer not to date a short guy.

jgracem · Answer

I don't think that the height matters, if guy is a good person. But I also think that if you won't be happy and confident in the relationship, then it is not worth having.

19magic · Answer

I tend not to be attracted to guys who are shorter than me but have dated a guy whos 5"7 before and that was no biggie probably wouldn't go lower than that but never say never (I'm 5"9)

usethisf8xy · Answer

If the only reason you won't date him is because of his height, you have the problem not him. If did the same thing to you about your weight would you appreciate that? Either date him or don't date him just know that judging a compadable male partner based on height is incredible stupid. Especially since he might have the capacity to make your life happier

kaylaS91 · Answer

Yes, I would and currently am. I value how well we get along (inside and outside the bedroom) more than how well we would fit the ideals of everyone but those who are in the relationship.

DIRKINOFF · Answer

Send him a link to your post that should alleviate all your problems. I don't think your shallow ass deserves anyone.

flamiE · Answer

You sound like you kind of like him and if it wasn’t for his height you would’ve gone out with him. If it’s like that then don’t, he deserves better.

BenimKralligim · Answer

Noo, girls shouldn't date anyone who is under 5'11. Other guys not dateable. They will not even go to heaven. I also believe that they shouldn't get married.

RydiaMagnifique · Answer

Yes. I prefer taller than me but short will do. My man is an inch shorter than me and I'm cool with it. I'm 5'6.

Iceseeyou25 · Answer

Height doesn't matter to me.  . but it's your choice. I hate how men love to shame and pressure women to date people they aren't attached to but men don't have to date fat women they have the choice

Avicenna · Answer

Well, it's just your preference, and we all have preferences. That said, I don't see what the big deal is if the guy is only a little taller than you.

Wozarella · Answer

I don't think you should date someone you're not into. Hopefully he will find some other woman who is into him.

gaygod_19 · Answer

No honey there’s nothing wrong with u. I dont even date the ones who are shorter than me since im already really damn short

Bman4907 · Answer

it's a dating preference, a shallow one, but still a preference. No worries, though, you have to be shallow, it's your off time, you should be able to spend that time with someone you want to.

Leannaluvs · Answer

I have never met a man shorter than me but I don't really care how tall he is.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Yupp. As long as they have a cute face and are close to my height.

nodnol32 · Answer

If this person meets most of your requirements then it is worth looking past the height difference. My girlfriend is 6'2 and I'm 5'10.

Twalli · Answer

It's ultimately your decision, but to reject him solely because of height is a bit shallow. If he is everything else you want but too short, I think you should go for it.

Anonymous · Answer

i’m dating someone an inch shorter than me and it’s okay, i didn’t think i would like it but when i’m with him that is the least of our worries haha

Kastoway · Answer

Never. I like the feeling of being small. Especially since I'm taller then my whole family.

Anonymous · Answer

Date who ever you want, what's the big deal? We all have preferences are not obligated to date whoever asks us out.

Unit1 · Answer

If he has a ton of money, he would hardly be rejected. It's that simple.

chris_987 · Answer

What if him being a different race was a problem for you? See it’s a slippery slope when you start discriminating

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

You can't call a 5.6 guy short.. u can go with a taller guy that's ur choice.. but I think even if he is of equal height shudnt be a problem..

Anonymous · Answer

Yea my boyfriend is like 5’3ish and I’m 5’2, I like shorter guys who are around my height

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know i can only speak from my interests but i for example dont like guys my height. i go for short men and tall men but not those close to height to me.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not a woman, but one girl tried to suggest dating me and she was, 6'2 when I'm 5'10. That happened to me before few more times... I'm just not in to taller then me women...

Anonymous · Answer

I'm in love with handicaped guy who doesn't have idea about it 😢 Yes I can love anyone who can make me mama 😭

Melissssssa05 · Answer

I wouldn’t, feel a sense of security.  I like wearing heels when I go out out so if they were shorter than me then Yeahh it’d look odd

legalboxers · Answer

There is way too much hate and discrimination against short guys. The conceived notion of short man =small dick or something.

Arabella_Rose · Answer

Well you’re young , you obviously don’t know what love is all about. Wait till you get more mature

Be4rdy · Answer

I wish women didn't have such a problem. I love tall women and I dont care if they are taller than me flat footed or in heels.

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