The key is to assess WHY you want a taller guy.
1. Is it because a positive height difference contributes to your ease of sexual arousal like, say, a nice large pair of breasts would to mine? Well, that's fine because you can't help what comes naturally like that! It's better to admit it to yourself from the get-go than to let yourself start (and tumultuously end inevitably) a relationship based on denial with a man you're not even attracted, who would probably not be too happy with that revelation... Also, don't sweat it because preferences ebb and flow over time and sometimes even disappear completely and permanently.
2. On the other hand, is it ONLY because you're concerned about about your image as a couple and what your friends and peers would think? In that case, yeah you kind of suck because you're letting everyone else decide what YOU are attracted to. First of all, what kind of weaksauce is that? Secondly, and more importantly, it's bad because it reinforces masculine "beauty standards" that, if every straight woman reinforced them just like you currently are, would inevitably leave a sizable chunk of men on the shorter end "undateable" PERIOD.
It is not bad to have preferences. And it wouldn't mean anything if you aren't interested in him. And just doing it out of pity or think will it make you a bitch.
You are not attracted to him. End of discussion.
You personally shouldn't attempt to date a co-worker for these reasons because it can cause problems for you on the job and possibly in the future. 2ndly, if his height really bothers you then you don't have to date him. Lastly, you shouldn't worry about what others think about it. Your reasons are yours. But his problem is that he is highly insecure and there are plenty of women under his height that would be more than willing to date him. If you rejected him so many times, he should respect it and move on. Either way, don't date somebody who won't respect you. If he keeps on harassing you, please warn him to stop or else. That is wrong for him to keep doing this.
Hey don't be ashamed! There's nothing wrong with what you said. It's called having a standard.
But if you aren't fully repulsed by him, it might be a good idea to go out with him once and see what happenes? You said he's got a good personality, at least the "date" won't be shit.
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u Hey guys, would you date a girl with small boobs? There is this girl at my job, she asked me out. She’s nice and smart and kinda funny but there is a problem, she looks like she has 34B boobs which are wayyyyyyyy too small for an adult woman. I rather date a girl 34D and up, does that make me a bitch? Should I been ashamed of what I want? She has asked me out so many times but I just can’t
Height wasn’t a thing for me when I was young but I’m short. My ex was 5’6”. My dad was that height. I come from short people.
Post note: tall men can help produce tall babies and think about pushing out a big baby. my brother is only 5’6 or 7 and his wife is 4’10”. She broke her pelvic bone giving birth to my niece.
I would if I liked their personality - I would say around 10% of the guys I liked were under 5"5 and 90% were over 5"5
Shorter than me, it wouldn't be even normal
Your question is misleading the way you ask this question it's as if your asking it from a tall persons perspective esp the use of this picture however it turns out he is the same height as you. Don't waste this guys time if your semi intrested and so hung up on his height leave him for someone who will appreciate all the qualities he has rather then ponder on weather he is 'worthy' or not based on his height. You might meet a tall guy that's an ass hole. Then what? Your preferences could cost you your happiness just so you know. But don't waste his time he doesn't deserve it. Tell him you want to be friends and on with your life.
Since I am almost 5’8 I only go for tall men (6’1 and more) because when I wear heels, I am 5’10...
Sometimes I think « I don’t give a chance to smaller guys, this is bitchy » but, this is not. You are not bitchy for not feeling attracted by someone. You don’t have to justify your dating choices. Guys don’t have to blame you because you say ‘no’. You have the right to say no. He seems like a good guy, maybe a good match for you, but I don’t think you reject him « just because he is little ». It’s because you don’t feel enough attraction and that’s okay. Don’t tell him you reject him because of his height, instead tell him you don’t feel the same but want to remain friends, like this you don’t hurt his feelings.
Never had this problem cause I'm not even 5 foot tall 😂 but sure? If you don't like that then fine but do not say that is the reason to him because that is something he cannot change and he may already be insecure about that..
But also, don't be upset if you end up with guys who don't really care about you and just use you with that mentality because you will probably find a tall guy but that doesn't mean he will be caring of you and you are severely limiting yourself and potentially missing out on the love of your life for something quite superficial really..
But each to their own 🤷♀️
I'd date a short guy.
Also, how tall are you that you feel like 5'6" is wayyyyyyyy too close to your height? I'm literally 5'2.5", my boyfriend is around 5'7" and I honestly feel no dramatic difference between our heights at all. The shortest guy I ever liked was 5'3.5", exactly one inch taller than me and I saw no issue with his height either, in fact we know each other since middle school yet the thought 'he's short' never even crossed my mind until the last year of high school when he himself brought up his height while having a conversation with me. I saw him everyday in school for 6+ years.
And you want me to believe 5'6" is too close to your height?
I dated a guy who was the same height as me for three years. I do think it's kinda silly to dismiss an otherwise interesting and attractive person just because of their height. What if he ended up being the love of your life and you chose to dismiss him because he doesn't fulfill a really unnecessary criteria? I'd understand that it would be a bit more complicated if there was a massive height difference, but if we're talking about simply being close to the same height, I really don't understand what the problem is. And yes, I think it's pretty shallow.
Well that's a foolish reason to not date someone.. and at that point not only are you cheating him out of happiness you're likely cheating yourself out of a great relationship.. you should ask yourself why do you care about height are you banking on tall men having large male parts? That would be faulty, or is it because you want to match his height in photos when you're wearing tall heels? Or perhaps you associate height with safety and security along faulty short guys can fight learn martial arts etc.
It’s what you are attracted to. Nothing to be ashamed about. I’m attracted to women of all race. And I do have a thing for red heads and blondes. But that doesn’t mean all red heads or blondes are my type. For example I don’t like chicks that are too lean.
Does that make me a bitch? I’ll leave that to you.
Why are you asking other women about who “you” should date? If the opinions of other people dictate who you date regardless of how YOU feel, yes, you’re a bitch and immature.
But if you date whoever the fuck you want because YOU want to regardless of what everyone else is doing or thinking, you’re a cut above the rest.
Wait, so are you like 5'5" or 5'7" or what?
For me personally, I think I would prefer a girl more around my height, but to each their own. If you are attracted to him, it might be worth trying. But if you really don't want to, just let him off nicely, I would say.
I would date a short guy but that doesn't mean that you have to date a short guy too. The reason for not dating him is shallow tho. But if you really don't like him or feel that you will never have any affection for him, then don't date him. You'll just waste his time and hurt him if you do.
I can’t give you my opinion on whether you should date him or not, but I want to ask you a question. If that guys makes you feel great, laugh and cares for you, why do you think that height is a big deal? I would understand if you said that it’s one of your criteria but since you said he is close to your height then what seems to be the problem?
Don't waste his time. There is nothing wrong with liking what you like, but do not waste his time by getting his hopes up. On a side note, if the height of a guy is a deciding factor then you are not yet mature enough for a relationship, just like a guy who rejects an otherwise amazing woman just because her boobs are not big enough to use as a pillow or her ass is too small to grab. Everyone is attracted to looks, but mature people look past the looks.
You're not a bitch. Wanting tall guys is your preference. However, I will tell you this. Good things come in small packages. In addition, this guy is going to be very loyal to you. A taller guy is going to be wanted more by other girls. You have a higher chance taller guys will cheat on you.
These questions are so brain damaged man I swear. “Should I be ashamed for wanting this?” Sometimes what you want is not right for you. Both guys and girls should learn to put their preferences (aka shit that can’t be changed) to the side and just have fun and date. Nothing wrong with having preferences but not giving someone a chance over something they can’t change? You’ve already listed nice qualities of him so go ahead and give him a chance. Sometimes we can say we want this and that but when we get something we don’t really prefer, there is a chance that we can change our minds
I don't think height matters, I mean yeah, you can have preferences but if you really like this guy then his height shouldn't matter. If you truly like him, then go for it, it's alright to have preferences but there will be times when someone won't meet all requirements. do what makes you happy.
I'd feel very awkward because I'm submissive and having a dom be shorter than me is kinda awkward. I dated this one guy who was 5'4 while I'm 5'9 and it made me uncomfortable because he would call me his "Amazon woman". Ever since I've been very conscious about my height and would rather go for someone my height or higher so it's not awkward for me.
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