So this girl I've known for years and I just started dating a few moths ago, we used to be basically best friends. Earlier this week she started texting another guy while we were having dinner together. I asked her what was up, and she said they were going a date the next day, she then proceeds to tell me about her plans for it. I naturally got slightly jealous and told her as much. I was told to "suck it up". She continued to text him saying she didn't want to be rude.
(The week before she had yelled at me after I mentioned another girl, a friend, jealous to the point that I had to calm her down)
Anyway, I saw her again two days later. We really spend most of the week together. She spent half of the day talking about it and texting him, the other half having me help her with her uni work. Suffice to say, my feelings have been a little shot at this point.
Yesterday, last night, and again for the majority of today she ghosted me, until I finally spoke up about it all.
I asked her If I had done something wrong, to hurt her feelings.
She said she just wants a little time apart, that we've been spending too much time together lately. (at no point has she mentioned this previously). She mentions how I've been in a bad mood and how it's felt like I'm competing for her time now.
I explain that I'm not, but how her texting him while we're on a date, and belittling me lately makes me feel unimportant to her. I don't want to hear it, and when I said so she was rude and ignorant of my feelings. I reminded her of how she had responded to my friend and drew a comparison. How come she gets to feel jealous about nothing, and I can't about something legitimate?
She says we're not exclusive. She doesn't owe me anything. She proceeds to tell me to deal with it again, she won't apologise either.
Am I missing something here, or should I just walk away while I still have some personal respect?
(The week before she had yelled at me after I mentioned another girl, a friend, jealous to the point that I had to calm her down)
Anyway, I saw her again two days later. We really spend most of the week together. She spent half of the day talking about it and texting him, the other half having me help her with her uni work. Suffice to say, my feelings have been a little shot at this point.
Yesterday, last night, and again for the majority of today she ghosted me, until I finally spoke up about it all.
I asked her If I had done something wrong, to hurt her feelings.
She said she just wants a little time apart, that we've been spending too much time together lately. (at no point has she mentioned this previously). She mentions how I've been in a bad mood and how it's felt like I'm competing for her time now.
I explain that I'm not, but how her texting him while we're on a date, and belittling me lately makes me feel unimportant to her. I don't want to hear it, and when I said so she was rude and ignorant of my feelings. I reminded her of how she had responded to my friend and drew a comparison. How come she gets to feel jealous about nothing, and I can't about something legitimate?
She says we're not exclusive. She doesn't owe me anything. She proceeds to tell me to deal with it again, she won't apologise either.
Am I missing something here, or should I just walk away while I still have some personal respect?
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Thanks for the people who got back it me, it was a great help. After talking to her about it, and that devolving into her berating and trying to pin it me, on I broke things off. Again, thanks to everyone
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