Told my friends with benefits that I loved him and this was his answer.. why?

[Anonymous]

Okay so long story short, we’re friends with benefits for a year now (we actually never agreed to be friends with benefits it just happened i guess we started to have sex a lot) & it was REALLY hard for me to tell him that i love him (he also took my V) I told him that during sex that i want him etc And his answer was ‘cute’ ? I said that i shouldn’t come back to him anymore because that way i’m only gonna hurt myself & that it’s really hard for me to let him go it just NEVER works & that same day when i was about to leave i asked him if he still wants me to come & he said yes? I’m really depressed because i feel like he doesn’t give a fuck about my feelings and still wants to fuck. And even after i told him that i loved him he still said to come back to his house? Should i text him why he still lets me go back & that it’s not good for my mental health if i keep having sex with him only. He literally said ‘cute’

[Dargil]

Difficult to convert "friends with benefits" to an "official" relationship. You knew the rules of "friends with benefits" when you entered it. Fondness was inevitable but you had to manage it. You didn't. You are not going get what you want. You will have to back out completely. You want a committed, official relationship and he does not. He didn't when you started. You didn't either or you entered it under false pretenses. I'm not trying to be cruel. It's just the truth. If you stay with him, you will not win him over. You will he hurting your heart and wasting your time.

[hellionthesagereborn]

I don't think that was a rejection nor him using you for sex. He might like you (might not obviously I can't say for certain but I do lean toward yes he probably likes you) and thats why he wants you back. I would say go over and talk and don't have sex and see where things go. Hell maybe he thought you two were a thing and didn't know you were not. I mean who knows whats going on unless you talk to him about it.

[AzureGirl]

Break it off completely. Being in this arrangement is only going to hurt you at this point.

[RemoErdosain]

He doesn't feel the same way about you, and just wants the sex. The reason why he will let you go back is that he doesn't care about how you feel. It probably is only a stroke to his ego, but he doesn't care if it hurts you in the long run, and he just wants to keep having sex. I suggest you forget that you gave him your virginity, and think about what's good for you, because he definitely won't. Hopefully, you'll come to the conclusion that you can drop him and be happy on your own

[RemoErdosain]

I don't think you should text him anything. He'll just end up playing with your feelings and hurting you more

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

you need to move on, this guy is a waste of your time. He has you under the hook and without making a single bit of effort. You didn't refuse this arrangement, you shouldve before you got into it. You pretty much suggested a romantic relationship and he's not interested.

[JPrez]

I would say goodbye and cut all ties - phone and social media and move on. Short term pain, long term gain. If you go back over there or even talk to him, you’re just piling up more pain on yourself. You might feel good for a short while but you’ll be like a hamster spinning around and he gets to laugh at the whole situation.

[Browneye57]

Of course he doesn't give a fuck about your feelings - you've proven your worth already - which is absolutely zero. Just good for a fuck. You're a warm place to put it. He basically gets FREE SEX.

QUIT DOING THIS. There is ABSOLUTELY nothing in it for the woman. It's about the sex, silly.

[genericname85]

obviously you were intentionally not on the same page with him about your feelings so you got into the situation where he thought "just sex" is ok for you. if you had told him that this is a romantic thing for you, he probably wouldn't have done that to you in the first place.

so yeah you wasted a lot of time with that guy by not being up-front with what you want from him. time to move on, cause evidently he doesn't want you like that.

[Anonymous]

It will only get worse for you if you keep seeing him. He blatantly didn’t care about your feelings, so he’s not even your friend with benefits. You’re nothing but a piece of meat to him and he will continue to treat you like one.

Don’t jump in bed with the next guy to make him love you; it’s a classic female mistake. If you want a relationship, make him prove to you that he cares.

[djmzes]

Simple

[DiversityHire]

Falling in live with your fuck buddy seems to be the female equivalent of trying to turn a hoe into a housewife.

He doesn't want love from you, he wants to hang out and fuck, that's the gist of a friends with benefits.

[0112358]

You’re going to have to actually ask him what if anything he feels.

his behaviour suggests “likes but doesn’t love-love”.

[Anonymous]

and this is why friends with benefits relationships are problematic at best, and best avoided... Someone always catches feelings, and its almost always the woman..

[Anonymusrex1234]

He is not taking you seriously and is trying to deflect so he doesn't have to date you

[victorvolf]

He doesn't take your feelings seriously. Move on.

[jimmy2]

Well i hope it all goes well for you two