How to help a guy open up?

[Anonymous]

I've been with this guy (24) for four months now. he dated the girl before me for years (4 maybe?), lived together and what not and she ended up cheating on him. this happened a year ago and i'm the first girl he has tried with since. we are exclusive and i know he is committed to me but we are not officially together because he admits he's scared to open up again. any advice on how to get him to open up? i would NEVER cheat on him in a million years and all i want is for him to open up and trust me so we can be together! otherwise he treats me very well.

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+1 y

Also, from the start he told me he wanted a relationship and he keeps telling me it will happen and he wants me he just needs time to make sure this relationship will work out and he won't get hurt like his last.

[btbc92]

Let him go at his own pace. You can't force anybody to open up. The more you try to make a person open up the more they going to clam up and not trust you. If somebody did that to me I will put a lot of distance until that person learns to stop. He already told you what he needs it to tell you. Dating is not about keeping a person. It's about processing in eliminating. He has every right to decide if this is a relationship that he wants to invest in further or not even if you are exclusive. If you already know for yourself that you're not going to do anything to betray his trust, then just simply do what you got to do and don't worry about what he has to say. If he wants to stay he'll stay. If you wants to leave he'll leave. Just don't get too attached to each other. If he was so uncertain then I don't think that he should be dating in the first place. But not a he put himself in there, and you already noticed for yourself, you got to be responsible for knowing.

[HappyAccident]

Tbh no one on here can give u a definitive answer cause making sure this is the relationship he wants are odd an even there's no guarantee it's part of life maybe he shouldn't worry about what can be right for him he should just worry about how to build himself back up an opening up is something anyone can't really help with until he/she feels like it's time

[djmzes]

Simple

You have to show the opposite of that and it will be tough... Really tough.