How to know if a guy only wants to sleep with you?

[Anonymous]

I've told him from the very first day we met (at the club) that I dont do hookups. And he would say something like "yea i wouldve gone with another girl if I wanted to hookup".

We've gone on two dates which both ended up being late at night. (A part of it is my fault since we keep waiting for each other's text). The first date, we just talked and he didn't really try to make a move aside from hugging me for a few seconds. The second date, we ended up making out and he tried to unbutton my pants. So i said something like "i thought no hookups?" And he said that he wasn't thinking of it but now he's in the mood (because we were making out).

I firmly said no and we just went back to making out. Then he asked me if i would be open to sex if we were to be in a relationship and i told him maybe in 5-10 years. (Which i didn't mean i was just testing him). He laughed and asked me if i was serious and i said yes. Then he told me "guess my left hand's gonna suffer" something like that and i laughed and said "yeah it would suffer for a while"

He told me he was really having a hard time (from holding it in) and i began teasing him saying i would stay with him for another half an hour to see how far his patience can go and yea nothing happened aside from making out.

He brought me home and we kissed for a few secs and then he said he was going on a holiday for a week and wanted me to come with him. He suggested i can ask my friends to come and that accommodation was taken care of. He said if i dont end up coming, he'll just see me before he leaves.

What confuses me is he never really texted me unless we were making plans on meeting. He replies fast, yes. But thats the only time we'd text. We both agreed we're not into texting but i feel like he should at least text me once in a while to know what im up to if im alive or what lol.

So he's not texting, tried once to have sex with me. Is he interested in dating or just wanna sleep with me?

[RemoErdosain]

He gives me the idea that he likes a challenge, finds you hot, and will say anything to get laid, including that he isn't after getting laid (which, from what girls say all the time, seems to be a common line of those who only want to get laid). Now maybe you should tell him about the texting, since he might be taking it too serious that you don't like texts, and that could be a reason why he never does it. Don't give in to this one easily, though, and keep him in check. It does look like he's after sex

[RemoErdosain]

Also, make him wear a condom. This guy's game seems to be well practiced, so he must've fucked a bunch of girls in the past

[Asker]

He won't need to wear a condom coz I know myself and im good at self control lol. He said he's gonna see me before his holiday, if he asks me out at night again then heck im not going and ill just tell him straight up that he probs think of me as his hookup girl lol. Ill post an update and hope you guys will give me some of your wisdom😂😂

[RemoErdosain]

I wouldn't bring the "hookup girl" thing into the conversation. Just tell him no, and see how he reacts. The less suspecting he sees you, the more you'll be able to tell about his actual behavior. Otherwise, he'll be too wary when you open up like that.

[Asker]

But if he asks me why I dont wanna go? Should I tell him straight up that I dont wanna go at night?

[RemoErdosain]

Yes, be straight up about it if he asks. Say that you don't feel comfortable meeting at night

[RemoErdosain]

Thanks for MHO!

[limitedstuff]

I think he wants sex. If he wanted to be with you and not start off for a hook up he would text more often. You can't get into a relationship without communication

[Anonymous]

Does he make plans with you in advance? By your description, it sounds like everything is always last minute.

Either way, I think he just wants sex and will tell you anything to get you to sleep with him. I also think he invited you on this week-long trip because he probably thinks you'll sleep with him if you're staying in the same hotel.

[Asker]

The first time we met he asked me to go dinner with him and then when the day came, we were waiting for each other's text and at around 8pm he texted "what happened to dinner" and i just told him that i thought something came up so i assumed we werent going. I asked if he was still keen and he said he was with family and that he could see me a few hours after. So thats how we ended up late.

The second time, i decided to ask him first coz i felt like i played it too cool and mightve given him the impression that i wasn't interested. When the day came, i didn't text him until around 7pm coz i was feeling lazy (it was so cold that day lol) we ended up meeting late at night because he was with family. I decided to hang with my friends while waiting. Then He picked me up from where my friends and I were hanging out at 12midnight

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, sorry to say, but I think he just wants sex. A guy who is interested in dating you will make plans in advance and won't leave things so last minute. He would've confirmed plans with you ahead of time.

[hellish-kitty]

You should have a clear conversation with him about his intents and your intents.

[hellish-kitty]

Thank you!

[tzdc21]

Well... you do realize that when you're dating someone you also wanna have sex with them... right? I mean come on now, of course he wants to sleep with you. Because he finds you attractive. What did you think he was gonna be repulsed or never bring up the idea of sex with you?