I used to have an “on and off” friend with benefits for about 2 years. However, I’ve decided that I want something more, so I told him that and stopped talking to him (this was about 10 months ago). My friends with benefits told me that he was looking to have a girl by his side, so I started talking to him again. However, I made it very clear that I’m looking for a relationship, nothing less. So no sex until we really get to know each other. He thinks that since we’ve already had sex before, that we can continue having sex while getting to know each other. But I disagree (and I told him that I disagreed) because I feel like he’s just going to get sex from me and I won’t get anything in return. Then he suggested that we just cuddle and watch movies, but cuddling leads to sex, so... in my opinion, if a guy wanted to get to know me better, he’d want to spend time with me before 10pm, and he’d want to do more than just cuddle, right?