How do I know if a guy is into me or if he just wants to sleep with me?

[Anonymous]

We’ve been talking for a few weeks - neither have mentioned necessarily a date or anything (only like possible hangouts) but we’ve talked a little dirty here and there. I’m just not really the type to sleep around (though I fully support expressing yourself sexually as you desire!! all the power to ya!) so like I don’t want to risk it. From the men on here, how would I know? He does talk to me and tells me about his interests, we share stuff about ourselves but never super deep (we are getting there though). How will I know or what are some signs? Feel free to ask me what you need to lol

Updates

+1 y

Update is that we have a coffee date on Tuesday.

[motownplayer2000]

You don't. What you can do is make sure you make your stance clear from the start... I feel like its more leading someone on, when you encourage sexual talk/dirty talk and sexting... but you wouldn't sleep with him. So what you need to do is make it painfully clear that you aren't into sleeping around with anyone unless in a relationship. If he stops talking too you, that's when you know definitively.

[coolbreeze]

It's hard to tell. If a guy talks about sex a lot then you know what he wants. Some guys might wine and dine a girl and when they have sex he might ghost her or vanish. If a guy likes you he will wait as long as you want to wait to have sex. Some girls wait 3-6 months before having sex with a guy they are dating. Others might sooner. It depends on chemistry and connection

[laurieluvsit]

By telling him he can't sleep with you.

If he sticks around, then you will know... lol

[laurieluvsit]

Thank you for MHG Ms Bribree, you are so sweet :)

[ecfresh]

Does he talk about his future? What are his long term goals and how would you fit in? If he’s all about the sex he will talk present day. If he’s planning to build a relationship he will start to talk about the future and ask you what your dreams are to see if they match

[whitehide]

Does he show more interest in your personality or your looks?

[Asker]

Both? I mean - he’s a young male. They’re all horny. In his defense, I usually start any type of flirting flirting. But, we’ve been talking for a few weeks weeks and we do talk about ourselves and who we are. Pretty sure he likes me though because we have a sort of coffee dates next Tuesday lol

[whitehide]

It might seem a little weird, but have you asked him if he just wants sex or if he wants something more?

[whitehide]

Just follow your gut, I'm sure you'll be fine 😊

[LiamSawyer]

Well if he just wants to be in you that's his main interest if he's into who you are etc... he is then more likely to be interested in you!

[COMMODOREII]

The interests are a start especially if it's more than just sexual desire.

[chriscdi]

if you see no interest of being in anything serious but see more sexual intentions then its a possibility he is going for spreading your legs, not mentioning a date isn't a good sign

[Guanfei]

Don't sleep with him for a month or two. If he stays, he's probably interested.

[Sambobelfast226]

Make him wait for sex then if he doesn't stick around then you will know. Maybe foreplay for now but not sex.

[Surely]

That would be for him to know and you to find out.
Keep seeing him, with your values, if you are interested and see where it goes.

[spartan55]

Maybe he wants to do both.

[spartan55]

Coffee? Omg what are you going to wear? 😂☕