Can someone's personality make them physically look less or more attractive to you?

[MCheetah]

I hear this differs between men and women and is mostly a female-thing. Women tend to see some guys they think have a great personality as physically more attractive looking or hotter, or some guys with a crappy personality as looking less attractive or uglier on the outside. How does this work for you?

Yes; someone's personality can make them look more/less attractive to me.

No; I tend to completely separate people's looks from their personalities.

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+1 y

I personally do not equate personality to looks. I can see Kim K as super-hot on the outside, but would never want to hear her talk. Or I can not find Anna K pretty looking by my standards, but fall in love with her personality and how she acts.

[ShyKI]

Back in highschool there was group counseling meetings based off your gender that were absolutely mandatory. The sessions were about 2 weeks but a lot went on. It was made to be a safe space to talk about sexual relationships, depression, insecurities, etc. Yaknow, basically all the "untalkable" stuff. I remember my first day.. I had laid eyes on a girl that was unbelievably gorgeous for no reason. She just had a great everything. I was soo set on becoming her friend. It was when she opened her mouth that I learnt it only took mere seconds for treasure to become trash. Still to this day talking about her makes me wanna staple her tongue to her forehead. I'm telling you, this female in particular spoke about others with soo much hatred and disapprovement in her heart. There wasn't a single positive bone in her body. She told secrets about other people throughout the school who trusted her.. without even being asked to. She even had the audacity to harshly judge and question others insecurities when they were asked to speak about it in the sessions. She went from an 11/10 to a smooth 1/10 that same day I met her. So yeah, personality is huuuuuge. 💁🏽‍♀️

[Secret6620]

Personality is everything thing to me... It's how I base my attraction... A great and honest personality is sexy... And I believe it does effect attractive levels for myself personally... Thanks for the invite

[Secret6620]

YAY 🙋 Thanks for most helpful girl 🦋

[hellionthesagereborn]

Yes. Now I don't think its as what you think it is however. I mean I can sit their and look at a woman and state that she is objectively attractive but for me she will always look unattractive if that makes sense. Its more like the brain highlights the negatives while if you like them you look through the negatives. So its not like they turn into the most ugly person ever or anything, but you just notice traits that you don't like more and you can never really see them in a sexual way.

[MCheetah]

But that's exactly what I mean. I am asking if people SEE others as being "more attractive" or "less attractive" based on their personality (like their beauty fades in their brain or they look ugly to them now if they have a bad personality). The opposite would be being able to see someone as beautiful on the outside, but ugly on the inside (but still acknowledge they are someone you would have sex with if their personalities weren't crap).

So, in other words, is inner beauty reflect through people's physical appearances? Yes or no? For me, it is not. I've even dated girls before who I loved the company of but would still think of as 'pretty ugly.'

[hellionthesagereborn]

Well based upon your definition, yes but again, not to the extent where they are completely morphing into some hideous creature when they act like a bitch. Its not an extreme thing but it is noticible.

[chihuahua011]

Yes! At first an average looking girl could turn into the prettiest thing ever if her personality just clicks with me.

[bigmisssunshine]

I don’t base my attraction to someone on appearance. I don’t feel physical attraction to anyone. So when I’m in love it’s because I love the personality of the person. So yes, the personality is the dealmaker or deal breaker for me

[MCheetah]

Does that mean you would date anyone, regardless of their looks (under six feet, ugly face, overweight, etc) if they had a perfectly compatible personality that matched what you're looking for?

Doesn't that have one of these new "sexual" names for them? ("Demisexual"?) Is that you?

[bigmisssunshine]

Yes, I’m demisexual.

[ShyKI]

Demisexual squaaaaad 😚💕

[bigmisssunshine]

Yessss 😍😍😍

[KaylaJoy]

Yes. There’s guys who became a lot more physically attractive to me due to their stellar personalities. There’s also guys who I thought were attractive until I discovered there horrible personality, which made me think they were kind of ugly.

[Flower7]

Yes, a person can definitely become more attractive to me if they have a great personality, or less attractive if they are arrogant or have other traits that I don't like.

[MissDawn7961]

if someone is mean then it can show on their face and eyes too ! do not ask me how but some ones personality can show up on their face ! thanks

[Regmorus]

Less - absolutely. More I am not sure, but there was some case about when I think now exactly this might have happened.

[Dchrls78104]

Certainly true, for me. Inner beauty---and ugliness---can radiate to the outside.

[scarlett774]

Yess if you have an attractive personality, you’ll automatically be more attractive to me.

[NatalieKeller95]

good looking and good personality exists, it's more common than you would think, sure the rotten type people are numerous, but the attractive, with good personality have quite common as well,

[Anonymous]

Yes - attractiveness doesn’t equal physical looks (“body” characteristics)... the mind, soul, and spirit is in the mix too

[Don-_-Don]

Someone's "personality" can't make them "physically" more attractive if that's what you're asking.

[Anonymous]

happens all the time.

a guy looks dumb and below average at first sight and then when you get to know him he feels very attractive

[Massageman]

Yes. Especially in their eyes and the way that they carry their bosy/posture.

[Liam_Hayden]

A 10 who's a b*tch is a 2. A 4 who's a sweetheart is an 8.

[OddBeMe]

Of course. Personality is arguably more attractive than looks. As far as %.

[JosyJosy]

For sure! That's the real gem!

[NorthShoreCalling]

Yes 100% it does

[userYUI]

Yups, thats what happened to me.

[ItsTheNephilim]

Oh yes definitely!

[lanadelrey25]

a little I guess

[Soleful-b3ing]

Yes by far

[Joker_]

Not really

[CT_CD]

No..