I like a 15 year old and im 21 am I a pedophile?

[Anonymous]

[RiJox]

I don’t think you are a pedophile. Pedophilia means using kids, teenagers for pleasure. You are just 6 years older than the girl you are into.


You are so young, you just got out of puberty yourself 😂😂 that’s why 15 year olds might be targets you are used to being into. (You were used to seeing girls like that growing up).


Now you are 21, are you afraid to step up your game and get with a real woman?
Wouldn’t sleep with an experienced woman be more rewarding? A 15 year old can barely do shit, no experience in the bedroom. just a lot of fear, insecurity and confusion.



Just ask yourself those questions, this word “pedophilia” is very strong and negative. You don’t have to label yourself something like that. You can have fantasies and desires but when acted upon gracefully (not forcefully) you will have a good time.


I think a man becomes a pedophine if he is 25 and dates a 15 year old. That’s 10 years difference. Or 35 with a 15 year old. That’s whole 20 years...


Take it easy ✌🏾

[mindNsoul]

If a man was asking this the comment section will be a lot more different. Irony and hypocrisy at its finest.

As for your question, attracted or not and weather he looks older on not. He is stilll a minor and his brain is not fully developed. He is not even trusted to vote, drink, drive or whatever adults do. Unlike you. So you two are not a match and also listen to this news flash.. it is ILLIGAL even if you are a woman.

The fact that you are even asking this here makes me cringe.

[Regmorus]

I don't know what people label it, but it's simple biology. If they look not like child but like a man, it's completely normal to be attracted to them. Part of your brain knows their age, parts that are attracted do not.

No idea why even ask such questions, it's kinda trivial. Demonize any inappropriate actions toward teenagers is understandable. But demonize attraction per se is retarded.

I am not even sure if attraction to children that can be observed by some men is unnatural. History of humanity shows that it isn't I guess. But I never read studies about that and hence I can't argue about the topic.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I think you should not have sex with him and also you shouldn't call yourself a pedophile cause that would be someone age 21, trying to date an 8-10-year-old kid you might want get legal advice on this matter. . If his parents got something legal written up that you two can date it might be fine. I knew a Woman signed her 16-year-old daughter over to this 39-year-old guy and he became his legal guardian but before they could get married and have sex, he signed for her to marry him and they had a baby but the relationship didn't work.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for most helpful guy :)

[Shamalien]

If we reversed genders most people would say yeah. I do make a distinction between people attracted to young men / women vs children. As long as you are attracted to someone who has hit puberty it’s not pedophilia in my opinion, but it’s still not a great idea. It can get u in a lot of trouble and 15 years old is fucking stupid he isn’t responsible enough to make this decision. Back in the day parents would marry off their 13 year old daughters but the parents know what traits to look for, the kid doesn’t.

so technically no but don’t pursue this, it’s a bad idea

[Godofmyownwurld]

Pretty sure pedophile is someone who is atracted to actual children. Like 8 year olds not mid to late teens.

Its still not legal for good reason and you should go find someone closer to your age but I dont think its something you need to be in a psych ward for.

[Anonymous]

It all gets too complicated. Sexual attraction is based on sexual reproduction. From a biological standpoint the moment you are able to reproduce you'll be physically attractive. In the past people would marry around 14. In the ancient middle east women would be 12-14 and men 28-30 or older. There is still a point about being societally ready and mentally ready for marriage. Most don't reach that point until around 26, but physically happens from puberty. A person that age isn't ready for that in our current society, but biologically they are. So biologically it is understandable and expected, but mentally they aren't ready and it is best you avoid like the plaque. You'll find pheromonal attraction in our age group.

[SirrVeta]

I personally dont think this makes you a pedophile, as long as this was a one time thing. If you have never loved someone that age before then you should be okay, and being honest you are not that old yourself. I believe that you need to be a bit older yourself to be a pedophile and if you want to continue on this you do need to ask yourself, do you like the age or the person!

[Anonymous]

That makes you a creep. You are 21 years old and that boy is 15. You know for a fact that that boy is in no way mature enough to actually think logically. You're a sick fuck. 16yo is the age of consent. You will go to jail and a part of me hopes you do. If my son ever tells me that some nasty 21yo is hitting on him at 15, you bet your sweet ass I would track you down and give you an ass whooping that your parents should have given you.

[Bratsondanielle]

Not pedophile but it's definitely illegal. Be very very sure you both agree and concent to whatever you do. Age gap occurs.. my boyfriend is older than me but I'm above 18 so at least it ain't illegal. Good luck

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I don't know what to think

[Dinosaursandanime65]

... here's a tip. Know what you're doing

[modelUN242]

Wait until he’s 19-20 or at least knows what he wants in a relationship. You’re older than him so you have a leg up and more life experience which might be unfair to him?

[Kaneki05]

Well no pedo is for pubescent kids. But would be a edo into a minor. If you don't act on it tho your all good because it shows will power to not just be a person who would.

[silvermoon84]

Not sure that makes you a pedophile but it is illegal. I suggest you find someone your age, or at least 18.

[douride2]

All I know for sure is if a 21 year old guy was into a 15 year old girl he would be in deep trouble around here. Same applies the other way I would think.

[ILoveAnime]

That's defenitly something you shouldn't pursue. They are too young.

[007kingifrit]

pedophilia is defined as an attraction to prepubescence. if he has gone through puberty you are not a pedophile

you are however just a little bit weird

[amputeegirl]

Yes, 15 is below the age of consent no matter where you live.

The more appropriate word is hebephile as a pedophile is a person that is attracted to prepubescent children.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Its do weird to call a guy in his 20s a pedo.
I the USA thats more strict, in some states there people would shoot you for that.
In Europe its not seen as bad

[Quidthonian]

He is below the age of concent, so I would say yes.

[genericname85]

no, you're a hebephile. pedophilia means likeing "prebubescent" children.

[Quackthulu]

Yup, if you were a guy I would tell you to slam your dick between a few rocks. But I guess you would have to prolapse your vagina first.

[Asker]

Im not planning to date him till he's older if it even happens so calm down. We've known each other 7 Years almost 8.

[Quackthulu]

That doesn't make it better. It is astonishing how far pedophiles will always go to justify their delusions.

[worldscolide]

Not a pedo, but still very wrong.. Reverse the genders and people would be all over you..

[Schizoaffective]

Yes an adult attracted to a pubescent is labelled as pedo