Why do guys not date a girl because they’re a virgin even if they like you?

[Anonymous]

My guy friend and I finally had a talk about us and our feelings for each other. As we discussed and talked about our feelings for each other past and present I had him revisit something that happened a year ago and he ended up talking to my other guy friends about this. He told me that he liked me and contemplated dating me numerous times, but I tried kissing him and he rejected it because he liked me at the time and knew if we kissed drunk things couldn’t go as far as he wanted it to with the fact of him knowing that I’m a virgin and haven’t done anything of kissed anybody. Because of me being a virgin and not being able to give him what he wants sexually is why he practically never asked me out or told me how he felt about me. And this seems to be a pattern with some guys I know where they won’t date me because they know that I’m a virgin and I wanted to know why guys don’t date girls who are virgins?

[btbc92]

As a virgin myself allow me to just say this. Somebody like that sounds more authentic than a lot of other guys out here. He made it very clear to you that you and him are not compatible. So the fact that you're even trying to force compatibility with him shows that not only do you not love yourself but that you're also causing problems in your relationships with other people. They are the ones that made that decision to lose their virginity. They are the ones that decided to sleep with whoever they choose to sleep with. You are not obligated to have sex with them. But at the same time he made it very clear that for him he desires to have sex with whoever he wants to have sex with. And because you made it known that you are not one to give him what he wants. He's not going to pursue something that isn't going to benefit him. At least he's honest. At much as it hurts it is better for him to tell you the truth. Then for him to lie and take advantage of you and then you really feel like you've been used.

Have some respect not only for yourself but for him. Because now is less to do about you being a virgin but the simple fact that you're desperate and that you don't love yourself. And that's an even bigger red flag. Because he don't want to be responsible for your hurt feelings or are the problems that only you can personally fix.

[Larson7]

Please don't freak out on me this is just who I am and I'm not acting and I don't even talk to anybody. If I ever Act you guys can build a Gallows and get some rope and wall weather app get thrown into hell really fast. But in a weird mine about disgusting filthy pedophile that refuses to ever touch anyone I could imagine maybe meeting that one out of a thousand persons. What's wrong and that I could actually think I'd be happy with. Even though I wouldn't be able to touch them or now this is would never happen I need to stop pretending Teriyaki never do that somebody's parents. Nor could I be beside someone like that too much I just want normal cell and I'm not kidding if anybody wants to figure out a way to have my foot until jail or prison why did you do that by my own Stan standards. I'm getting tired that no one will actually take me up on this offer periods where it's where pedophiles should be and I've been out here too long. Kind of sucks not even be able to get your crime before you get put in there punishment hole. I might rethink this whole thing I'm sorry you guys I'm at I'm going to have to rethink this so somebody better decide to spend some time making sure that I get put in a cell. Imma go cry Mike for the person that's not going to put me I'd love so much to be able to do the things I want to do just one time. That's enough to get somebody so riled up right now and it there. I came inside the things that I want to say. United States needs to have caning for people who do what I'm doing who said here and think about it and make any comments about it Somebody get a whip or something some kind of instrument of torture if you're pissed off at what I'm saying that's what I'm offering and nightmare but I can go back and erase this shit I'm going to get off here I've got something I need

[caring__1]

There are guys who want a relationship and guys who want a sexual conquest. For those focused on sex, being with a virgin reduces their likelihood of getting what they want, so they avoid those opportunities. It's not a loss for you, as they aren't ready or mature enough to understand the value of a relationship versus the momentary pleasure they can get from sex. Would you truly prefer being in a relationship with someone who only cares about what he can get from you rather than someone who truly cares about your feelings? Never assume guys will change. They aren't lumps of clay to be molded, no matter how often you hear about the woman who made the man. Find someone who already is the type of person you want to be with, looking at the whole package rather than bits and pieces.

[virgin20]

I would prefer if a girl was a virgin so we could experience the first time together and like we can improve each other.
He sounds like a dick and you should stay away if he's viewing you like that.
But virgin or not if there's a connection I'd pursue it

[shanshu]

Sounds to me like at the time your friend didn't want to take advantage while you were in a drunk state especially while you were a virgin. Not just because you were just a virgin.

If you want to lose your virginity to him make sure your in a sober state. Also remember that usually first times are not that great and maybe that's another thing, he's afraid he won't be good for your first time.

Me I'm alright with virgins

[Bandit74]

My guess would be they are impatient for sex and/or assume you won't have a high sex drive or be fun in bed.

Rejecting a girl for being a virgin is rejecting them for a temporary state. A girl who is a virgin can always gain experience and become more comfortable in the bedroom and I'd find it more appealing for her to have gained that experience with me rather than with other men.

[DavidFox]

Because you have made it known that you want to be a virgin till marriage. So guys can be friends but they can’t kiss you.


Does that make sense?

[Stunt]

I know guys who hated virgins... They wanted an experienced girl to rockbtheir world.

I, on the other hand, have always preferred virgins because I like teaching.

Guys have tgeir preferences, just as girls do.

[Anonymous]

They probably think or know it means they'll get no sex. Some people want someone that has some experience as well. Kind of like a job lol, some will hire you with no experience, but most places what it.

[Skankhunt]

I would date a girl who is virgin. I respect them. They have self respect. I would wait when she is ready to lose her virginity.

[Anonymous]

Waste of time-and even if she puts out she's inexperienced and not that good-and they get clingy afterwards

[dragoblack]

Many virgins tend to be super clingy after they lose it, and those who are only in it for sex tend to want a woman with experience

[zagor]

I think you need to change that to "Why does this guy..."

[Anonymous]

A guy who won’t date a virgin is a lesser man doing a good thing. Guys who won't date virgins want quick sex and don’t wanna waste time with all the emotional stuff. He is doing a kind thing by sparing you the heartbreak.

[Dave31989]

Aren't you just proving then that guys and girls can't be "just friends"

[TallAnon]

I would, but you wouldn't be a virgin for long, just saying.

[dudeinohio]

Virgins dont give sex. Sex is vital. to a relationship. As such, they are undesirable.

[Anonymous]

I really don't understand why someone would do that. Be confident and not desperate. Guys don't like that. Make him chase after you.

[Anonymous]

guys are bad

[Anonymous]

I would date you because you are a virgin.

[Anonymous]

Virginity is no issue.