Why do guys like virgins so much?

[hummngbrd]

Most boys seems to demand virgins. I am in a relationship now and last night when we were together he told me that he loves me so much because i am a virgin. Why do guys like virgins?

[OpenClose]

At 17, it is a much bigger deal than at 24/25 like I am.

The popular conception is that guys like virgins because they hate women's sexuality or sexual energy. I call bull on that.

I used to have a lot of discomfort with being with a non-virgin or realizing a girl I like isn't a virgin. It is toned down a lot, but it is still present. I've taken the time to really analyze what really zaps my nerves about it, and I think I found out what it is: It isn't female sexuality I dislike, it is MALE sexuality I dislike.

I dated a girl who had a 4-some with all girls, and slept with many girls before me.

I. Didn't. Flinch.

Then she told some story about giving a guy head. And behold, there it is. That gut-wrenching feeling. The same feeling you get when you realized you really screwed something up, like a cop showing up to a party. Like parents discovering your sex toys. You can't get that image out of your head.

Yet it didn't really bother me to hear her stories of kinky BDSM, when she was with all girls.

Something about the sexuality of other men really sets me off. Currently, I am trying to find out if it is cultural, biological, or and episodic response to some past experience. Or maybe it is just because I myself am a virgin.

My studies have pointed to it being mostly cultural or episodic. Homo Sapiens Sapiens have been around for 200,000 years, and both men AND women had multiple partners for most of that time. In fact, women being sexually independent was a big deal in them being equal amongst hunter-gatherers. They say jealousy is still there. A relic of a more violent past. But that it is way toned down in humans.

So I myself PREFER virgins, but I'm not going to get up in arms about a girl who isn't a virgin. That's simply an unfair expectation at my age.

[Riggers]

Yo, Whats with girls having an experience with 1 guy, And just automatically assuming every single guy is like that.

Tbh, Most guys literally do not give a single fuck, Those that do are probably religious or some shit. Infact, I specifically recall a conversation with the lads from my college course, During which many actually stated they preffered Non-V Girl's because, As he said ''Taking a girls V is horrible, You're so worried you're going to hurt her the hole time and neither of you enjoys it''

[Anonymous]

I too am a virgin at 22 years old and I am currently in my first relationship. I've held it off for so long in fear really that I'm not good enough for anyone. My guy has told me he'll wait and three months later he's still here. When I told him he told me it was perfect and that his friends always brag that their perfect girl would be a virgin. When I asked him why he said because you're theirs. You haven't been with anybody else and so they don't need to picture you with anyone but them. He said it was nice for him because it shows I must like him a lot to want him to eventually take mine. It's an ego boost yes, but it also has a feel of innocence. Also, he's no fear that you'll compare him to other guys, which guys hate the most. He'll be your first. You're pure.

[Anonymous]

I don't know, I am not a man. But this discussion was brought up before with some friends. We thought maybe the guys that are more of the "virgin hunter" type like them because no other man has been with the woman. Even if a woman had only one sexual partner, didn't get pregnant or contract an STD, they were still deemed undesirable. Why? I'm not sure. Maybe it stems from their own insecurities. Or they have this ideal partner in mind and just really want that. Their loss for passing up some women that might make a good partner.

[crazywaves28]

It makes him feel like I'm gonna be her first to ever do it with and he feels proud just an ego thing men have these days.

[Exmorted]

When I was younger, I too was pretty fascinated by the idea of having sex with virgins, but I quickly grew out of it.

It stems from wanting to feel special, to be bestowed the honour of a girl thinking you to be the right person to give their virginity to.
If a girl I'm with is a virgin, it signifies that she thinks I'm special enough to be her first, that she trusts me to do it right the first time and not give her a bad impression of how sex is.
I think that's what draws guys to virgins (plus, there are some guys who are just like "I don't want anything but virgins because I don't want to be compared to other guys or I'm insecure because she might have had better sex than that which I can give"

I personally don't really care if the person is a virgin or not, all that I care about is that she wants to be with me, enjoys sex and has the guts to express that.

I like to compare it to boobs... I don't care if you're an A cup or an I cup, as long as you've got the desire and courage to show off yourself, then the technicalities of amount of partners or boob-size is irrelevant to me.

[ManOnFire]

It really doesn't matter to me if she is one or not. I'm getting to the point of letting go of the mindset that a virgin is a squeamish, inexperienced nightmare and a girl who's slept around knows exactly what to do. That's really not so true for either.

[Papier]

There is a certain beauty non-virgins don't have. This purity which is really cute.

But on the other hand there are other benefits of being a non-virgin.

Everyone has his own opinion on this, but in my opinion; purity = cute. Doesn't mean someone is less cute without that trait.

[Felinegirl]

And after they slept with you, would you find them less cute?

[Papier]

@Felinegirl Well if it's with me no, other people may find that less cute then.

[ElissaDido]

I think only traditional and/or religious and/or conservative and/or virgin guys care tbh. The others usually don't care as long as she doesn't sleep around, and many even prefer experienced girls.

[Under_The_Sun]

That's what it is.

[singlebee]

Yeaa right!

[BertMacklinFBI]

its just the guy you're with, i personally couldn't give a fuck.

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[DruBiEN]

hahahahahahahahaha that picture xD

[BertMacklinFBI]

@DruBiEN lol XD

[abramsdriver25]

I think its because of the innocence they posses. It can be an ego boost knowing you were her first. In years past though, it was the only way of truly knowing how to map out bloodlines for inheritance. There were no DNA tests so the only way to know if a child was really yours was to marry a virgin and get her pregnant since only the first born male could inherit. It may also be a hold over socially from that mindset.

[Intraluminal]

It's largely cultural, but also some guys are afraid that they can't "measure up" so they want girls who won't know how small the guy is because they have nothing to compare him to. If he is the worst lover in the world, how will you ever know?

[serious]

Well, that's because it gives them a sense of security and also makes them believe that a woman who is a virgin will surely be faithful to them in the long run, hence is highly unlikely to cheat!!

[Felinegirl]

Why would that be true? When I was with my first boyfriend, although I loved him very much, the thought that if we stayed together Id never know how it was with others crossed my mind a lot. I didn't cheat because, well, I don't cheat, but say we'd stayed together forever, I would have wanted to experiment a bit.

Now that I have had my experiments, Id be fine with staying with my next boyfriend forever without ever having anyone else.

[serious]

@Felinegirl.

Why would that be true?

Well, that's really a belief, a perception and that is subjective to a guy.

[Anilkumar11]

I like virgin because I am virgin. So for me yes virgin is best for me. I am still pure. I don't like non virgin I hate girls like this. Even I have LDR she is not virgin she did 2. time or more which I don't know but I left that fucking bitch

[crissyita]

Well... first of all no one has ever had sex with you... then you are more tight

[joeb73]

What isn't there to like about them , they are attached to the person we love or attracted to

[Anonymous]

Guys want to feel like you choosing to have sex with them was a big deal, and that for you, sex with them is the most intense sexual experience of your life.

[Anonymous]

It's all to do with the thought of being someone's first. Guys enjoy knowing they were the first 2 sleep with you

[This_is_my_username]

uhhh so many guys are going to contradict this statement you made.

[pavlove]

it's hot like being blonde for being seen as pure just like danger is seen as a sexy trait in men to most men

[Anonymous]

Because we love a girl who is pure.. And had not had 20 chicks in her vagina... We respect a girl like that more than any girl and would love to settle down with a girl like that

[Opinion Owner]

Also you are marriage material.. Now

[GreatnessRevamped]

At your age, you should be a virgin.
Study your school work.

[sp33d]

Who said I do? A woman that hasn't had sex before needs a lot more work.

[Heyoisme]

Maybe becouse he is the first person to make you come and make you happy?😇

[fiodor99]

scared or religious boys do. i like my sluts. if she doesn know how to ride that stick or how to blow the popsicle i'm not interested.