Why is it so bad to want a virgin wife?

[Anonymous]

First off let me say, yes. I'm a virgin. But what I want to know is, why is it that when any man says he wants to marry a virgin, he suddenly comes under attack by everyone? The word most people, especially women, call him is a hypocrite. Why?

Is it any different from a tall man only wanting really short girls?
A black guy only wanting to marry a white woman?
A skinny guy only wanting to marry a fat girl?
A sad guy wanting to marry a happy girl?

Why is it so bad for a man to only want to marry a virgin woman? Is he not allowed to have his own sexual preference? Why do so many people get angry when a guy says he only wants a virgin bride, even if the man himself is not a virgin? Why does it bother people so much?

[karahiri]

You can say whatever you want. People get mad about some of the other preferences you listed above too. Personally, I think it's hypocritical to have a whole bunch of sex and have fun but only want to get with a girl who hasn't had those experiences. If virginity is so special to you, can't you see why it might be special to her and why she wouldn't want a non-virgin? That's just one perspective I guess. Usually, the guys who seem intent on virgin girls seem to be really... controlling and a bit creepy. Whenever someone has a rigid preference, I think it's strange. Be it hair color, weight, body shape, race, whatever.

I don't think girls who are virgins only want to be sought after because of that one trait- but that's what guys who want virgins come off as. Like they're virgin-hunters. It's just creepy as hell.

[Asker]

So no one on earth is supposed to have a preference? And isn't it up to the virgin woman if she wants another virgin male or not? Why does it bother other people? And why is he controlling? Even guys who marry loose women can be just as controlling, if not more do to the loose girls past.

[karahiri]

... No. Have your preferences. Just don't expect people to agree with them. I shared one perspective with you- from what I've witnessed. I can't answer for the universe.

[Asker]

Still don't understand why it angers people so much when it doesn't affect their lives.

[karahiri]

Lol. Why do people get mad about gay marriage? Legalization of marijuana? Everyone's got an opinion.

[Asker]

Yeah. I guess you're right. But why are a lot of people open to gay marriage and love but seem to shame the whole virgin thing. You don't have to answer.

[karahiri]

Well, a lot of people are against gay marriage too. Just the way there are people out there who share your opinion. Stop worrying about it and just do you. lol.

[Asker]

Thanks for the opinion.

[violetts]

The problem is when guys start to think of other women as sluts and their virgin fiancées as perfect angels that can do no wrong. nothing is black and white like that, for example the world is full of girls (and guys) who have never actually had sexual intercourse, but have given oral or handjobs or that kind of thing. Do they count as sluts too? Or are they virgins in your mind? There's gray areas galore in this. Also, how will you know if your wife is sexually compatible with you if you've never had sex with her before marrying her? Will you be able to please her? Or will you just plow ahead, not worrying about that piece of it? I see a lot of Christian men especially want virgin wives, and it bothers me, no offense to you

[Jemy_101]

every one is entitled to their own opinion but we live in a society that judges everyone , a girl has sex she's considered a slut when she doesn't have sex she's considered a prude. I think it is hypocritical when a guy has sex all he wants but wants a virgin wife but you that's fine.

[Anonymous]

Realistically, does it matter that much? Of course you want a woman who hasn't been sleeping around, who is selective with men, and sleeps only in long-term relationships. If she is extremely good looking or extremely charming as a person and you have incredible chemistry, would you mind she lost her virginity to her long-term ex boyfriend... a guy like you, not a psychopath. Maybe you want a woman to be virgin to give her value she doesn't have. I'm not saying that she could be great as a virgin. But virginity is not the whole story. What if she is virgin because she has a very low libido. Wouldn't you mind having sex very rarely?

[jacquesvol]

Because you deny the girl sexual fun before meeting you.

[misscocobutter]

I don't think its a bad preference you are entitled to your opinion. Don't worry about what other people say it doesn't matter

[archiz]

first of all the comparisons you made are pointless and bound to criticism.
now as for a guy wanting to marry a virgin girl it's ok as long as he is virgin too.
if not yes he is an hypocrite