How Do I tell a White Boy I have preference for white men?

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I’m a black girl and I don’t want this to come off as a stupid question or me trying to put down black men cause that’s not the case. I’ve always had a preference for white boys or Asian boys. There’s this white guy at my job who knows me from school and he always asks me about my exes he thought I dated ; they’re always black men. I want to tell him that I’m not into black men but I don’t want to seem weird or that I’m hitting on him.

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Everyone keeps asking me am I interested. The guy has a girlfriend so that’s why I don’t want it to seem like I’m trying to get with him. I don’t like people to assume I’m only attracted to one type of men. But if I tell I’m attracted to white boys he’ll get the wrong idea. I’ve always been attracted to Asian and white men even when I was little.

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Nvm I’ll just tell him straight up “Hey look I’m open to dating everyone.” If he gets the wrong idea by me saying that then I don’t know what to tell him.

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kikino

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Race shouldn't matter how you feel or your preferred date. Thats your choice.
Just talk to him and take interest into the things he does or like. But you my ask if he wants to get coffee or lunch. He may play it off and not act on your subtle hints. Sometimes its better to just say what your thinking.

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GoodGuyBreakingBad | 5.6K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Just tell the Guy your preference is White Men but your not prejudice or judgmental this is your preference, Just like I have a preference for a girl who has a hairy vagina, I don't want to feel like I'm with a little girl?

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Lol I wasn’t expecting this type of reply but I’m glad to see people don’t care if women are hairy and thank you for you feedback.
GoodGuyBreakingBad

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Your welcome my friend, sorry for being blunt
GoodGuyBreakingBad

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Thanks For Most Helpful Guy :)

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Asker

Lol I wasn’t expecting this type of reply but I’m glad to see people don’t care if women are hairy and thank you for you feedback.

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GoodGuyBreakingBad

Your welcome my friend, sorry for being blunt

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GoodGuyBreakingBad

Thanks For Most Helpful Guy :)

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ririissleepy

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Well instead of saying that you have a preference for white man you could just say that you have never dated a black man. This way he knows they are not your exes but it doesn't sound like you are hitting in him.

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ririissleepy

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Well only if you actually never dated a black man. You shouldn't lie.
Asker

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I have dated one black guy in the past and that was it. This guy at work has seen me at school to know that but he brings up random people and they’re always black men. Maybe it’s normal to assume you’re preference is your own kind.
ririissleepy

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You can just say that you dont have a lot of experience with black guys and dont really gravitate towards them.
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magiusX26

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this sounds good
Asker

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Thank you for the feedback❤️
ririissleepy

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No problem

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ririissleepy

Well only if you actually never dated a black man. You shouldn't lie.

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Asker

I have dated one black guy in the past and that was it. This guy at work has seen me at school to know that but he brings up random people and they’re always black men. Maybe it’s normal to assume you’re preference is your own kind.

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ririissleepy

You can just say that you dont have a lot of experience with black guys and dont really gravitate towards them.

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magiusX26

this sounds good

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Asker

Thank you for the feedback❤️

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ririissleepy

No problem

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OldiebutaGoodie

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You like what you like, no need to apologize! I prefer "white boys" too. White men but that Jake from state farm has got my attention 😅

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I got called a racist because I prefer white men :/ I don’t know how I can be racist to black men if I’m a black woman. It’s just a preference and that’s not racist.
OldiebutaGoodie

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Its just silly people, wouldn't waste your time worrying about it.

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Asker

I got called a racist because I prefer white men :/ I don’t know how I can be racist to black men if I’m a black woman. It’s just a preference and that’s not racist.

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OldiebutaGoodie

Its just silly people, wouldn't waste your time worrying about it.

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Thatasianlove16 | 162 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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Not hard just when you see a white guy say you find him attractive of when the convo comes up again just tell him your dating history. He should be able to put two and two together. But I don’t get why your worried when you’re not interested in him

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A lot of the times in society it’s seen that black women don’t open their dating options which isn’t true. People just assume that black girls are only attracted to black men. Black men are shown to date any race but when it comes to black girls it’s seen that we only want black men. That’s why I asked but thanks for the feedback.
Thatasianlove16

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Girl I’m actually black trust me I know but I never found it hard. If black man can be assholes saying they prefer white girls because black girls are this that or the other we can just simply say I’m not into black dudes lol
Asker

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true. you’re right, I guess I have to learn to just say what’s on my mind.
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Thatasianlove16

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I have that problem with other things we just overthink things

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Asker

A lot of the times in society it’s seen that black women don’t open their dating options which isn’t true. People just assume that black girls are only attracted to black men. Black men are shown to date any race but when it comes to black girls it’s seen that we only want black men. That’s why I asked but thanks for the feedback.

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Thatasianlove16

Girl I’m actually black trust me I know but I never found it hard. If black man can be assholes saying they prefer white girls because black girls are this that or the other we can just simply say I’m not into black dudes lol

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Asker

true. you’re right, I guess I have to learn to just say what’s on my mind.

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Thatasianlove16

I have that problem with other things we just overthink things

Answer 21

Reaperbot666

Guru

you like what you like. noting wrong with that. I mean were all humans after all regardless of skin color, ethnic group or nationality.

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Asker

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thank you for understanding. i don’t think people realize that having a preference is not racist. i don’t tell people they’re racist if they don’t prefer black girls, it’s their preference.
Reaperbot666

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I'm a white guy who likes girls of all colors prefer darker skin tones to some degree.

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Asker

thank you for understanding. i don’t think people realize that having a preference is not racist. i don’t tell people they’re racist if they don’t prefer black girls, it’s their preference.

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Reaperbot666

I'm a white guy who likes girls of all colors prefer darker skin tones to some degree.

Answer 24

Wedimir

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You can not tell him directly and hint, indirectly, through, for example, white actors, athletes, musicians. If he is not a fool, he will draw the right conclusions)

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Bananaman177

Guru

Tell him you like your men like you like your coffee, light and sweet with lots of cream.

I don't know why, but people understand racial preferences if you compare it to how you like coffee. Like with ANYTHING ELSE there could be a misunderstanding, but with coffee, everybody gets exactly what you mean and no feelings get hurt.

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Footballplayz

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Okay so I have the same issue here. It's not that I'm racist but I have a preference for native girls. I am Métis but look white. Honestly I suggest you just put it out there but say you have no issue with the race or the colour of their skin it's just a preference.

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thatgirlinlove

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Invite him, buy him a beer and kiss him, he would know.
Sometimes women need to take the lead or at least provide some hints

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Lol I can’t buy him beer I’m only 19 but I could throw hints.

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Asker

Lol I can’t buy him beer I’m only 19 but I could throw hints.

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Avicenna | 11.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

You came up with the right solution. That’s what I tell women- that I’m open to all races and ethnicities.

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lanadelrey25

Yoda

Why don't' you want to hit on him? You like him don't you?

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I-have-a-biscuit | 202 opinions shared on Dating topic.

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>how do I let him know I'm into him without hitting on him

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Asker

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Shhh you’re too loud😂 most of the people he asks about are people I’ve never dated before. Makes me wonder are these people telling him they’ve dated me before.

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Asker

Shhh you’re too loud😂 most of the people he asks about are people I’ve never dated before. Makes me wonder are these people telling him they’ve dated me before.

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zagor | 8.8K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

I think your final paragraph is probably the best way to handle it.

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Alyssa11

Yoda

You don't really need to tell him this lol...

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jasco | 2K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Just go on a date with him, show interest and yea

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StickStickity13 | 3.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Just say it, nothing bad can come from it

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loveslongnails | 2.7K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Just tell him straight up. No games.

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Answer 38

Anonymous

Are you in love with him

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Answer 39

Anonymous

Stop using the term white boy for starters

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Asker

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Ok then what term should I use? :/
Opinion Owner

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white guy, white man, daddy, master
Asker

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ok... you had me until daddy and master. I’m not calling nobody my master.
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Opinion Owner

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LOL, ok fair enough
Asker

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😂😂