How Do I tell a White Boy I have preference for white men?

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I’m a black girl and I don’t want this to come off as a stupid question or me trying to put down black men cause that’s not the case. I’ve always had a preference for white boys or Asian boys. There’s this white guy at my job who knows me from school and he always asks me about my exes he thought I dated ; they’re always black men. I want to tell him that I’m not into black men but I don’t want to seem weird or that I’m hitting on him.

kikino · Accepted Answer

Race shouldn't matter how you feel or your preferred date. Thats your choice.
Just talk to him and take interest into the things he does or like. But you my ask if he wants to get coffee or lunch. He may play it off and not act on your subtle hints. Sometimes its better to just say what your thinking.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Accepted Answer

Just tell the Guy your preference is White Men but your not prejudice or judgmental this is your preference, Just like I have a preference for a girl who has a hairy vagina, I don't want to feel like I'm with a little girl?

ririissleepy · Accepted Answer

Well instead of saying that you have a preference for white man you could just say that you have never dated a black man. This way he knows they are not your exes but it doesn't sound like you are hitting in him.

OldiebutaGoodie · Accepted Answer

You like what you like, no need to apologize! I prefer "white boys" too. White men but that Jake from state farm has got my attention 😅

Reaperbot666 · Answer

you like what you like. noting wrong with that. I mean were all humans after all regardless of skin color, ethnic group or nationality.

Bananaman177 · Answer

Tell him you like your men like you like your coffee, light and sweet with lots of cream.

I don't know why, but people understand racial preferences if you compare it to how you like coffee. Like with ANYTHING ELSE there could be a misunderstanding, but with coffee, everybody gets exactly what you mean and no feelings get hurt.

Footballplayz · Answer

Okay so I have the same issue here. It's not that I'm racist but I have a preference for native girls. I am Métis but look white. Honestly I suggest you just put it out there but say you have no issue with the race or the colour of their skin it's just a preference.

Thatasianlove16 · Answer

Not hard just when you see a white guy say you find him attractive of when the convo comes up again just tell him your dating history. He should be able to put two and two together. But I don’t get why your worried when you’re not interested in him

Wedimir · Answer

You can not tell him directly and hint, indirectly, through, for example, white actors, athletes, musicians. If he is not a fool, he will draw the right conclusions)

thatgirlinlove · Answer

Invite him, buy him a beer and kiss him, he would know. Sometimes women need to take the lead or at least provide some hints

Avicenna · Answer

You came up with the right solution. That’s what I tell women- that I’m open to all races and ethnicities.

I-have-a-biscuit · Answer

>how do I let him know I'm into him without hitting on him

lanadelrey25 · Answer

Why don't' you want to hit on him? You like him don't you?

zagor · Answer

I think your final paragraph is probably the best way to handle it.

Alyssa11 · Answer

You don't really need to tell him this lol...

loveslongnails · Answer

Just tell him straight up. No games.

jasco · Answer

Just go on a date with him, show interest and yea

StickStickity13 · Answer

Just say it, nothing bad can come from it

Anonymous · Answer

Stop using the term white boy for starters

Anonymous · Answer

Just tell him you love the vanilla stick.

Anonymous · Answer

Are you in love with him

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