I’m a black young woman and I’ve always crushes on white men. Don’t get my wrong, I love my brothers and black men are sexy but I just find white men sexier. I know most people prefer to stick with their own race or approach a man of woman their own race but you don’t choose who you fall in love with. I’m also a tall girl so most guys don’t like bigger girls but most blacks or black Africans do. I get approached by a lot of black and black African men. Nothing wrong with that but I prefer white men but my parents told me I need to leave those white boys alone and they’re nothing but trouble. My dad said the white guys don’t want me and prefer white women. STICK WITH YOUR OWN KIND. Most of my family says I’m ashamed of my brothers and I’m not. It’s called a preference. I got rejected by five white boys. If course the personality is important but come on. I’m 5’10” and over 200 pounds (not telling your my weight). so I’m taller than most guys or same height so most guys my height or shorter approach me even though I prefer taller men. I gotta lose this weight so I can look goods. I’m wanna be fit and slimmer but keep my curves. No man wants a stick figure woman. How can I get my parents to understand that I have preferences and stop setting me up with only black guys?
I wouldn’t waste my time proving anything to my parents as an adult. They never had a say in my dating life and I married the Man I wanted who is nigerian and we’re happily married. I’m mixed raced myself. It’s their problem I was gonna do it either way.
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My ex wife was the same way but was slim and 5’8” so I was only a little taller but she looked good and I like slim women no matter the race, not all white guys will even try going out with a black girl because they don’t think they would like them, if you do slim down you will get more attention from white guys
Your parents have lots of prejudice and maybe even a little bit racist. Keep insisting on what you want and need.
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Your preference sounds like a fetish. You should talk to your family because they’re your family. They’ll tell you
I knew a girl in college who was black. Het father would not let her date anyone darker than she was. I guess everyone has their prejudices.
I would guess that a dating app would get some traction for you. Women do better in apps than guys do. You can mark your preferences there and see what happens. Just go out but go on dates.
I understand, I think a lot of people have preferences.
Maybe they're worried about white guys just fetishizing you. You'd know your family better than we would.
that’s something you’d have to ask them
Just go find a giant white guy
Racist upbringing, maybe.
you already the answer to that question
which continent are you Living in?
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