I really like this guy but told him I don't do premarital sex. He didn't bring up our first date after that. Any way to get his interest back?

[Anonymous]

[slatyb]

There almost certainly is not a way to get his interest back. You told him your position and it's a deal-breaker for him. You aren't going to change his mind. Even if you softened your position, he might not believe you. Or he could decide that your reason for not wanting premarital sex show that your values are incompatible.

[slatyb]

Your position puts you in a small minority of people in Western countries. There are relatively few men who will accommodate you. I don't know if your position is related to your religious faith. If you are an evangelical Christian, it may help you to know that in those denominations there are three women for every two men.

[Asker]

I regret telling him. I am now openminded and softening my position on it. If I tell him would he still be uninterested?

[slatyb]

He may. It's free to ask him again.

[Truthatanycost]

''I am now openminded and softening my position on it.''

What exactly does that mean? Either you have boundaries of no premarital sex, that you enforce, or not.

[Asker]

If I'm comfortable and have gotten to build a relationship with them. In any case, I think he already wrote me off

[Truthatanycost]

That sounds like you do not plan to enforce your own boundaries.

[Asker]

I was really invested in this guy, so I was willing to make a compromise for him. Although I wonder if that would be an even greater turn off--me not enforcing it

[Asker]

Would that be a turn off to you, me not enforcing it?

[Truthatanycost]

If you were willing to make a compromise for him, then your statement about not having premarital sex meant nothing. If I met a girl that said that, but ''made a compromise'' it would be a turn off.

[Screenwriter]

He might be thinking about it and exploring you as a person more? Or, you need to ask him about your statement and find out. If he's in it for sex and you don't, there is no way to get his interest back.

[Anonymous]

Move on; he doesn't want to wait. Find someone who does want to wait.

[Anonymous]

Not likely, not every guy wants to get married or wait until then to get sex unless they are a virgin and even then it’s a maybe

[Asker]

I regret telling him. I am now openminded and softening my position on it. If I tell him would he still be uninterested?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe if he believes you, you will probably have to come up with a reason for saying that to him first because he will wonder what changed your mind and not think you’re lying

[Asker]

Yes, I see how that could help. It would come off too strong to message him after he ignored my last text right?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah you might want to give it some time

[Asker]

Thanks

[Gwenhwyfar]

No. He wants sex.

Do you give handjobs?

[Avicenna]

Nope. He wants sex

[Asker]

I regret telling him. I am now openminded and softening my position on it. If I tell him would he still be uninterested?

[Avicenna]

Oh, I’m sure he’d be interested in that case

[Feelicks]

LoL 😂

[Asker]

I regret telling him. I am now openminded and softening my position on it. If I tell him would he still be uninterested?