Are men who are not confident around women guaranteed to be scumbags?

Kaazsz
This question was asked about romantic films and their effect on women's dating and love:
Do you agree that romantic films and literature have completely destroyed women’s potential for happiness?

In the question there was this statement: "I honestly believe that the best men, the cream of the crop, will not even approach you at all. They are good people who don’t want to appear threatening or make you feel intimidated and they will let you come to them."

@Kurαȷ said in reply: "No decent, high-quality man is going to refrain from approaching you for those reasons. Because he has full faith both in the appropriateness of his demeanor as well as in his ability to judge the common sense of the lady he is approaching."

I replied saying that he is wrong. That his statement implies that any man who is not confident with women is 100% guaranteed to be a scumbag. He confirmed my statement saying I am correct. Yes, unconfident men are scumbags.

I grew up in an abused home. I had no friends my entire childhood. I wore the same set of unwashed smelly clothes to school every day. I wasn't allowed to take showers. My parents were abusive and I was bullied my entire life.

As a result I had social anxiety and I was afraid of everyone. But I had increased fear around women. Obviously right? Of course I was not going to be confident around women.

But I spent years practicing social skills, talking to people, talking to girls. Today I have a ton of female friends who I love very much. They have taught me so much about women. I love women, and I have 100% confidence around women today. And now I know that I am very lucky because many men do not have this luxury. Most men are still kind of afraid to make them feel uncomfortable. Just like I was.

Those men are not scumbags for having respect for women and not wanting them to feel uncomfortable around them. Just because a man is not confident does not make him a scumbag.

What do you think?
Are men who are not confident around women guaranteed to be scumbags?
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