I have come across so many women who have been hurt by men so many times that they simply no longer trust the good ones... Why then is it that women choose the wrong men?
There are very good men out there but most women pick the bad shity ones. Do women love being destroyed in more ways than most then WHY!!! DO THEY PICK MEN WHO HURT THEM!
Love is love. ﾠ
Because men and women take their knowledge of what´s a good choice by experience. It´s easy to say as a man that there are many very good men out there as much as it is easy for women to say about women. The issue is rather that from the perspective of the opposite sex it´s not.
People generally take their idea of what a man is supposed to be from different sources either their parents or rolemodels.
The problem is that girls choose guys that can press the buttons that impress them meaning they go for the guys that seem adventorous and bold since those guys are assertive and take the iniative something girls like.
Similar with guys they go for the most beautiful woman in the room since that´s something guys are impressed by.
Both have to learn that what impresses them most isn´t healthy for a relationship. I think it takes time for both sides to learn to trust because at the end it´s about finding one partner you can trust not a harem.
Tell me, how do I know if someone's bad or good?
Like how do you know if someone is a cheater or not? If we could point them out nobody would date the cheaters and they'd never get the chance to cheat. Or you could take it up a notch. Do you really think serial killers would kill as much if you could tell by just looking at them, or speaking with them for a while? You can barely tell the difference between someone who is a little awkward or has autism or someone who is an actual serial killer.
Every date it's a gamble.
Especially at a young age it's sometimes hard to tell what is love and what is manipulation. I was 16 dating a 21 year old and now at 21 I've realized how wrong that relationship was and how bad he was manipulating me.
I'm now older and I'm more aware of the red flags, but I'm still a little more cautious.
Because we don't know they will. Guys sometimes hide toxic or abusive tendencies really well (girls sometimes do as well). A lot of the guys I've been hurt by were prtty subtle or didn't reveal their worst traits until months after we've met. Some women also just don't understand that a man's bad behavior isn't just a lack of support or affection and that he will continue to make bad choices even if he has all the love in the world. To be fair, we did grow up with disney princesses and true love's kiss solving all the world's problems from a very young age, so it's not exactly hard to figure out where the mindset comes from. Women often try to be very optimistic and forgiving, we're raised that way, and that often meanings not calling our red flags when we should or not realizing they're there to begin with.
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Women ignore and refuse to accept men's nature. So they get what they get.
Men literally pretend to be different people than they are to get women to trust them. How would any woman know u aren't just pretending to be a "good one" too? It's like a wolf in sheep's clothing. Personally if I had that happen, I'd have a hard time trusting sheep again too. It sucks bc the bad men hurt the women and ruin reputation of the good men who wouldn't hurt women. But don't be mad at women for trusting a man who turned out to be bad—that's literally what u want them to do: trust men. Be mad at the bad men for taking advantage of that to hurt her directly and you indirectly.
1. We don't know who the ACTUAL good ones are until it's too late. It is astoundingly easy for most guys to fake being great guys, only for it to change.
2. Most times we stay in a bad relationship, is either we have no way of getting out of it financially or due to having nowhere else to go, or we stay due to fearing for our lives. After all, the number 1 cause of death for women, is being murdered by a current or former partner. We stay, we lessen lessen chances of being killed, but if we leave, we make them madder and more likely to kill us.
Cause women are drawn to traits that are found in "bad boys" but not exclusive to them. Like confidence. Men need to work on themselves and be their own person instead of seeking validation from women. Women dont like to be ignored or treated like crap, but they do like to see a man who is sure of himself and won't beg her to be with him. Who has standards and not just picking the first woman he is able to get.
Some might also like the thrill of it, or believe they can change him and be that special someone he has a weak spot for. Its the perfect romance novel, that doesn't end as well in real life.
Because they all think they are "10's" who can hold onto Chad Thundercock by using their pussy and trying to baby trap him. Younger women are busy chasing and having sex with the top 4% of men while the majority of good men are invisible to them. Women have done this to themselves.
It's only after they can't get the top 4% of men to have sex with them that they realize they need a beta provider to pay for their mistakes,. including illegitimate children, college debt, credit card debt, and anything else. Only at this point do women begin to "see" the regular men out there.
Because society told us that men are Trash and we grow up thinking that's the norm when is not. It's a generational thing most of my aunties and grandma growing used to tell me "Stay single. Men are trash." Men are this men are that Bla Bla Bla. Years later I realized that most of these women were the toxic ones all these time.
This'll make women angry. But it comes down to either her fundamental understanding of where she's f***ed up in the past. Or her inability to take responsibility for those f***ups, and learn from them.
Because you most of the time have to touch a hot stove, then learn hey, that's hot! I'm not doing that again. Many women do not learn this lesson and repeat the same behaviour. And what's the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
Overtime this inability to learn from HER mistakes or take responsibility for HER bad choices causes he to blame all men. Because in her mind since she isn't to blame it can only be him. And after it happening again and again it must mean all men are bad. 😆😆😆
Pretty much the same reason most men don’t trust women , I feel social media damaged peoples mindsets and damaged the foundation of rel , Most people today are just plain out selfish and only really care about themselves , most people have a hard time trusting each other cuz apparently everyone is a cheater and a backstabber and a liar , so to find someone that honestly isn’t a cheater and knows what it means to be in a relationship is hard to come by these days
Everyone can pretend to be everything you're looking for, just to stab you in the back later. It's understandable to be jaded, especially when it happens multiple times. But, to paint an entire gender is asinine. It's easy to say such things from the outside, though. We both have no idea what's going on in their heads, and infer based on what the average woman would do.
Don't get confused between what women say and the truth of the matter. They'll pick a bad guy knowing full well that he'll just use and dump her, and they'll do it over and over, and then complain about being the victim. But that's what they want: to have an exciting but temporary fling, and then play the victim to avoid being accountable.
They're emotionally and socially intelligent. They know exactly what they're doing.
Lmao, spoken like a man no woman ought to trust.
Why are you blaming women for being victims of terrible men? Why aren't you blaming the men who actually did them wrong?
i yrust men. i amblessed to have good men in my life my father, my ex, T, and A and most of all of course my Lord
Bad men don't have a giant sign on their foreheads saying they're abusive shitty people.
Why can't men trust women?
The same reasons. Women are not victims. Men are not perpetrators.
The same reason men do the exact same thing. Low quality upbringing.
Every encounter is different and broad strokes will get you nowhere
I can say the same thing about why men can't trust women. I had an exwife cheat on me, ND knew a few friends that had the same.
Probably something to do with ability (and history) of killing you with our hands. I’d be worried if I were you.
That wasn’t a threat fyi… Lol
Once a woman has been pumped and dumped by too many fuckboys she loses the ability to trust or love a man and her soul belongs to the streets.
They’re simply just too naïve and ignorant to know any better
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