I have a hard time trusting men?

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one of the biggest motivators for men to get in relationships is for sěx. you can tell me how wrong I am, but men don't want relationships now a days cause they can get sěx easily. social media and dating apps have made this world a shit place. And this is why I give up. I've looked for attention and validation from men online, sharing nudes is one of them and doing what they want was another. And honestly, it's gotten worse. men just wanna hookup, and there's no loyalty and respect anymore. so, I've been seeing a lot of dudes talking to underaged girls everywhere. why would I wanna date someone who thinks this is okay? or even worse has done it. seems like all men are like this. this is why I give up, there's no decent men. decent men don't exist anymore hate to tell it to you. I'll never find anyone cause I never do, nobody wants me. I give up. there was this girl without arms and legs and the s3xual comments from guys was appalling. and you wonder why women are afraid of men. smh, I give up on men. Why can I never find someone decent? Like almost on every app there's always ADULT men flirting and wanting like 16 and 17 year olds. Why would I wanna date someone who thinks this is okay? Or worse has actually done it!!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I've looked for attention and validation from men online.

You looked for attention and validation at the first place. Second a high quality man will never use dating apps maybe once but when he realize what garbage is in dating apps he wouldn't use it again.

I bet you have rejected few good guys.

Now days most men at their mid to late twenties are waking up aka red pilled. We all know girls at their 20s want to party and having fun and experience so many things that's including riding the cock carousel then when she done that round she wants to settle but she already ruined by other men aka damaged goods. Now men's are awake and asking what a girl can bring to my life rather than sex? Because sex is for both parts I have my money my cars my work and the most important thing my happiness and peace of mind and most high quality men hitting gym or any other sports. Why we should bring all that for someone who's ruined and wants bad boy adventures and thinks good men are weak and have no much to offer? . 2021 is different many men are walking away it's not worth it anymore there's rarely good quality women who's kind and have inner peace. Fun facts my ex thought I can't live without her because I was there for her always and I always helped her become better person she thought that's weakness she thought my love to her and my care never change until one day I was done she was shocked and now she wants back but no way I thank God every day that I'm done with her. So good quality men are out there but they won't be in a relationship because there's no quality woman and our peace of mind worth a lot also you will rarely find someone who's quality that will pump n dump though I can have so many side chick but not worth it.

Bring something to the table and upgrade yourself then you will attract someone at that good level but going online for attention and validation sure it will end in bad way.

Peace

MAAJD · Accepted Answer

There are many decent men around, you just need to conduct yourself in a way that attracts them to you and filters out the trash. If someone approached you for sex, they will ask for nudes and naughty stuff very early on, when you make it clear that they will never get sex content, they will leave. There, you just filtered out a trash who just wanted sex. If someone approached you, and sometime later said they want nudes/sex.. etc, and you made it clear that this will never happen anytime soon, but they STAYED. That means they are in for the big deal, as long as they dont nag and pressure you for sex. So if the guy said ok take your time whenever you are comfortable let me know and just continued with you normally, there you go, that's a decent guy.

That is why saving for marriage is something that most religions follow. There is a reason for that, because it's the 'right' way. Thats the only way to make sure you meet a guy that truly wants you not just for sex. ain't nobody forsaking half their assets just to get a fuck and leave. Even if they did, you still win by getting half their shit.

Personally all my life I've had the highest sex drive anyone can imagine. Yet i still managed to save myself for sooooooooooo long until i was age 28. It was the most difficult thing i ever did in my life but I truly have been looking for the right one and was dedicating myself to my future wife. Sadly couldnt get myself a wifey yet. still looking. Know anybody :p?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

i feel the same way but, you have to consider that logically youve known or seen or are aware of good men, so you too can find one, its just hard, i say focus on yourself as im doing, and keep hope that he will show up. put yourself out there some but dont be frantic to find him.

anon1903 · Accepted Answer

TheFlak38 is a shit pieceAnd you can always date an asexual men, if sex is a problem. Online dating isn't reliable, find guys from work place or family stuff. Internet is a fake place. Just saying.

jshm2 · Answer

To be honest, your diatribe points to it being a "you" problem, rather than any sort of "man problem".

You fetishize a "type" without thinking if those types are even interested in a girl like you (newsflash: they are not) But you're just doggedly running after those men that have no interest in you.

You cannot demand they change to accommodate you. You need to either change your game or be realistic with yourself in what kind of guys like a girl of your type.

Not every girl is wife material, and not every wife is a good wife.

Bjornasey · Answer

It's usually those 30-50 year old dudes who pretend to be 20 or some crap or at times they don't have to. Young people are dumb, especially teenage girls so many fall victim to them and become used goods.

Actual men who were not divorced raped tend to only want women for actual lovemaking, i. e to make children (when you combine love you make something you both created). I personally only want a woman so she can produce my offspring, a result of our love, i suppose? As for my luck with women, bad I'd say? I've only had 2 relationships but they were not worth it, didn't even kiss em, lol.

Anonymous · Answer

It's just hard these days period. Believe it or not, it's not any easier finding women, and probably for this reason. If they are actually interested in a relationship, they are too quick to judge a guy (not get to know him at all) and ghost. Or, don't even give him a shot because they automatically assume we are all the same. You're right, things are harder than ever in today's society. But, worst thing to do is judge ALL men for it. Maybe just take some time and say single for now. Focus on school or career, and look again later. Or maybe like they say, when you stop looking, someone will come into your life? That's never happened for me, but? lol

InferiorElegy · Answer

I have a hard time trusting females, there's a lot of negatives with every interaction I've ever had with a female, not to mention I was sexually assaulted and raped by 3 different adult females when I was 13-15 years of age.

That's not the reason why guys don't want relationships anymore, the reasons are down to because of females. Men are the blame for anything bad in life, the Metoo movement pushed a lot of guys away and the fact that over the years the fact that dating sites have made females love validation even more and this kind of ego boost had led to most females becoming way too picky in finding someone, with their 100 thousand plus item list of things they want in a guy and no guy is ever going to be a majority of the list items. Also females only care about looks and money and when they lower their "standards" they can't ever be happy with the guys they settle on.

humanearth · Answer

Stay away from any form of computer dating. All you are going to find is the biggest loosers. If you must use computer dating try a paid site. Forcing someone to pay forces out the nasty ones

DonkeyDan · Answer

Yeah no wonder you think that based on your actions. You're not going to find a real relationship online these days, and those apps are just for hook-ups, and people to exchange nudes. If you meet guys in real life you'll find that the majority are not like that at all. You might have to go through a few people before you find someone that you want to have a serious relationship with but it will eventually happen.

grega239 · Answer

Maybe women shouldn't make it so easy for men to get laid. Women could demand commitment before opening their legs.

Men just go with the flow.

Obviously men want sex. But did it ever occur to you that its because it represents a kind of closeness to another person?

Dvchill · Answer

Did u ever consider that u r the problem and attracting the wrong type of guy… or repulsing “decent” men. Cause that little temper tantrum of a question gave me like 72 red flags and I’m usually into girls with red flags, however every instinct in my body is telling me to run in terror from u…

TheFlak38 · Answer

1. If men only want sex that's because sex is the only thing you have to offer. You have three holes to get fucked. thing more.
2. Men can't get easy sex. You do. The fact alone that women who are scarred for life or without legs and arms still have an army of thirsty white knights orbiting around them should make it obvious for your stupid female brain.
3. Dont talk about loyalty and respect. you're somebody who explores her thousands of options on online dating apps. You're a whore like the rest of them.
5. If you're not happy with your thousands of options then that's your problem. men have no options at all.

Made4sex · Answer

I mean if that is how you feel then fine. But there are decent men out there. Granted you won’t find them on line. And you most likely won’t even have much luck looking at a bar because decent guys don’t pick girls up at bars. You might make friends at a bar though if you go enough. That is a good start.

na2398 · Answer

Tbh I'd never get into relationships for sex. I want genuine connections. 😊 😊 😊 It's the same for both bad guys and girls. It is sooo tough for me to trust girls as well because all I see os casual hookups. The ones that I was interested in never gave a fuck about me albeit I wanted genuine connections. Makes me lose trust in these things

Twalli · Answer

The decent man don't stay on the market long. Girls know we're essentially an endangered species. If they get us they're smart enough to keep us. Case in point: even if you were a 10/10 and checked all my boxes I would not even consider doing anything with you until my girlfriend and I break up, and I don't see that happening any time soon.

SamFromFL · Answer

I’ve heard of those apps and wouldn’t use them. I prefer quality over quantity

JackSmy · Answer

I think you are just choosing the wrong men, and then judging ALL OF US, because of that. You are way too young, to be that JADED, and Cynical!

weeee · Answer

If every man youve been ended up being shallow, remember that through all those relationships there was an underlying commonality: You.

RawIronhide · Answer

I've been single for years of my life because I want something serious. Maybe you're attracting the wrong guys.

jspl90 · Answer

well simple stop having loose sex and lower your standards and you should find a relationship if you are even remotely good looking

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

It's the same thing for guys, dishonest women, cheating, lots of guys on the side, etc. It's hard to find a girl that wants love that will be faithful and honest.

nickaboy · Answer

We Just want to be loved you women keep telling eachother all men want is sex cause you are always picking that kind of guy wich is only one type the rest of us u don't want so stop crying bitch

Anonymous · Answer

I can't imagine why you would think i would want to be with a women who hates men.

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