Are “party” girls a turn off or a turn on?

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So, I’m not impressed with party people. People who obsessed with alcohol, drinking games, dirty dancing in front of a group of people, etc. I have a dirty side... but I don’t do it with everyone I meet. What are your thoughts on these girls?

fashionguy17 · Accepted Answer

I'm 30 years old, so I guess I'm kind of old now. Lol. Now... when I was in my early 20s... I was into party girls and I was a partyer myself. However, I was never good with women, so I never got laid at any parties. Party girls were a turn on to me back in the day, because I viewed them as the "ultimate sluts"... just girls that were ready and willing to do anything, if you had the right amount of game and looks. Now that I am in my 30s, I stay away from party girls.

I view party girls as toxic. When I see party girls now, they are always in and out of relationships with toxic men. They have no idea what a real man looks like. They always have a hard time staying in long term relationships. They blame men for their issues. They are always out on the party scene every night just drinking and smoking and they are never home just chilling. At my age, that gets tiring.

It's especially tiring when you meet "older" party girls who are over age 25. They are still complaining about men, still on the party scene and getting black out drunk and wondering why there are no good men around. You surround yourself with what you are, FYI.

All of the women I have had stable relationships with were not party girls. They were women who never had men problems. Women who didn't have any sort of toxic energy and had high self-esteem.

Personally, I don't think party girls are a turn on.

Arivor · Accepted Answer

This is so unexpected... I am rather surprised at the sheer lack of enthusiasm for parting you asses of when you can... This all part of what I called "The Game" ... one I played to the fullest up until I got sick of it and met my future wife, who was also sick of "The Game" and we got married soon after.

Now getting to that point was very fun, and we knew it couldn't last forever. (Wrong)

We just wanted to go to every festival, rave and just party, party all the time!

Everyone wanted to party and just keep parting, and we wanted everyone to join us.

How could you say no to these girls? Like, REALLY?

Granted, some did end up going a bit to hard with it... Remember, Moderation is key!

You know what? Diana and I are just about to celebrate our 29th anniversary! We just now go as a couple to all the festivals, raves and parties... along with all that we have learned throughout the years on how to party the right way. *Moderation is Key*

To answer your question "Are "party" Girls a turn off or a turn on?" Seriously, Those girls are my kinda people! There is nothing I see that would be a turn off for me. I'm kinda used to having them around. Just saying, Ya know?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

These are girls who thrive on attention and I would suspect that few of them will be happy with a monogamous relationship until they grow up.

Anonymous · Answer

Eventually it is. If a guy hits his 30s and he’s working hard doing grad studies, saving up to get his own place, has a job that will lead to something bigger then a girl has to respect that. I know girls who party only do it because they are trying to overlap life’s problems.

Since when is it fun where 1) a guy tries to grind on you from behind, 2) loud awful music, 3) you feel like throwing up from too many drinks, 4) if she is under the influence of booze then she may get into a car accident and 5) waking up the next day with a hangover. I was never big on partying, clubbing, doing drugs or drinking. Believe it or not, there are fun things to do. Like watching a good movie at the movie theatre. Going to a sporting event. Travelling and visiting historical sites around the world. Going to a museum and trying out a good restaurant. I may have immature jokes and pranks but partying is way more immature. If people actually like that then that’s their life.

Eventually girls learn and they stop. When she sees her friends getting into more serious relationships or getting married, people move on. I will not judge a girl based on her past. But I know if I’m with a girl and I’m spending my Friday night at home watching the game and eating some wings. While she’s going out with gfs wearing a slutty outfit where other guys will hit on her... Those two worlds will collide and not work out. I don’t want to deal with a girl like that because most likely she will say... CAN YOU GET OFF MY BACK I WANNA HAVE FUN OKAY IM BREAKING UP WITH YOU. If any dude deals with that save yourself the trouble and just walk away then.

virtue2332 · Answer

To each their own. I'm not trying to be with someone like that at this stage in my life. The way I see it though is it really doesn't matter to me how they choose to live their lives until it somehow interferes with my life. Then I would evaluate how to move forward. I don't think I'm better than them or have a higher morale character. I would just see it as another person that has different beliefs and values I'm ok with that. The only time there is conflict or someone is wrong is if they attempt to force their choices and beliefs so that it negatively affects someone outside of what there doing. That could be as simple as bullying or attacking someone because the see things different or someone that chooses to get behind the wheel being intoxicated

Finchie40 · Answer

If they do it consistently then it’s a turn off but if a girl likes to party and let loose once in awhile then that can be a turn on, it mainly comes down to her personality and her actions , I know girls that like to drink once in awhile that aren’t hooking up with random guys they just like to let loose after a week of work , the girls that don’t know when to stop is the ones that are a turn off , when she gets completely intoxicated and has sex with random guys then that’s a huge turn off to me

Anonymous · Answer

It can be fun, and good for laughs, as they get drunk, and they get more animated and fun. Not ones I know, or care about, but as they get more and more drunk, I become concerned, thinking they will be taken advantage of, but I can't fix that, I can't stop them from doing what they think they want.
Sadly, at some point, they are so drunk, it gets pathetic and sad, and they are showing off, taking off clothing, and humiliating themselves, and their "Friends" encourage the humiliation.
I have usually left, before that happens. I can only imagine how many get raped, without even realizing, being so drunk!
I think they are Favorites, among the punk, loser, guys that like taking advantage of women.
Really sad, and sick, I think!

Hogwheels · Answer

To most guys who are gonna treat you right and you would want to raise a healthy family with, it is a turn off. That's not always true. I'm sure there are guys who enjoy a party girl that might make great husbands, but I think its looking in the wrong place if you're looking for someone you might want to marry some day.

lightbulb27 · Answer

always been a turn off but I don't do drugs. I was even around "fun" drinking as a kid with family. The problem is girls become slutty, guys aggressive if not dangerous.

Party crowd is a different bunch I don't care to associate with. Thankful my girlfriend has no interest in it either, other than when we "party" with Earl Grey tea!

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Depends on the context, but generally I prefer sweet intelligent girls who are secretly kinky. And besides, in the UK most "party girls" are just glorified Binge drinkers who act loud and boisterous thinking they're "like one of the lads". And I'm just watching like, "no sweetheart, you're just a bit of a slag" 😂

jamesgoldman · Answer

I don't do party people as they are too short sighted
They plan for the weekend, I plan for years away

Being obsessed with alcohol can be a good thing if it is mixology or a purveyor of quality spirits
But that's coming from a hobbyist mixologist and a guy who either buys three figure (for now) bottles of scotch for occasions or looks to save a few bucks on more regular drinking whenever possible

1031ent · Answer

Let's not confuse enjoying a few beers with loose morals or "being easy". As a guy who enjoys having a few beers at the pub, I enjoy having somone to go with. It's similar to sharing a common hobby, because you have something to do together. I have date girls who don't like to go to the pub as well. This is fine as long as she doesn't mind if I go.

hellacray · Answer

Big turnoff.

I mean what is a party girl? In my mind it's just a girl that likes to get drunk and make a fool out of herself.

Cause you know nothing screams attractiveness like a drunk girl busting out cringey dance moves and then vomiting afterwards.

chubbycrow · Answer

No in fact the "fucked up drinker girl" is a turn on for me, I don't party to those levels and always watch what I do, but (for example my girlfriend is a pothead (dw legal where we are) and drinks a bit) some girls j turn me on cuz of it.
that being said I find it strange when girls like guys who do it as they often don't have any "masculine" traits

ElvenMr · Answer

I can't indentify myself with these kind people either. I never got the appeal of these activites.
I think it's very boring and just wasting a lot of money in a very short time. And you get hungover... so if you know it's going to be shit tomorrow then why are you still doing it? The answer to that is always: "Because you feel good and it's "fun"."
Yeah, if you say so...

prince370 · Answer

Turn-on is this bizarre female idea of someone you fuck somehow being important to you.
Only a woman I can respect is relationship material - so any of her 'ooooh I'm a wild fuck' escapades disqualify her.
No blocks put up but being someone respectable (the usual is the opposite - a whore that pretends she is hard to get when she wants a relationship/to milk me - otherwise an easy fuck for anyone who can be bothered with boring 'wild sex')

Shuttlebus78 · Answer

I don’t think there is anything wrong with going out and drinking from time to time. Beyond that, I think party girls are loose and lack morals. They are part of the reason good women are losing custody to abusive men now too. Men’s Rights activity’s a used them as poster children even though most them were just as guilty. I’m tired of filth and I’m tired of lack of morals.

jshm2 · Answer

Usually they are a mess and will die young. Hence the hedonist appeal of them. It's almost entertainment watching them wreck themselves.  Most people want a little part of it, not the whole dish.

HawkPerception · Answer

They're usually physically attractive with not so attractive personalities. They're not my type.

DoctorCupid · Answer

It depends on the guy and their maturity level. For the most part, however, there’s an understanding that anything that a guy does with this type of girl is only short term.

broken_heart_at_48 · Answer

I say to each their own you really can't judge a person from one drunken night plus as long as they aren't hurting anyone who cares. Sometimes it can be fun to hangout with the wild ones and sometimes they can wear on you

Anonymous · Answer

For a quick fuck... they are ok, and thats it.
They are essentially garbage otherwise, especially when they are over used and worn out and decide to try and act like they have morals and self respect later in life.

watrewks · Answer

They’re usually hot which is nice, but the party girl personality is shit

Anonymous · Answer

I was stripped down by party girls and they started pushing me while i'm fully naked back and forth and they kicked my ass, also got punched and kicked on my testicles and penis, it was sooooo crazy 😂😂😂 one of the girls shouted "let's bring some sperm out" 😝

Makeushiver · Answer

I don't like party girls- or at least those who drink to excess because I prefer them to be attuned to their senses if we wind up in bed. I don't want their consciousness dulled

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Never dated before, but sounds like a turn-off, especially if they drink too, at least to the point where they get crazy sloppy and drunk.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

When I was younger I didn't care. Now, a woman my age, is just sad. Not the least bit interested.

Redstang88 · Answer

I’m al for having a good time, but I’m more the hanging around a campfire getting hammered with your buddies kinda guy.
The club thing was fun for a year or so but I’m over it, and generally look for similar in a girl

ManHater · Answer

Not for me. I dont have time to play, I have a carrier to work on. Getting drunk, tired, shit faced does not look good when your job depends on it. Sorry but there is a time and place for these things and as for the girls who want to dance with no shame then by all means but not for me.

David92506 · Answer

When I was in college, party girls were highly sought after. This was because men thought they were an easy target for sex.

WesBrewer · Answer

They are good to make jokes about, lol, I'm not sure if I would want to date someone who is constantly drunk, it depends though.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

A real turn off for me. I have no time or use for such.

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