Why she is acting cold all of a sudden?

Question

There is cute receptionist at the gym I go to and I am interested in her but I feel like lately she is been showing less interest as she might think I am not interested. I always greet her when I come and when I leave and I understand that it is part of her job to be friendly. I am new to the gym so when I was leaving I greeted her and while walking outside I wanted to check her out but to my surprise she was checking me out as well. We made eye contact and we both looked down immediately. I thought maybe I am imagining. The next I was doing the bicep curl and I was standing between the racks and the machine and it is not convenient to pass by me to go to the other side of the gym as there is little space. She could have just went by the other side. She walked by me and looked at me from the corner of her eyes as I can see it in the mirror. She did walk by me couple of times after this incident but no eye contact. I am not sure if these are clear signs that she is interested and I don’t want to make it awkward if things doesn’t work and she is not interested. What I noticed lately that she doesn’t walk by me anymore or try to get my attention and she seemed a bit distant. Could it be that she thinks I took too long to make a move? I don’t know how to ask her for her number while her colleagues are there and it is a busy gym.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I’m a former gym/spa receptionist, and would like to offer some perspective. So, not to completely douse your hopes, but it is quite possible that her actions are coincidental. I only say this as someone who is incredibly nice and could get especially busy at work. When busy, we are typically motoring back and forth to random ass places and doing random things to get something done. I promise, I have walked by/squeezed through/ went around such odd shit for different reasons. It could be I was heading to certain machines to get their numbers, headed to Maintenance room, babysitting, laundry, or sauna, and I was in a huge rush Bc I’d be the only one working the front desk. Sometimes I simply just wanted to be inconspicuous because I didn’t always like being stared at when moving about the gym floors. HOWEVER, none of this means specifically that she isn’t interested. She could very much be, and just waiting to see if you’ll make a move since she can’t (especially if her job has cameras). I think your best bet would be striking up small conversation, IE make a move. If you don’t, you’ll be stuck on this site getting all of our assumptions with no factual answers, and that isn’t helpful. So go for it. The worst she can say is no and that’s not gonna kill you. I’d also like to add that if you do approach, be sure she isn’t busy, or has anyone with her!

Sheyhoney · Accepted Answer

I think she probably got a bit annoyed after showing you signs that she wants you to approach her yet you haven’t and now she thinks you’re uninterested or unavailable. Try to strike up a convo with her and ask her if she’d be comfortable sharing her social media/phone number with you Bc you’d like to get to know her better !

Apope16 · Accepted Answer

She is interested for sure. But i would not overreact. I think it sounds like she thinks that you are cute. Nothing more, nothing less. It is possible she might even have a boyfriend and felt guilty for leading you on.

I actually dated a girl that was a receptionist at my gym. It was the same situation like yours. She liked me but wanted to be professional at work. We would joke around and flirt with one another but held back in certain ways too. I didn't give her my number until her very last day at the gym. So I knew her for months without asking her out because I didn't want drama at the gym I go to. She took my number and never called me until a few months later out of the blue. Then she asked me out on a date. She was a skinny black girl with amazing tits and lips. She was actually a really nice gal.

What you should do
Your strongest play at this point is to give her your card or write down your phone number and give it to her. Say, "Hey, I have really like your vibe and you are someone I want to get to know. We should go on a date. Here is my number. Text me after work and I will let you know what I have in mind."

Tyrael · Accepted Answer

Let's be honest she wasn't exactly acting warm to begin with, you barely interacted with her. My advice would be to just find an excuse to talk to her, then ask her out so you can get to know her better away from that setting.

The worst thing that can happen is she says no, in which case you haven't lost anything. At least you'll know for sure.