Guy invited me to his house to watch a movie with him and offered his shoulder during the horror movie. Why not just ask me on a date?

[Anonymous]

Why won't he just ask me on a date first? We haven't met in person yet. We talk on a dating app. Plus my dating profile doesn't imply any interest in hooking up. My pictures are conservative. I haven't talked sexual with him either. Am I just not his type enough for him to go on a date with?

[Birdlegs]

Is that not a date? I’ve had a couple movie dates it’s fun to me

[Asker]

Why not invite me to a public setting though? This would be our first time meeting and we don't really know each other

[Birdlegs]

I don't know how COVID is where you are but where I am we still are pretty restricted there’s not many public things to do

[Asker]

I see.. Where I am a lot of restaurants are open. He is aware of it too

[WesBrewer]

In his mind going to his house for a movie is just like a date.

[DavidFox]

Because he wants to hook up

[Asker]

Why not wait a couple dates?

[DavidFox]

Some guys don’t wanna date

[Asker]

I see. Even if the girl is funny and attractive?

[DavidFox]

Yes, has nothing to do with the girl. They are just in a place where they don’t wanna relationship.

[Asker]

I see. Just curious, were you at a phase before where you didn't want to date? If so, did you leave that phase eventually?

[DavidFox]

Yes I did

[Asker]

You left the phase?

[DavidFox]

I have

[Asker]

Oh. What changed your mind?

[DavidFox]

Oh it was planned. Last year after my breakup I knew I would need time to heal and regain my independence so I decided not to date for the remainder of 2020.

[DavidFox]

Also in college I had times when I didn’t wanna date and instead just hooked up with lots of girls.

[Asker]

I see. So basically you were ready to date again after that year?

[DavidFox]

Yes.