Have you ever dated a narcissist?

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pikuroy · Accepted Answer

Unfortunately yes. But it was a great lesson in life. I learned to be a man. Spend enough time with a narcissistic woman... Even the best men would be turned betas.

A narcissist comes to your life to teach you the following lessons:-

1. They show fake self worth to teach you real self worth.

2. They want admiration all the time from you. This is to teach you to be compassionate.

3. They exaggerate their achievements and talents. This is to teach you that don't undervalue yourself, you abilities and skills.

4. They are preoccupies with fake fantasies of success, power, perfection. This is to teach you that make yourself busy with pursuit of success, power and perfection.

5. They believe they are superior and not everyone is of their level. This is to teach you that dont mix freely with anyone. Dont let lower value people affect you badly.

6. They look down on people as inferior. This is to teach you that never make any prejudice about people. What they appear is completely different from what they are inside.

7. Extract favours and take advantage. This is to teach you that help only those who really need it.

8. They dont care for others and their feelings. This is to teach you that dont give importance to how rest of the world reacts to you.

9. They are envious of others. This is to teach you to see the good in others and work to be better like them.

10. They always want the best of everything. This is to teach you that always strive for the best and earn it with all your effort.

A narcissist is a person who set out to be successful but is in an illusion that they have already achieved it. A narcissist comes to your life only when you are struggling. This adds to my hypothesis that they are there to teach you to be successful.

Billyscotter · Accepted Answer

I've never actually dated any narcissists, but I had a couple romantic involvements, that ended with some really toxic, nasty rejections (twice in a row, unfortunately).

Reading Robert Greene's "The Laws of Human Nature", I'm pretty sure they were both deep narcissists. They had more issues than insecurity, that interfered with their lives.

lilyanony1 · Accepted Answer

10 years on/off I stupidly thought I could manage him.
It seems though that me telling all I believed to be horrible and true about him didn't even get him to go away. 6months later after he blocked me. He contacted me from an old number. Fake email address pretending to be his girlfriend. Just in time to ruin my birthday.
I honestly don't think this is the end of it.

But I'll confess as much as I really hate the way I'm treated he doesn't seize to spark my interest.
Maybe I'm as messed up as him.
I've never known anyone like him. And it's absolutely fascinating to me. But I accept this is my life that I'm ruining and I'm maintaining no contact simply because he's dangerous.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

He was not a narcissist but he had mental issues - he wasn't proactively abusive in any way but his lack of courtesy made him a bad relationship partner - like he did not even send me positive words of affirmation when I told him I had completed my last exam in undergrad and was now a certified HBA alumni.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Well not someone I was "dating", but supposed friend, and omg yes was he narcissistic AF... He's part of the reason I feel bad for people who online date, because he can fool them far easier online then he can get away with it with people IRL...

Account · Answer

The answer is no.  I can easily recognize their patterns.

Anonymous · Answer

I have dealt with a narcissist on and off for a few years. He was all about himself and what he could gain from others. Worst part? He introduced me to someone that was equally just as fucked up as he was. Just an all around toxic situation. But I take blame for continuing to go back.

RawIronhide · Answer

No, I smell them coming. Mostly people overlook the red flags so they can smash. I have a rule that I don't have sex outside of a serious relationship for that very reason.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Yes. My first love has narcissistic tendencies paired with enormous vanity, fortunately she is too emotional for specific mental disorder with narcissism as symptom. On the other hand sie lied to a group of boys with the intention they beat the shit out of me after we separated second time. I dared to reject her open relationship offer.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

No, but I wouldn't want to waste time with such a trashy human being, so thank goodness. We all probably have some narccistic traits, but if someone just a straight up dick, they can fuck right off.

likelyOK · Answer

A true narcissist, no I don’t think so this term get overused and missused by people who are actually describing a selfish person or personality trait rather than the true DSM diagnostic personality disorder.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

First girlfriend. Didn't last and thank God I experienced that early during dating before later so I could identify it. Sucked, though. Easy on the eyes, but very self centered.

Holisticapproachsara · Answer

I met some , thank god never dated one. Those people are quite horrible and toxic. Run if u saw one run

Wowboi · Answer

You'd get women who claim they've dated a narc but they're actually a narc and you'd get men who dated a narc who turned them into a narc. In reality everybody and their momma is guilty until proven otherwise

Avicenna · Answer

Yeah, and these people usually have multiple personality disorders or mental illnesses, making it a real joy to be in a relationship with them.

genericname85 · Answer

honestly i never met a person in general, that i would refer to as a narcissist. i don't know if i'm just not that judgmental or if i lack awareness and knowledge of the human nature xD

CurlyGirl42 · Answer

Not someone diagnosed, but did date one with at least some traits of it.

Mamaganja · Answer

My ex is described as a “narcissist and a psychopath” by professionals.

winterfox10 · Answer

I have, yes. My most recent ex was a narcissist. Lesson learned. No hard feelings against her, but I won't be treading that road again.

HikerDude · Answer

That's pretty much all there is in this generation.

ForeverPeachyPie · Answer

Yes, I have. My ex was controlling and obsessive. He only thought what he wanted, rather than how I felt.

psychoticanimaIIover · Answer

There’s not a single person here that isn’t a narcissist. It’s just human nature to be obsessed with ourselves.

bulletbob555 · Answer

Yes but she told me she wasn't and I was wrong about her

legalboxers · Answer

lol.. You know my answer... a narcissist and someone who has BPD..

EaterPeter · Answer

I was in relationship with one for 12 years. We are all narcissists though.

Browneye57 · Answer

All women are narcissistic - it's called SOLIPSISM. It's hardwired in, part of their DNA. It is a defense mechanism to protect her and her offspring. Their TOTAL focus is on how things affect THEM.

MCheetah · Answer

Most women I've ever met were narcissists. So, yeah.

WowwGirl · Answer

🥂..

zagor · Answer

No but I endured 4 years of having one as president.

TOTEMPLASTER · Answer

Yes, I've dated women.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes! I have dated white girls, oops, narcissists sometimes.

OddBeMe · Answer

No but my wife has. She keeps trying to tell me about it but I won’t listen.

Meldrum · Answer

Yup, and shitcanned her as quickly as possible.

blondfrog · Answer

I think just about everyone in America has.

Anonymous · Answer

I am considered a narcissist and even just knowing myself I would advise against dating one strongly.

CheshireLokiison · Answer

Yes, she fucked me right up.

proNutro · Answer

No but I did live with my dad who is one.

Anonymous · Answer

Lol that's all women! So yeah.

Agape93 · Answer

... sadly yes.

worldscolide · Answer

yes i have, it was a nightmare

Anonymous · Answer

Me haha. I haven’t but I am one and wanna date one

Marco10 · Answer

Yes, and it ended badly.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, unfortunately.

HouseofWise · Answer

The real question is have you ever dated me

msc545 · Answer

Unfortunately yes, but not for very long.

Anonymous · Answer

My ex-wife was diagnosed as a "covert narcissist"

Guitarguy69 · Answer

Yes, I've dated ONE...

Hermes-Paris · Answer

Not for long...

ScotishLegend · Answer

can't say I have

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I have dated women.

Sia_nee · Answer

Hmmmmmm nope

COMMODOREII · Answer

Hell no!!

In_Trance · Answer

Probably

Tomtom9090 · Answer

Any straight man has

GAGSucksBalls1 · Answer

nope

Nachowedgie · Answer

Yup.

Autograf · Answer

No i am Good

jimmy2 · Answer

I married one omg

Slim57 · Answer

No never

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