It's not a problem for you to date a guy who just graduated college as long as you are not under the age of 18 and you are not still in high school. It's only an age difference of 4 years.
You asked him out for coffee. That's a pretty strong hint. He paid for your coffee, that's a good sign. Hopefully you did the courteous thing and at least offered to pay for your own coffee and thanked him after he paid for yours.
Hopefully you followed up after coffee with a text message or a phone call telling him you enjoyed hanging out with him for coffee and that you appreciated hearing about his past which was intriguing and interesting to listen to. Basically, I am hoping you did that and I am hoping that he at least has your number. If both of these aren't the case, read on.
1. First thing you want to do is get him to ask for your number. Notice how I said "get him to" which implies that you should NEVER give your number unless he asks for it. If he doesn't ask, hint that you want to give it to him by saying something like "Hey you are a cool guy, I wish we could talk more often when we don't see each other face to face." If he doesn't understand that hint he is either 1. Gay 2. Not interested or 3. Doesn't have any game and is pretty clueless.
2. Tell him that you enjoyed your coffee meet and he seems like a fun guy. Then tell him that you hope he's more interesting besides just when he is having coffee with you. "Hey you're an interesting guy over a cup of coffee, but how about next time when we do something else besides coffee? hopefully you are!" <-- See what this does? You are NOT asking him out on date (WHICH IS something you should NEVER DO) yet you are suggesting at the possibility of a future hang out session and you are challenging him or keeping him on is toes that he should be interesting all around. You seem like the one whose not desperate and that you have the feminine sensibility to test the waters with every guy who "seems" interesting enough to hold your attention. This...is what you want.
In both the steps above you get him to ask for your number and you get him to ask you out without actually volunteering that yourself. If he is NOT interested, then you save yourself the embarrassment of having asked him out. Even if he was interested and you asked him out, you set the way for how everything will turn out. Since you'd be initiating, you'd also be surprised why he doesn't call or ask you out on his own which will almost always happen, because you made it that way from the start. So don't ever do that. The key is to hint and be subtle about everything and if the guy doesn't react properly to your signals, you can move on.
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honestly... for ME age is no big deal... as long as its legal! If there's a connection, then there's a connection and you can't control who you're into. For me, being 27, 18 is a little young just because at that age you don't really know what you want in life and I don't see any foreseeable way I could have similar interests... she'd be looking to go to college and having a good time right when I'm just trying to settle down. But when I was 22, 18 was fair game. hope it anwers the question. it's possible he's just not into you like that and only sees you as a friend? no clue. sorry.
Uhm...me and my boyfriend are 17 and 20. There are a few differences, but I mean it's okay because honestly I'm more mature than he is a lot of the time lol.
If this guy seems that into you then go for it, you won't know what can happen until you try things out.
And if you guys are worried about people thinking it's weird in public, don't be. Most people don't care.
Nothing wrong with the age gap.
Is he definately single? If so tell him you enjoyed the time you had coffee and tell him you like him maybe suggest going to watch a movie? You could leave your number with him? If he doesn't act then he's not interested in that way.
I think 4 years of an age difference is okay.
At 18 I was into a 26 year old and looking back...he was too old, but 18 and 22 is okay. Just make sure he really likes you and is not only looking for something physical.
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I had an 18 year old girlfriend when I was 22. He might just prefer to date someone who is a little further on in life.
I don't know why age is such a big deal. If it were a 7-8 year age difference + I think it would be weird.If a 19 year old dated a 16 year old. I don't think its weird. if a 20 year old dated 25 year old, I don't think that's weird.
I don't think its weird or unusual at all. I remember I was in love with a girl I'm 3 years older than and she was love in with me. Her parents thought it was inappropriate and they are 7 years apart as adults. That's weird to me. That's like a teenager dating a 2nd grader. I was ridiculed and such.
This guy only is what? 4 or 5 years older than? Not big a deal, my parents are the same or 3 years apart, can't remember. But if you're a 7+ age diff. I think it would be weird.
I think you should go for him, I think he'd be into you but then he may think you aren't mature enough since you're just out of high school which you'd have to prove him wrong. But guess you have to find out.
Good LuckI agree with everything the anonymous user said, except what he said about a 19 y/o dating a 16 y/o. I think that's a bit weird. I think it depends on the age range - if a 10 y/o dated a 13 y/o, that would be weird, but if a 25 y/o dated a 28 y/o, that wouldn't be weird at all. It's mostly about the level of maturity - there's a huge difference between a 10 and 13 y/o, but not as much as they get older.
I'm 22 and I would love to date an 18 year old. however I go for 4 years. If I turned 23 I wouldn't date a 18 year old girl.
I think he treats you well if you don`t get the reaction you want from him, he may just simply not be interested in you more than a friend. And he may think your two young for him, especially if there`s a chance he has a younger sister that`s 18 then you may remind him of her, and he just wnats to treat you with sisterly love.No I think it's perfect! A 18 year old woman with a 22 year old. They say that you should divide a man's age by 2 and add 7 years to get the perfect age for his partner, so you're perfect. This is very common I don't know why you are worried :)
i don't think its an issue
but if you think about a 22 year old guy going out with a 18 year old girl sounds fine but if you reverse it to an 18 year old going out with a 22year old guy doesn't sound as right
but if your happy then go for it4 years is fine. And at 18+, the difference is much less significant than if you were younger.
I have a friend who is 16, just turned 17, who is going out with a 23 year old and has been out with older guys. I think that her case is one of the "not so right" age differences. Her mother is totally fine with it though. :SDon't worry about the age too much. As long as you're both okay with it, it's cool. My brother is 23 and his girlfriend is 19. Everything's working perfectly fine. 18 and 22 isn't a big deal.
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There's nothing wrong with that. I'm 18 too and I would date a 22 year old guy.
But maybe he cares about your age or see you as a friend. Nah age is a total non-issue. But it is to some people. I wouldn't think it is I mean a 4 year difference isn't that big.
my cousin is really similar to you, yeah some of our fam thinks its kinda weird but I don't think its that big a deal
then again the age you are may be difference if he said it wasn't a good idea.
Nah, that's not so bad :) In fact, that's a pretty good age range
I don't think its a issue. Maybe he's just teasing you though.
No its not an issue I'm 28 and my girlfriend is 39. Id date a 18 if me and my current girlfriend split up.
I dated an 18yo as a 22yo, we were together for 13 years
she ended up leaving to "find herself"Nope. Immaturity levels are about the same.
no that’s fine
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