How long does it take for a guy to develop feelings?

[Anonymous]

If we see eachother daily, text every day and hang out on weekends, how long would it take on average for a guy to develop feelings?

[VanillaSalt]

Generally men develop feelings while women lose feelings. A beautiful women putting in a fair effort with maintain most men for ever and his bond will grow the longer their together.


Women tend to be bound by feelings and it’s exceedingly easy to fail to meet their expectations. The moment you do studies show their the most likely to enact separation.


Men don’t need much other than attention and your... desire... respect... love... I don't know what word to use here. They want you to want them that’s usually enoug but women want to be earned every day.

[Asker]

That's a good point. However i do feel like guys lose interest in a woman that is otherwise near perfect, just because she puts in effort. The second she drops him then the guy will start chasing Her. Usually by then its to late though. So i agree with what you said: men develop feelings when woman loses them

[VanillaSalt]

Oh yes this I agree with. See men work so damn hard yet they tend to be what I call relationship lazy. They put forth the most minimal effort to maintain the status quo. They get complacent and are happy with the way things are. being happy they don’t need to improve because improvement comes with change and change breaks shit... especially people.

As for losing interest. Look good, do the housework, make babies, take care of babies, take care of baby maker... simple enough right? Women fail at most of these lol. Using my last relationship she didn’t show interest so I stopped trying. I stopped so she stopped and got lazy. We were together for almost 6 years and because she never said a simple thanks or initiated sex or made me feel like I was appreciated I lost interest. So I kinda do understand the losing interest part.

[Asker]

I am sorry to hear that! I feel like in my situation i am putting in a lot of effort because i want to make him feel wanted. Now suddenly im being ignored all together!. Im done with these hot and cold games haha. If he doesn't want to put in effort then i won't either.

[VanillaSalt]

Don’t do that. Talk with him if there’s an issue. Try and lay the problem out. Men are problem solvers if there’s an issue we’ll try and fix it. If they don’t take your complaint seriously then you should follow through. Before you talk with him decide if this is a deal breaker for you. If so and he don’t acknowledge it then leave. Ok well this is important to me if you not going to take me serious then We’re done.

Don’t dance around it. You both better off ending it rather than resenting each other. But be sure this issues a hill you want to die on. Because the relationship dies when we decide not to work through our problems.

[Asker]

Well said! Thank you

[hhH2traveler]

If you just met him and he doesn't have you already in the “friend zone” then i think about a week before you should start checking (dropping hints or something if your the brave type) or two or three weeks. If its longer than that i dont think he will make a move for a long time or may not be into you.

[Meldrum]

Right now. Most guys are looking for the same thing that most women want. Someone they can love and will have someone to love them back. Far too many have pie in the sky expectations of how their relationship should go. Trying to change the person you fell in love with is a recipe for disaster.

[VanillaSalt]

Right now most guys just want sex. I think the idea of relationships is a last on their mind thing with the state of dating and covid

[Meldrum]

@VanillaSalt So, with Covid still around, having sex with someone is different than having a loving relationship?

[VanillaSalt]

Being promiscuous is

[Meldrum]

@VanillaSalt You still have to be in physical contact with someone.

[VanillaSalt]

Someone isn’t the issue. It’s the 10 other someone’s your slutty ass is close too that’s the issue lol

Get it?

[Meldrum]

@VanillaSalt Are you saying the same thing I am? I am saying that a safe single, monogamous relationship is far safer than dating everyone.

[VanillaSalt]

That’s waat I’m saying don’t be a slut and covids not an issue be a slut and you got half the city sick.

[wheist9095]

About a month or so in my experience, depending on how many women are in my life as available partners at that time.

[magiusX26]

no clue, am not an average guy. i have had some i had feelings for within a few days (not love but something in that direction) and others it took a year or more.

[dudeinohio]

All depends on the situation. I've developed feelings for someone in as little as a day, and also it has taken me weeks... all depends on compatibility.