How long does it take to build an emotional connection with a guy? Is it good to build emotional connection first or bad?

[Sugar100]

I never had a real serious boyfriend that is with me daily, meet family, trips, pics, live together , none of that.

when I was 18 I met a guy and he was my first kiss, he texted me daily, for some time gave me ride home daily after work, we only had one date and had more dates til after few months/a year. But dates were only 1x a month, then 1x every 2wks. We had sex right away, but since I never had a boyfriend, at 18 I thought he was my boyfriend. But later after few years he says he’s single & he denies meet family , take cute pics , etc yet would act like a boyfriend. So without knowing I was a friends with benefits / situationship & I didn’t even know that was a thing.

now I’m 27, and still never had a boyfriend but I’m talking to new guy. My job is like a highschool & normal to have a boyfriend/ girlfriend there.
since Dec he’s been pursuing me daily but I only talked to him 1x a wk & missed more chances to talk/spend time due to nerves.

I see him daily at work, and no sex. It’s just talking blissfully in person to eachOther building an emotional connection, touching shoulder, back gently, blissful glares into the eyes, joking being playful.

but it’s very very slow progress. No date yet. We almost had chance go on a date 3 wks ago but I missed the chance long story. No ride in car yet.

I feel with the first guy we don’t have emotional spritual connection at all.

[ohsheeT]

I don't know if I have ever build an emotional connection. For me it's one of the first things that happen. It's an Energy that that flows through me. It's there Energy abd the more I'm around them the stronger it gets

[Shiprex]

Ask the new guy out on a date. It seems you're in for that and if you want to take it further then you can bring that up.

[PavlovsCogk]

What is an "emotional connection"? This has to be dissected because of the nonsense i see below about how "men are poor communicators" according to haters of men.

You mean emotional attraction? That's completely irrelevant to communication skills. Communication matters for the other part, the securing of the relationship, being on good terms, but nothing with emotional atteaction, which happens really quickly. ﾠ

Especially since you call it "spiritual connection", you know that time is not linear for spirit. So, the answer is that this type of connection can be felt shortly before you even meet them. Which just demonstrates plain and clearly how fucking stupid is the advice of the man-hating influencers.

[Anonymous]

Dear God. Ask him out already. I've seen your other post and you're not gonna get anywhere just watching him from afar at the work place.

Sorry, but you need to put on your big girl pants and ask him out for drinks or something. If he's actually interested he'll say yes. If he's not he'll politely decline and you can move on.

[Nikki1989]

That depends on the man. Many men are bad communicators.

[Entertained_Adult]

Thanks. Helpful.

[WhitneySnow]

It takes a couple months. What you’re doing with the new guy is totally normal.

[Bklynbadboy12]

That depends on you and the guy it's different for everyone

[jahaims]

It obviously varies

[Smile456]

Talk to him