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I know there’s many factors
- how you click
- are convos deep and meaningful
- intimacy I get but I think if you genuinely like someone intimacy just sparks regardless, it’s not hard to kiss it’s not difficult to have sex that’s my opinion but I figured to ask this question of how you define connection.
Because I tend to find a lot of girls say “I didn’t feel a connection with him” even though he was funny, charming, sweet, loyal, handsome. Personally, I think women will reject the thought of being with a certain guy who has many great traits because she’s hurt from her past or has unrealistic expectations in my opinion.
What Girls Said
Just because you think you are funny, charming, sweet and so on doesn't mean that I will. Your idea of humor and being sweet to a girl might differ from mine. That is the whole thing about clicking with someone. You can be a great guy but not a great guy for me. I don't reject guys or girls for that matter that I really get along with. I'm not going to get into a relationship with someone that might be a decent person but just doesn't have that thing that makes us click, whatever it might be.
I get that but if you are genuinely laughing at what a guy says you have to eliminate “idea of humour” that’s why I don’t get what girls mean these days tbh. I’ve seen women be IN LOVEEE with guys but later become miserable and regret her decision. Women think based on emotion and guys think more practical and level headed. That’s no knock on females it’s just something I’ve witnessed in life.
Is a relationship based on an emotional bond or one out of practicality?
Emotional bond for sure, but let me say this, but usually what girls will say is I didn’t feel a bond with him because he has fuck boy vibes or he just wants sex or we didn’t talk about anything significant or he’s not asking intelligent, articulated questions about her which is why she feels like the convo is dull. But let’s say a girl says he made a good impression and genuinely a good dude and handsome. If she’s still like no, that’s most likely
More on her than him to be real. No one is perfect in this world, and I think younger girls look for perfection. Young women have to unfortunately deal with bad experiences in their 20s to realize things in their 30s, 40s and beyond. Same goes for guys chasing the wrong girls. But I was watching a video by a female psychologist who said woman who are more beautiful will tend to be more ignorant because she will always think she has better suitors but the grass is not always greener on the other side. Loyalty and a guy being grounded doesn’t seem like something women care about. If it’s about a connection then they have to be clear with that. If a guy is trying and asking smart questions for her and she’s acting cold that’s not on him it’s more on her being cold which is dumb in my opinion. I know you’re gonna read this and say well maybe she doesn’t like him physically, ok be that as it may, but unless he looks like an ugly ass fat troll, guys aren’t expecting every woman to look like Pamela Anderson from baywatch of the 90s.
im not trying to be harsh towards women nowadays, i know you may read this as a bitter jaded guy, but i have 3 older sisters, i grew up around women so i somewhat understand how women think and i dont ever want to force a girl to like me because thats dumb and not authentic. But I think thats why its important as a guy to take a chance and talk to girls in person. Behind a screen is not say on a dating app after months of talking then two meet up and she doesn't feel a connection. I think within the first 2 wks if a guy has good vibes, have a simple coffee date, it shouldn't drag months because the spark two people had may fizzle out. But I enjoy talking about life, philosophy, getting to know her better, not talking about sex, not touching her or saying come back to my place to "chill", I want to conduct myself as a gentleman so she feels safe. The way girls operate is different because I've talked to plenty of girls who feel scorned by guys or men in their lives including absent fathers and usually girls like that are hard to change tbh. I've dealt with girls like that and I tend to have a soft heart for girls like that because I want to help and show her not all guys are bad. But usually if a girl isn't going to work on herself she will always be negative or blame a guy or have a snappy attitude with him. End of the day, I dont care how beautiful a girl is, I want to be with someone who is sweet as well, just like women and girls say i want a guy whos loyal and committed and sweet. Relationships can't be one sided.
I don’t fuck before marriage.
Well that’s good, do you think guys care more about sex then building a connection with girls? Hence why females tend to not feel a connection?
I don’t fuck before marriage.