Does choosing to accept being a side chick make you not worthy of being taken seriously?

[Anonymous]

There’s this guy I have been talking to on and off for while now. We stopped or more so he stopped communicating with me when he started to fall hard for another girl. He seemed to really love her. He would always randomly make post about her. About wanting to marry her etc I remember him even telling me about how he felt about her a few months back while we were still messing around sexually. I felt some way but at the same time I didn’t because him and I never really talked about anything serious but I assumed he didn’t want anything serious with anyone so when he told me his deep feelings for her, despite him sleeping with me, when he cut me off fully to actually build a serious relationship with her I was sort of hurt but it was nothing I couldn’t get past. We stopped talking for months up until recently. She broke up with him and now it seems he’s using me and another girl to fill his void. We met up, talked, had sex etc but he also has met up with another girl and did the same thing. He told the both of us about one another to remind us that it isn’t anything serious and that it’s just sex because who he wants isn’t around. He didn’t say it like that but in fewer words he did but I feel cheap for accepting to be the girl he only comes to when the one he really wants doesn’t want to deal with him and is no longer around.

[Anonymous]

I doesn’t really matter what anyone here thinks. What do *you* think? Aside from the obvious damage it’s doing to your self esteem, you’re really just spinning your wheels in the mud. To him, you’re a step up from a sex toy. That’s it; he has told you as much and his behavior confirms it. If you want more, just leave him and pursue a real relationship with someone who’s going to take you seriously.

[Dontaaa]

I mean, that's litteraly the role of a side chick. It doesn't matter if you're there or not as long as the main chick is there.

Side chicks are basically just booty calls, you're not going to be taken seriously. The main chick is called "main" for a reason.

[JohnArkansas]

Yes, you clearly don't have respect for yourself so why should anyone else?

[7771999]

Don't do that to yourself