Is he being controlling?

[Anonymous]

So I told my now boyfriend about a guy I had sex with and that I'm still close with, I've. Been friends with him for 10 years my boyfriend wants me to get rid of him I told my boyfriend Im not interested in sex with the guy, I still would like to talk to him once in a while is my boyfriend being reasonable or controlling?

[Serkee]

I wouldn't want my girlfriend hanging around a guy she used to bang either. Would you want him hanging out with an ex girlfriend he used to have sex with? It's totally understandable to be uncomfortable with that. And even if he trusts you, that doesn't mean he trusts the other guy not to make advances. Respect his boundaries or don't, but you gotta understand where he's coming from.

[Asker]

Yeah it makes sense I've just never have been in a situation like this as he's my second relationship

[Darkest-Knight]

Yes he is being unreasonable and controlling. Under no circumstances does he have the right to tell you who you can or cannot be friends with. Personally it sounds like your boyfrien is the one who should be gone.

[Anonymous]

I’m not getting rid of any friends I had before my new boyfriend, and I wouldn’t ask that of him either. Simply put this is a matter of trust — he either trusts you or he doesn’t. Because at the end of the day, for anything to happen with you and anyone else regardless of who they are, you’d have to consent to it and he should know you’d never do that.

[KrakenAttackin]

Your generation brings your own problems on yourselves.

[Opinion Owner]

What’s the problem?

[KrakenAttackin]

Op... still in contact with a guy you use to fuck will not go over well with any man of value. Only a simp would put up with this.

[Opinion Owner]

The way she wrote it made the hookup sound like a one time thing, and if she has no desire for it to happen again, I guess it’s hard to imagine her ending a 10 year friendship for this new person. Now if hooking up was a reoccurring thing in the past then my answer would different for sure.

[KrakenAttackin]

Op... In which case the current relationship isn't a priority to her. The fact she can't intuitively understand this tell me she is damaged.

[Opinion Owner]

I hear you and I’m not saying you’re wrong. My opinion is only circumstantial.

[KrakenAttackin]

Fair enough.

[MsProsperity]

Next time you’ll be asking ‘what should I do? my boyfriend left me for another woman’

[HighValue]

Any good quality man won't want a woman that behaves like you.

[DrPepper12]

What a sad petulant narcissist!! Tell him to GFY you will be friends with who you want and if that insecure, Bye Felicia!

[KrakenAttackin]

Ha! Way to kill a relationship.

[Asker]

What should I do

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... the fact you have to ask says you are not serious about your boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

Duh, of course he is.