Is this the first time in the past 4.5 years he makes you feel like he's trying to control you? I just don't understand people who feel like they are entitled to make decisions like these for their partner. I mean they are allowed to share how they feel or what fears they might have, but they should never be able to have the final say.
A little backstory, I suffered from separation anxiety a couple years ago and my fiancee got the opportunity to go on a vacation with her cousin. She would be gone for a week. Now I was all over the place emotionally and my anxiety was sky high. But I realised me feeling this way was my problem and not hers. She should take this opportunity and have a great time. I dealt with being alone for a week and she came back all happy with amazing stories to tell.
What I'm trying to say is it doesn't matter what kind of problems he thinks there are or what anxieties he has, if you feel comfortable with going and it makes you happy, and to be surrounded by your sister and friends, go for it and have a great time. You shouldn't let his words or feeling have such an impact on your life that you'll be living the way he wants you to.
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He hates DJs that much?
What's his problem?
What path is he talking about?
You are just going to a performance with your sis and friend. Does he expect you to stay at home all day? That you are only supposed to be going out to such events with him? Then tell him to f*** off.
I see both sides here. I fully understand your position, but let's be real - those shows are absolutely synonymous with drinking, drugs, and anonymous sex. As a DJ and a concert-goer (388 shows to date), DJ shows are the most extreme of all.
Millions of girls have stories about how they went to a show, got drunk or high, and then did crazy things that they usually regret doing. I understand why he would have some very strong feelings about that.
In the end, this is just one of a million reasons why LDRs don't work. If he could go with you, it would be fine, but when one partner goes out socializing when the other isn't present, that is always going to be a source of tension in a LDR. That's why, unless the couple is married and it's a job assignment or military deployment or something along those lines, you should NEVER get into or stay in a LDR. They just don't work.
he's so dumb and seriously have trust issues. Why couldn't he trust you when you have put your trust in him. This type of man doesn't deserve you who make a big deal about some thing. Just go watch your concert and have fun, just leave him be. Try finding a better man , who trusts you. he's going to be too controlling when you move in.
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You will hate him and yourself if you don't go.
Go if he's insecure and wants to breakup with you over that screw him. A long distance relationship for 4.5 years must be rough and honestly to long to be long distance in my opinion.
He said he's happier by himself.Very controlling behavior. What he doesn't seem to realize is that you can always go and not tell him and there is not a damn thing he can do about it, so he should've just trusted you.
So now you need to think to yourself is the relationship worth keeping if you have to lie to him to enjoy things you like or do what he says at the expense of your own freedom. What choice is there?Does he let you go out regarding other things? It doesn't matter if you don't. You need to realize that the DJ issue could be a lot bigger for him than for you. If he stops you from going out in a lot of areas, then it's controlling. Otherwise you have to realize that his views on what is too sever is different than your's.
The f is ldr. Look this goes for everyone!.
"Break up the relationship if u don't the way it's going. Don't be stupid and argue when the fukn world is full of people, that may deal with ur ass"He is being an insecure asshole. Call his bluff. You can do better.
he is showing you his "true colors" he thinks that you "MUST Obey" at all times... is that the life you want?
Break up with this idiot. Your relationship won't get any better going forward, in fact it's going to get worse.
What was it like when you were physically together?
How far do you and him live from each other and how often do you get to see each other due to the distance?
He’s definitely being controlling. Are you happy with him?
Have you ever met in person yet
leave him
he's too controlling
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