Ladies 😉 do you find a assertive guy attractive?

[aquarius21]

I would like to hear your responses. Also tell me if you're introverted or extroverted. thanks!

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Alright! thanks ladies! Here's a follow-up: Would you say that most females (friends, or other) think the same way that assertiveness is attractive?

[Siren777]

Yes i do find an assertive type attractive. As he is sure of himself. Knows what he wants and is confident. Most Aquarius males are like that haha...

I am an ambivert mix of introvert and extrovert. People who know me very well consider me extroverted and those who don't introverted lol. Sagittarius female what can I say?

I cannot speak for most females. Stats constantly change with the times. It's hard to know what is in for that decade or when some are brainwashed by specifics of what's trending example... LV crocs at some point someone might have said ewww gross, but as soon as they saw some blogger wear it or celebrity they change their minds. The way 50 shades shaped certain mindsets. Way off topic so it depends on the individual if they give into trends etc

[Screenwriter]

I don't want him to be more assertive than I am.
I'm fairly on the line between extrovert and introvert. I easily have conversations with anyone. Can turn myself "ON" when I need to. But like to retire to my home to recharge after having to be "ON."

I don't feel the need to be with someone who wants to be "in charge." I don't need anyone making decisions for me. I'm my own woman.

[luckyinloveandlife]

You also are a man... soooooo

[Screenwriter]

@luckyinloveandlife I am NOT a man. I was born a biological woman and I remain one. Just because I might not be a typical woman does not make me a man. I don't like ANYONE who's more assertive than me. Man or woman.
I have a strong personality and I resent someone trying to make choices for me. THAT's what I'm talking about. Believe what you want to. There is broad variety among men and women.
Just because that's not what YOU are like, doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
I like easygoing, flexible men who let me be who I am. I like to run the show. I'm not insensitive to what a man would like or want either, but I'm the assertive one.
My mom was the same way and my dad was easygoing. Both were VERY strong people. But someone has to lead. I prefer that it's me.

[aquarius21]

So, considering both of your points, there's a expectation of gender role for men to be assertive, while there's some, regardless of gender who are more assertive then men.

[Screenwriter]

Expectation? Maybe it's more traditional. I don't expect it. Guess it's according to how you were raised. I didn't grow up around retiring women. We stand toe to toe with our men in my family. That's the way I like it.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Introvert here! And yes, assertive, confident guys are VERY attractive.

Whereas aggressive guys are NOT. Yes, there is a difference.

[crazyish]

Most definitely. I prefer it when a guy is up front and confident. I respect them more, especially in the bedroom. Just as long as he respects me being assertive as well.

I'm both introverted and extroverted. I don't identify with one more than the other.

[Teddy999]

I find guys who are assertive attractive I'm an introvert. But I like someone who's assertive and extroverted in general around everyone else but then he acts really shy and awkward around me which confuses me.

[udon1knowm3]

I think it's attractive, just as long as they're not controlling. Theirs a difference between being assertive and confident and being controlling. If they can roll with the punches instead of freaking out that it's not going their way, then it's okay.

[luckyinloveandlife]

Yep, my husband is assertive and the leader in our relationship, and I’m happy and comfortable. I know he will keep me safe, and I don’t have to be stressed over little things. 👍 super sexy!

[luckyinloveandlife]

I’m a mix of introverted and extroverted

[Gwenhwyfar]

Depends if he’s confident or just cocky

I’m introverted but I seem extroverted

You an Aquarius?

[aquarius21]

Yes I am. Let's say not to be cocky. Like what are notable examples that you would find assertiveness attractive? Taken that he's not going to be a dick.

[Gwenhwyfar]

A guy coming up to me starting a convo being charming then eventually asking for my number or my Snap

[Sarahnah]

I like being the assertive one, but if he's just as assertive as me then that's also awesome. More assertive than me is a no-no!

[elly91]

I'm a cross between and introvert and an extrovert if that makes sense to you and if I'm attracted to the guy in question chances would be very high that I'd find his assertiveness attractive...

[JosyJosy]

Of course. Knowing he isn't a pushover is reassuring

[z玲珑剔透]

Confident and assertive is the man of my dreams