Why do I keep scaring off any men that I tried to be messaging and still end with no reply email?

[CoolKatie]

I am just wondering do guys that I message through a dating sites. get scared since I know what I want to look for long term relationship or serious relationship. why does this always seem to be now happen. it just gets boring very quickly. It is not my fault that I can't get the guys that I do want but there too scared to commitment or tried to go different. some time when I look at guys profile and see doesn't say any bio or short. is a turn off for me. same if they only have pic of them self. I am just very confused now. No wonder why people give up with dating is not even worth any effort any more.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah I have hit and miss with dating sites.

tbh I prefer meeting people socially rather than electronically.

a lot can depend on how full on you are with relationship side of things.

I had one girl almost picking the day and kept going on about moving in.

I really want a couple real dates under my belt before I consider if things will work out.

the wording on some profiles are also at times lame or overly desperate.

Also a lot of guys on say Instagram, have some basic stuff of themselves and then loads of pets, cars, coffee machines etc.

girls tend to loads of themselves, pets and that’s it,

guess a lot comes down to thought process between the two.

Some guys are also really wank at making conversation and with some of my mates I am 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️ When they chat to girls.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

You may not be scaring off guys it could be that guys are interested in one thing and deep down they won't tell a good girl, trust me there are guys who act like any other guy

[CoolKatie]

Yet I seem to get the guys with mental health issues and I don't even want to deal with guys with mental health isuse and just make super sad and nothing seem to being right for me.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@coolkatie Yeah I know how you feel

[CoolKatie]

I got a message from the one guys saying happy boyfriend and I told I don't like to go to fast and I would prefer to go slow and yet know each other.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@coolkatie Yeah, I agree you want go slow with the guy and just be friends in the beginning

[CoolKatie]

If a guy doesn't any learning disabilities or seem to be depressed blocked them. If something go to far. He does but didn't say any about the what the learning disabilities is. Is this werid. Saying happy boyfriend.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@coolkatie Yeah sort of sounds weird for him to say, Happy Boyfriend?

[CoolKatie]

I went on Google and search location and was also too far. I sent two other guys.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks For Most Helpful Guy :)

[Anon621]

I don't think you are scaring people off. People will have different preferences. For example you don't like guys profiles that have short bios but other people might like guys with short bios or might not care and try to message the guy to get to know him more if the guy responds. I personally believe that getting someone you are interested in to respond online is extremely difficult due to a difference in preferences which can lead to the guy choosing not to respond or ghost you which means they read your message but don't reply. Of course be careful online because there are more fake people but otherwise there's no way for you to know when or if someone will respond and sometimes you won't even know why they chose to not respond.

[Nalix]

It's less about scaring men off and more about competing with our constantly distracted nature. We are easy to distract, for the most part.

[Jjpayne]

Online dating can be a pain...

[CoolKatie]

I know. I'm using a disabled dating. don't come too strong and play games to get the guys that I want then.