Does anyone ever feel hopeless about life & their accomplishments?

[Anonymous]

I could not feel more down on myself, I figured at 26 I would have established a better sense of self and accomplishment. I have a job that I enjoy doing but I don’t like my coworkers and think (well actually know) that I suck at. I go a few weeks with doing okay and then my boss brings corrections to my attention ever so often. Should that happen to someone that’s been in the field for 2 years? NO. I suck at video games but I do love them, I’ve been playing since I was 8. Should that be the case for someone that’s been playing for almost 2 decades? NO. I enjoy baking, I made banana bread today and thought I followed the steps correctly. How did it end up? Terrible. Should this be the case for someone who’s baked long enough to know better? NO. I have had cooking disasters back to back recently, I don’t know what’s going on. I’m trying new things but they’re supposed to be easy. I’m not good at anything. I cannot name one thing that I can confidently say I rock at, I don’t think I ever will. Anyone else feel this way about themselves?

Yes

No

[Lynx122]

I go between feeling great and being proud of myself to feeling so behind and just chained down. I do know that I'm doing well for my situation (I was diagnosed with autism only 2 years ago) but being constantly confronted with my limitations wears me down. And I feel like I can't keep up with other people in a lot of ways or I'm missing out on stuff because of my social difficulties. I need to be reminded how far I've come and that I'm doing great and that I'm pushing myself very far for someone of my constitution and I have to be patient :D.

I do have strengths without a doubt, but it is a challenge to apply those strengths in the world in an impactful way. I'm 30 and my biggest accomplishment in my eyes is to finally get diagnosed and to heal from the bullying I received in high school. Those two things really weighed on me and distracted me, it was a big deal to put them aside. I will never be able to compete in the job market because my energy consumption is just to high. I'm going my own way and we'll see what happens.

I feel like you're too hard on yourself. I've played video games since I was a kid and I suck at most of them. Right now I started playing Valorant and I love the game but I'm so bad at just the aiming and shooting part. Everybody makes mistakes in the fields you described and just because your boss says something to you that he'd like different doesn't mean you fucked up. As I've gotten older I've realized more and more we can only make a real impact in small areas. I have to limit myself to one thing that I think will be worth sacrificing for and putting in all my free capacity and then it can be something good that stands out and makes a difference. everywhere else we're just gonna be average or good and sometimes terrible. It's just life.

[exitseven]

Everyone goes through this. I'm sure there are things that you are good at. Playing video games is supposed to fun and not life or death. I like playing basketball but I am not very good and I am almost 50 so I can't keep up like I used to. I sill like to play.
You hate your job. That might be why you are not the best at it. I don't think you suck at it but just need to focus more. You are only 26 so if you want to do something else, this is a good time to do it. Don't wait until you are 38 like I did.
So the cake didn't come out so good. You learn from the mistake and try again.
I did a lot of home improvement projects last summer. Not all of them look professional but I learned from them and hopefully will do better next time.
Let yourself off the hook and be kind to yourself.

[dark-hippie-soul]

I'm 37. I've been married and divorced twice. My employment resume, let's just say I have a lot of experience in a lot of fields cuz I can't seem to stay at a job for to long. The only thing I have that no one can take from me is my car. Now let me see if I can explain why we feel the way we so. All my life I have never felt good enough. I was adopted at 22 months old. So there is a lot. of abandonment issues. My dad was my best friend. I lost him in May of 2019. All I ever wanted was to make him proud and now when I don't succeed at something, and it can be anything, my instant thought is he wouldn't be proud. Do you see where this is going? We are literally destroying ourselves. In all reality we should be telling ourselves that I doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. And I mean anyone. As long as we are happy with us then screw everyone else. Trust me, I know its easier said then done. One thing I have learned to do is set smaller, more realistic and attainable goals. I have found that reaching a goal, no matter how big or small has boosted my self confidence. Just an idea.

[Steve1071]

You’re definitely not alone. Don’t be so hard on your self when it comes to cooking it’s a skill that needs practice, practice and eventually you get it right. Video games are what they are just for fun so don’t beat yourself up because you can’t solve a puzzle or get past a level. Employers will never be perfect and you can’t expect every co-worker to be friendly or respectful and making mistakes at your job is part of life you live with and learn from them so you can be a better employee and person.

Sending a hug your way

[deshsippingtea]

Well thats your story in your book so far , so maybe instead of seeing things in a bad way why not improve it, like “ aww i suck, but hey at least i did something “ . You did fail at baking , but thts literally life right. Find positivity i guess thts what i wod say

[frostedmyflakes]

I voted No. Instead of becoming a nihilist or giving up, i just felt happier inside by adopting an indifferent attitude. I care, but i don't let the care consume me to the point of i'm either a success or a failure.
And i feel like being a happier person inside and doing a better effort at things, since i've been maintaining that ethos for, oh, about a year or so now, maybe two years since.

[MoreWhineMoreWhine]

Yeah, you’re not alone. Not everything in life turns out to be perfect. Just as long as you enjoy doing it but do try your best to master it or become better at it.

[Anonymous]

Nope. Made my first million now i'm working on multiple millions.

[pokenstroke]

you are your own worst enemy, lighten up on yourself, no one is perfect