Do you ever feel like you won't make it in life? What do you do when you feel very low?

[Anonymous]

There are very few days that I feel good about myself. Most of the time, well more like all the time I feel like I won't make it in life and that I'll regret it when all my friends have reached their goals.
Currently I've completed my undergraduate and I'm stuck. I don't know where to go from here. Even if I get a job it's not like I'll get paid the best even tho I'm a dentist.
So much pressure of doing master's which I don't think I have the mental stability to opt for right now.
The pressure that comes with clearing the entrance exam, very few seats, and the amount of money private institutions take towards tuition fee. It's not worth it if I get paid peanuts afterwards.
What does every one do when your stuck in life and not knowing what to do?

[kerrylouise]

My friends is a dentist and they also mentioned about the salary...
I think for now, work to make ends meet doing the dentistry if you can tolerate it.
Spend as much time outside of work pursuing your real hobbies and interests. Or socialising/exercising for your mental wellbeing.

If you have a passion for a side hobby, then think about making it a side hustle.

If you compare your life to your friends, then I'd suggest a social media break and focusing on 2 small achievable goals you can do, like exercising daily or twice a week. Trying a new hobby... or learning something new.

If you have absolutely no energy to invest in a hobby or goal, or even exercise, then I would go all I'm on lots of self care. Self reflection and gratitude. What things have you achieved that your proud of, what did you learn about yourself the past year?

I've been reading a book on self compassion by Kristen neff. My supervisor got in me, and even though some of it doesn't feel relatable, it's helped me think differently about the self cristiam I have about myself.

Reading is a good way of escaping. Not only does it distract from thoughts, it slows the mind down.
I guess it depends on how bad you feel any given day.

I feel your pain though- I've done a masters and still only on a 23k salary. It sucks. Can't afford my own place. Can't go travelling. I live from hand to mouth. I just know it's temporary if I try and do small things to change the situation, like a second job or saving where I can.
It's hard though, seeing others doing more is difficult, but everyone has their own path in life and I am a big believer in 'everything happens for a reason'. What is meant to be will be. Just do the small things you can and don't be hard on yourself

[kerrylouise]

Also, when your at a cross roads in life. Always think about what it is that will make you happy, both long term and short term.
So for now because your so overwhelmed from what I sense I would think about how to comfort yourself and get through the day to day things.
I would also try and think boot where the pressure is coming from, as it sounds like you put a lot of pressure on yourself because you want more for yourself, which is fine, but probably isn't helpful right now.
Take some time to breathe and stop. Focus on one thing at a time. So the exam- if your sitting it, plan some time to practice.
If you don't want to do a masters- don't. There is no rush.
I look back at doing my masters and undergrad an even wonder why I did them at that age. I wish I could do them now.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing.
Focus on what you need to do right now to be happier about your situation.. if you want to earn better money, think about ways of doing that, is it sitting the exam, having a side hustle or saving money and cutting back.
Do you wish you socialised more?
Made more memories etc etc

It's easy to worry about the future whilst forgetting to enjoy the present... I also think some days, fuck it. Why am I worrying. Life is too short.
Every day will be different so take it day by day until you have a better understanding of the full picture

[Anemone978]

You got to at least try... don't think about the negatives, just move forward. Once you are working you could get better options and opportunities.. you will meet more people if people like you at work there is always a chance of being offered something better so just go forward. But obviously it is up to you what you want to do... if you want to change and go for something else you could always do that...

[ibodi]

My father want me to learn music when I was child. He said that is property. I did not know. I had low point too but these appear when I was low. When I did it, I don't need to go out spending money then raise up again and those people go out as me is getting to empty as Taylor swift. Now the question is how to built higher noe be like her. the lesson still in my heart. as those people go to work some of them find spending more money without working because they work without time to spend money. I think true needing is strong to feel existence if they work with the value they wish that is better to produce what they want. then sound like everything goes on the way. maybe we just did not consider the environment when capitalism come.

[ibodi]

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[Anonymous]

All I can say is…. We are in the same boat. I regret my degree too… it’s so hard finding a job that pays you what you’re “worth”

My degree was worth almost 100k… and Im getting offered entry level jobs at $14-$16… I can’t make more unless I have experience, certifications or a grad degree..

I feel stuck. Im back at home… it’s weighing on my mental health. Im not happy at all