Guys do you like it when girls are upfront?

[Anonymous]

OK so today I met a cute guy in the library i didn't wanna waste time so I went and spoke to him for a few mins and asked for his insatgram.

Later on that day I was talking to some of my friends that were girls they all said that I should have not done that.

I was just wondering do you guys like it when girls approach you first or do you like to approach the girls first.

[NamerOfStars]

Here's the thing: the way relationships begin is by one of the partners talking to the other. Usually, it's the guy who does the approaching; not always, but usually. We evolved to more-or-less work that way, and our cultures reinforced that behavior pattern. The need for that is long in the past, but many people haven't got the message yet; much more of our behavior is driven by instinct than people like to admit. Logically, why shouldn't a woman be socially able to ask a man out? There's isn't much reason. Heck, if it became more common, we'd see more (and, ideally, happier) relationships form, women would be more (socially) motivated to take risks and better able to handle being rejected, and men would better understand their own desirability. Both genders would gain sympathy for the other's typical experience; it's win-win!

But that's in the abstract. Now, most guys are going to like seeing you take the initiative- not all, but most. Unless your opening line is something like "I want to have your babies!", even those who are put off are likely only going to be slightly so. A relationship isn't just one conversation, after all.

[Twalli]

Guys like it when girls approach them first. It just almost never happens. I remember this YouTube video where this girl got questions that girls are too afraid to ask guys and asked them to 3 college age guys. All three said they would love it if the girl asked the guy out first, but it doesn't happen. You initiating a relationship (even if it's not romantic now) is a good thing. Guys like it.

[Truthatanycost]

Would you like it if a guy you saw, sat back, fluttered his eyelashes, smiled... flicked his hair and positioned his body into an open and receiving sort of stance in the hopes that you'd come over to him?

[Cláudio93]

You should do whatever you want. If you want to approach a guy, do it. Guys are used to the norm, which is, they man up and approach, confident, like a man should do, as society is used to see. But when you want something you go for it.
You have more balls, than some guys, I tell you that.

[Patzer_adi]

Yes ofcourse coz it's easy for us guys not to struggle much. I have struggled sa lot to ask a girl but if the girl ask first I am ohk, like my burden us less 😅. Yeah if anyone from the two approaches first no problem. dont think about it too much it's just what goes after that approach..

[K-I-S-S]

Well, i personally don't like it from behind.

Some guys might.

So i prefer girls to be in the front.




Yes, ask guys out, would make his year. If he is not an asshole player. No he isn't changed.

[SenseiSeptred]

Some of the better women in my life came to me first, so those friends of yours are completely wrong about what you said. You did the right thing, and many men will completely appreciate it guaranteed, and I am saying that as a former-born of yours.

[ChiTown33]

Don't listen to those b***es because you got the nerve to go after what you want and they don't. He either liked you or he didn't and whether you spoke ti him first has bearing on that.

[TheUniqueOne96]

Never been in the situation, but yeah, I think I'd like it.

[NathanDavis]

I sure do... my five friends that are girls, and two ex-girlfriends did that.

[Anonymous]

Why can't that happen more often? Tons of guys love and admire that of girls but of course can't speak for every guy though, but I know me personally always hated how guys are expected to be the initiators in starting the relationship

[Tstrbrainer]

I like it when women are being upfront.

And if you are interested in quite shy guys, it would be sometimes better to be upfront, if you want it to get somewhere

[Stevefiveo]

You did the right thing otherwise you wouldn't have met him again.

[WalkingBassist]

Yes. Because our minds work in a logical manner. So, most of the time we are doing our best to "guess" what will make you happy.

[teamvic]

I would like it. Nice change of pace, you're fine

[genericname85]

some guys do, some don't. simple as that.

[Joshua213]

Id rather her approach me yeah

[AydenHazor]

I'm all for the girl approaching and bring upfront

[Iron_Man]

Because I wanna know where they’re coming from

[anylolone]

Yep.