Guys, how long do you date before asking her to be your girlfriend?

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BillHe1 · Accepted Answer

For me, it was about 3 months, and soon the "girlfriend" title became "fiancee" and very soon afterwards "wife". All in less than a year. How time flies, lots of flirting and "making out", some hand-jobs and maybe if I was lucky, a little getting my finger wet playing in her pussy; but NO "Hookups" as in today's standards.

The 1st Hookup was in a Hotel Suite on our Wedding Night, as we very slowly (or should I say too expeditiously) attempted to Consummate our Marriage; which proved to be a very "embarrassing 1st attempt" for both of us.

Although I don't agree to early promiscuous sex, I think that an earlier Hookup probably also embarrassing, in our situation might have provided the essential learning aid and less pressure on our Wedding Night.

In today's Hookups which I feel are too many and too fast in "dating" or "girlfriend" relationship situations; are probably very essential in learning what or who you are actually looking for in a longer relationship.

Apope16 · Accepted Answer

NEVER. No guy should be asking about relationship status. Thats the womans job. Its the guy who must be mysterious and allusive. Non committal. The moment a guy does this she's bored with him and looking for a new challenge.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

My girlfriend and I dated for about two months. I never asked her to be my girlfriend during that period. I would set up dates on the phone when she reached out and would keep texting conversations short like 1 to 3 messages. She asked me "where is this going?" And it went into the relationship from there.

I didn't ask her because when I did that in the past with women I was talking to, it turned them off and made them disinterested. Women tend to be more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear. I knew I liked my girlfriend enough to want to keep seeing her and hanging out while we were dating because I actually had fun with her and we had good chemistry. Time always flew by and I didn't feel pressured and felt relaxed.

She was leagues better than other women I dated in the past which is why I am with her now.

Leavesbound · Answer

I have a policy. I only date a woman if I think she might make a good wife. If I'm still dating her then I have not changed my mind. If we can still stand each other by the third date then when that date is about to conclude I ask her if she'd like to be my girlfriend.

DamnSam · Answer

Usual at 4th to 5th date, just because I don't want to wake up one day and she says that we never talked about it so she thought there is no responsibility of a real relationship...

Happened two times... both times I found out that they actual dated other guys while they spend time with me which really did hurt because we where in this over a half year...

But, it's the wrong way to ask for a relationship with her... ask if she would be happy to be in an relationship with you, not the other way around...

Anonymous · Answer

If you are dating a guy and consider yourself his girlfriend... then guess what? You're his girlfriend. We are not talking about getting engaged to be married here just that you feel he and you are now boyfriend and girlfriend. You don't ask to be someone's boyfriend or girlfriend... you ask to like get married or "Hey, wanna have a kid together?" Though, I must admit that would freak me and most guys out.

NathanDavis · Answer

I never have, I was either asked (twice), or it "just happened" (twice).

loveslongnails · Answer

Are you really 30 something? It has nothing to do with the length of time that you date. It has everything to do with your commitment to one another. Have you heard the expression "if you have to ask how much it costs, you can't afford it"? Well, if you have to ASK if your boyfriend and girlfriend because you don't KNOW, then you're not.

the007datingcoach · Answer

The woman should tell you. Women are more emotional than men and should bring it up the question when they are ready.

EarnestBaly · Answer

I think a big part of that has everything to do with how long you have known each other? If you already have a "friendship" established of at least like a year, I would think just a couple of dates because you already know your personalities click. If it's someone you barely know (bar number, tinder etc.) I would wait, personally, until I had dated that person for like 6 monhs.. or hell, if you haven't met their friends and hung out a few times is a good indicator on if it's premature too.

AgentDearestZ · Answer

I assume you’re asking this because you want him to ask you. If he didn’t ask you it’s cause he’s either used to you or getting used to you. Women need to step up and actually ask men if they want something, especially if they want equality like feminists. I never understood why women look at dudes they like and just stand there like it’s going to do something.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know but guys who get rarely ask that question. Their immensely attractive.
They know what a woman wants and they give them what she wants but indirectly.

They are so mysterious that they make women to go crazy wanting to know its inside their minds. Surely women will never know until its TOOOOOOOOO LAAAAAATE...

dudeinohio · Answer

It depends on the situation.  there is no set in stone time frame.

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

It depends how well I know her. If we already got along well I may ask after 1 date. If it's a total stranger it'd probably take at least 3 good dates.

slatyb · Answer

i never ask a woman to be my girlfriend. If we date for a while and aren't seeing others, it's understood.

Lynx122 · Answer

About 50 years is reasonable I'm pretty sure she's not gonna leave after that time :)

Unit1 · Answer

As soon as the girl wants to become my girlfriend, then we'll seal the deal. Until then I will keep flirting with women.

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

Usually after 3 successful dates in my opinion I can make a conclusive decision at that point.

ohshee · Answer

If we are on a date someplace or doing something it's more likely that we have already then together more than one time and so the next time we go out I would ask you so when when do you want to make me your boyfriend LOL when you going to ask me

standardguy · Answer

Perhaps after three dates. If they were very successful ones.

Anonymous · Answer

It's now about how long.
It's about being ready.
If you think you are ready for it then don't wait up.
Being said You also don't want to rush in like just a month or so.
Make sure you know the person, your vibe match, you care for each other, are able to commit to things, know that you also have to give each other space that's all matter in a healthy relationship.

exitseven · Answer

Maybe a month or so. It depends how good things are going and if I even want her to be my girlfriend.

RealMarek · Answer

This depends on a lot of things. As soon as you know you want to be exclusive with her. In my case that was after knowing my girlfriend for two weeks.

DrAdams · Answer

Depends on how well they know each other and their age.

Twalli · Answer

Usually the second date is where I ask to be official. We were friends before dating so I already know a fair bit about them. We like some of the same things so early dates are easy.

Just_call_me_Levi · Answer

I'm demi-romantic... So I need to know you, and know you well before I even consider dating... Basically, you already stole my heart, and I mere want to confirm my suspicions... So probably 5 dates?

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t. I ask her out at first, I make the moves sexually, I wait for her to ask me to be official.

RyanK9b · Answer

As soon as my feeling for her is on spot. If I feel a connection a possible mate, I just go for it

WhiteWolf69 · Answer

Depends on how I feel about where the relationship is going and the direction. If everything seems to be going good and were getting along and getting to really know each other, might be few months.

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

If you're having sex, by the third date (typically that's the "sex date"), then you can safely assume, they're you're s. o. So, if you go and fuck someone else, it's considered cheating

Harleyguy · Answer

Not sure I’d ever do that. I think you just naturally transition into that title.

Lacerationnn · Answer

It depends on sincerity Lady

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