You're not in the club alone. I have never had a boyfriend. I grew up being encouraged to marry and not be in a series of casual relationships (serial dater, boyfriend and girlfriend). If you were going to pursue a relationship pursue with intentions to marry. So, my chances meeting someone on the same level or foundation has been slim. You not only going to like someone doesn't like you or visa versa... you're also going to meet people that's out for one thing "sex" or you like someone and they like you but it doesn't workout. A lot of people are starting not to want "marriage" but they still want commitment (that's another discussion).
I haven't met anyone that I can truly see as family. If he's not like the men in my family, it's a wrap. The men in my family are "men" men that provide, support, protect and enjoy family and God. I look for those same characteristics in men I find myself attracted to.
I don't settle to say I'm with someone. I'm not picky. I just haven't met him yet. And, I'm okay with that. I try to be most of the time. It's nothing I can do but be patient. If it doesn't happen, life is still all good.
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If your age is actually 33, why would anyone have a girlfriend at age 3?
I never had a boyfriend until late high school. Second one was early college. Sometimes you don't have many. I didn't. Five or six in my teens and 20s.
I don't think most people can expect to have a boatload of SOs. You only need a few to figure out what you'd like and what's possible for a relationship.
33 is hardly old. Start looking again and see who's there. Do meetups. This past year hasn't been good for anyone, so the going will be slow. Take your time. Your sperm will hold out a few years longer!
Not a problem I can really relate to.
a couple of things having grown up in a poor area, where we could not afford a car..
having a girlfriend has bugger all to do with having money, that’s always the thing that pisses me off when guys come out with that bollox.
nor does your job, wage or anything else.
the main things are.
being visibly available to girls.
bring nice, not scared to chat to a girl about loads different stuff.
not having your sights set to high, don’t aim to far out of your socio economic group.
do Not try and get girls that are obviously above you own attraction level, if you struggle with girls that are not hugely pretty, bit overweight etc, you likely have zero chance with anyone above that level.
perseverance is key, body language, smiling with your eyes and mouth, learning to flirt in a non verbal manner.
also don’t give up.
I was 19 when i first had a any contact with women, nothing before in that regard, holding hands, kissing etc etc. Didn't even speak with one, now that i think about it.
I was of the least popular kid in school and also got beat up at home. So i became pretty introverted. Just doing my own thing. Even to this day.
Although, for some reason i'm very popular these days, people want to chat/hang, ask advice in my field etc. I have 1,5 guy friends who i hang with and maybe 1 female friend.
Things happen in life.
What is your story?
Why do you think you don't have a girlfriend?
I don't think there is anything wrong with you, maybe you just stay away from everybody, kind of like me. Only going from home to work.
Give us some more backstory.
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There is just SO much missing to ever be able to give yo any kind of proper answer. (Kinda like 3+ = .) but the important thing is moving forward. Find someone now! You can’t change the past, that’s why they call it the past. But you could fix the future!
Probably mental/ emotional reasons. For me I've only had a online long distance girlfriend and it was mostly because I had a lot of personaly things to deal with and figure out and I was also not willing to fully commit to finding a girlfriend because I wanted to work on other things in my life as well and my energy is quite limited. Also important is to let them come to you. You have to make yourself available and show what you're about but they make the decision.
That would be on you my guy I don’t know you very well but off of looks alone you’re not ugly at all so either you lack confidence or are doing something to drive women away try dating apps and go from there I’m sure there are books about fixing confidence and learning how to talk to women
State your height and show a pic of your body. What you think is an ok physique may be vastly different than what is an actual good physique for women. Also show picture of your hair so we can know where you are at norwood wise.
100% fix: Go meet up with "The Natural Lifestlyes" or "RSD" aka Owen Tyler Cook's company. Dude don't wait. They save men like you all the time. At least look into it. You got nothing to lose man. You're still young dude don't waste the final years of your youth. This is the best advice you will get. Nobody on here is gonna give you something that will magically help you. Trust me. Go to these people I've listed and have a open mind man. I promise you, you won't regret it.
You probably aren't rich enough or good-looking enough. These things are true for about 80% of men and women ignore those men.
You probably work too much or live to care for your parents. I've fallen into that hole and it's been 13 years now 🤷♀️
Nothing wrong with honorBecause
- You aren't rich.
- you have no fame..
- your social status is low.
- you have really high standards..
And many more reason...There is no solid answer to this question. I have never been anywhere near to a girlfriend and I'm 43. I know myself, and so must you. If you want a relationship with a woman, the first place to look for it is the mirror.
The opposite problem is strange too. I've had a hundred girlfriends, but never got married. I don't really care that much about it, but sometimes I wonder why my life has been so different from the norm.
I don't typically care that much about relationships, so I couldn't know how you feel. Have you tried asking anyone out? Or have you just been expecting stuff to happen by itself?
Don’t know what you like to do? But go to where people meet with the same interest. If you meet
Someone. Great talk and get to know each other. Take time! 30 years what’s 1 more if you gain
In the long tun?The same way anything doesn't happen. It's been not happening every day for 30 years. Have you even tried? How many women have you ever asked out? How many women do you know now?
Another reminder of something I've always will resent
thats why i picked my username, because i've always hated, resented the cards i was dealt with for being born male in the dating/mating game
Some people just like that, im approaching 27. Biggest loser ever -if you could watch my life for a day, you'd see.
You're too passive. You haven't been aggressive enough. Have you tried getting a girls number at gunpoint. Women like a take action kind of guy.
Are you confident in front of girls? Do you talk at them?
were not that far off... I've just learned accept im simply not what girls want
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