are you saying you are a woman who is almost 50 and never had a boyfriend? always been single?
Yup! Just was raised to date with intention. I don't want to be a girlfriend but a wife. It's not a popular thing to do, but I'm good for it. I'm wise. I'm discerning. I listen to my God given "intuition". So, yeah, I've met guys along my life journey but they weren't meant to be "him" or they would be in my life or "him". I don't chase a man or try for his interest beyond where we are. If he's not interested in taking it further, I don't press the issue. One thing I know, if a man want to be with you, you don't have to chase or pressure or beckon him to be about you. He'll make it known he wants to be with you. He wants you in his life. Now, I have met and attracted nice looking men. And, men who character was decent, it just didn't workout for us. Some went on married and others are single, divorce, maybe have a girlfriend or girlfriends.But, I value my time, my love, my peace.And, no, I'm not a virgin. I'm sure that's the next question or thought. I decided I wanted to have sex at 31. He was associate friend who became more than an associate. I knew he would be someone I could trust and enjoy my experience with. He did not disappoint. We vibe, connected, etc. I miss him. He was cool. But, he wasn't meant to be more than what I asked of him.All in all, I'm patient. I'm comfortable being single. I enjoy doing me when I feel like it without considering someone's feelings, etc.
so you had sex for the first time at 31?
You remind of my friend. Her name is Jennifer. I assume that is your name too? She is like 33 or 34. But she has health issues so that is more the issue with her but she has this old mentality or sense about her. I've never met 1 girl like her but reading this feels like her. Anyway I enjoyed reading your story. It's inspiring. There is something I wanted to say in regards to faith but I don't wanna overstep.
@IHateBeingaMan Yes. First time 2004 and last time 2005. I'm now abstinence.@William2198. No, my name is not Jennifer. I'm 47. Please share your thoughts about faith. Thank you for being mindful.
its more shocking to hear of a woman being single this long compared to a guy, since women don't have to do the pursuing or escalating
Where you been? Plenty of single women. Especially where I live. And, to imply "shock" you shouldn't be. Not many desire a Good relationship. Let alone know how to be in one. It's to find some to have sex with. Not easy to find someone to cover you in love or find someone you want to cover with love.
That's *Easy* to find someone to have sex with. Shoot, I can get that any day of the week if I want. Just on GAG alone "thirsty" dudes popping up in my email box "Hey" Hey? NEEEEXXXT! I know where the conversation is going or would like to go.
The men in my area are spoiled. They go after women with the least path of resistance. Some women make it easy for men "sex" wise... why would they want to be in a committed relationship where they have to be vulnerable and work at getting you and themselves... Too much work.
well its just the last thing you would expect, when you hear of a woman surpass 30 and never had a boyfriend before, but quite common for that to happen to guys
We're good for it. Nothing wrong being single.
did you also mention, that it has been many years since you last had sex?
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Also, I just noticed that you are 33…. So, you were 3 years old when you last had a girlfriend? I just can’t believe that ALL throughout school, you never had ONE girlfriend, not a single girl EVER held hands with you on the playground… EVER? I think you are being just a tad hyperbolic. But my advice stands. It’s not your past that matters, it’s what you do going forward! If you really want to meet someone, you are going to have to put yourself out there. Take risks, because nobody ever discovered something amazing w/o taking a few risks!
its obviously much easier for a guy to go his whole life without a girlfriend than the other way around, probably because the burden of pursuit or making the first move, asking someone out, still falls on guys shoulders
Yep, as a guy it's pretty common to go for a long time without anybody.
@K-I-S-S ya, sometimes i like to feel that women are the only gender that are owed or entitled to dates or sexual relationships, since women don't have to do anything in order to make a relationship happen or start with a guy, it should be obvious as to what i'm talking about
@K-I-S-S It might be common to a long time without a relationship, but THIRTY years? Thats not going a long time, that’s just avoiding life!
@IHateBeingaMan First how is THAT obvious? Second. do you really think that asking a woman out is a burden? Maybe the fact that you see asking a woman out as a burden, is the reason you spend so much time being single, perhaps it’s even the reason you actually hate being a man? Most strong confident men, actually enjoy pursuing women! In fact that’s the reason so many women are frustrated because men are not serious about long-term relationships… The “thrill of the hunt” is what they get off on… “scoring”! Once they’ve fucked the woman, they loose interest! Most women aren’t interested in just getting laid, it’s just not about the sex for us, it’s about the security of a relationship! All you’re doing is ascribing masculine traits to women. That’s not how life works! It’s reductive, and it’s massively erroneous! It’s sorta like you see an attractive woman and all you want to do is fuck her, so you assume that when we see an attractive man, that all we want to do is fuck him! When have you ever looked at a woman, and thought “I wonder what kind of mother she’d be”? Jesus! You do realize that women are not just men with vaginas, right? This is probably the reason that guys of a certain ilk, believe that most women are secretly lesbian, or if not lesbian, certainly more than willing to go down on our friends at the first sign we are unsupervised, and won’t get caught1. It’s so sad that you hate being a man, because you can’t get laid, but don’t realize that if you WERE a woman, getting laid just wouldn’t be that important to you anyway!
well i hate taking action with a huge passion, it is a chore, burden, what is the god damn logic behind why going after what you want is a masculine thing?
@IHateBeingaMan Let’s take the second point first. that’s the whole point! Women are more creatures of emotion, we don’t do logic even remotely as well as men, and you men don’t do emotional nearly as well as women! That is the main cause of contention between men and women. As to your first point that you “hate taking action with a passion”. That’s nothing to do with NOT being a woman, that’s just you being lazy! Do you honestly think that being a woman would exempt you from taking action? So what happens if you get your wish and become a woman? How do you support yourself? Do you even have a clue just how expensive things like makeup are? How expensive the skin care products we need are, just to stop breaking out in acne because all that makeup clogs our pores. All the shit we have to buy because we look better to you when we dress nicely, and look sexy, buy not too sexy? What about when the man of your dreams wants children, so you give him the children he wants, but then you gain weight because… well, because you’ve given birth to three children! But HE preferred it when you were skinny so now he leaves you for another, younger, woman? How do you feed your children? Being a woman doesn’t mean that you don’t have to work hard, it means you have to work twice as hard just to be thought of as equal!
well you women don't really have to do anything in order to make a relationship happen or start with a guy, it should be obvious as to what i'm talking about
i don't care, i never liked it and i never will, i never enjoyed doing the pursuing
that's short by todays women standards.
Death before Dishonor -Optimus Prime
yes i am not handsome
Unfortunately on line dating is not going to work for you.
Just looking at your pic, you are not bad looking, but I think you need a better haircut
are you implying you've never had a girlfriend?
Lmao. You're 20...
@TrainingDay Ok, and?