Why can’t I find a guy who actually wants a relationship?

[Anonymous]

It seems like every time I like a guy and if he likes me back, he mainly just wanna fuck and that’s it. I’ve never been with a guy before but I get anxiety when thinking about dating any of my crushes, cause the ones that I’ve had a crush on in the past years have big body counts and wanna make me the next one on their list (they didn’t tell me directly but it was obvious)

And like I’m not against sex, I wanna experience it but I don’t want just a hook up. I want a genuine relationship that leads up to sex later. But I don’t get how they see someone for the first time and automatically wanna have sex and assume I want sex without even talking to me about it first to see if I’m on the same page.

And I don’t go after guys who physically show that they’re a player, the ones I’ve almost fell for were genuine and respectful but it’s like I can’t trust no guy because I don’t know who actually wants a relationship or not. And when I ask they usually lie and say they do when really they just wanna mess around and leave.

I have trust issues with men now and I feel bad when I see people I know with their boyfriend/girlfriend because I wanna date but all I attract are horn balls and I don’t dress inappropriately. I don’t wear tight clothes or show my cleavage.

[HOAAH]

Can you maybe try to date a family friend or a friend of a friend and maybe they "screen" the guy for you first before setting you up? Or maybe try online dating and getting to know them just online for a few weeks even months before meeting up to know their personality before actually meeting them. I hope this helps.

[Asker]

Well 2 of my male cousins are friends with this guy I liked and they didn’t warn me that he was a player. They told me he liked me and wanted to date me when really I found out he just wanted sex. They knew about his sex life with other girls but sugar coated to make him seem like a relationship guy. And this was my own family who set me up so I don't know. And I ran into creeps on online dating sites

[HOAAH]

you have to really find a good friend or family member that will not set you up with a creep like that.

[Dchrls78104]

The first place to look for a relationship is the mirror. What are your beliefs, your principles, your standards, your values? What do you have or think you have to contribute to the happiness of the relationship you seek? Having answers to these questions in your head before dating again may help you make wise decisions about how, when, and who you date.

[jahaims]

Because you are badat finding guys who actually want a relationship

[Asker]

Well it’s not completely my fault that some of them appear genuine and respectful until we get to know each other then the switch flip and suddenly they lie their way into a relationship that they actually don’t want