Because woman have two guys: the guy they're sexually attracted to and the guy who provides for them. Ideally, one guy should fulfill these two roles, but the world's not perfect.
So, to answer your questions:
1) Why do they flirt/have feelings for another guy?
Because the guy they're with doesn't stoke their sexual arousal like the other guy she's attracted to. Maybe he's better looking. Maybe he's more exciting. Maybe he's higher status. Hard to say, but she's attracted to him nonetheless.
2) If they have such strong crushes why not leave the boyfriend?
Because women have a strong fear of abandonment. It's why some stay in bad relationships or are never single for very long. They won't break up with their boyfriends because they provide something that their crushes might not - commitment and relationship security. Never let go of one branch until you're securely onto the next one. Otherwise, you fall face first with nothing.
3) Why live with boyfriend and think about another dude half the time?
Because of hypergamy. Some women are always looking for that next branch.
I dont know but soooooo many times girls who got a man be flirting with me. And he will ne nearby too! Lol.
One time I had a girl tell me I was cute and her boyfriend was standing right next to her looking at me!
She was like "yea this my boyfriend but he'll be fine."
I was so confused beyond belief. What an awkward situation.
Now that I think back, maybe he was a cuck and they had a fetish lol. I dont know I didn't know about stuff like that back then.
I had girls rub up on me while their man is loading the kids in the stroller and shit lol.
These hoes are NOT loyal.
I realized why guys get anxious and look at me crazy when they see me talking to their girl. Cuz they know their girl is a HOE! And I'm taller, more handsome, and more muscular than they are.
But they would calm down after they saw I was just some weirdo shy guy loser who couldnt flirt with girls for shit back then.
But hey its all good, those hoes helped teach me to flirt so now I flirt with girls all the time so that's cool.
I used to WISH I could be the kind of guy who could fuck any girl i want. Now i know that the girls who are down to fuck probably sucked they mans dick this morning now she wants to kiss you. These females are actually disgusting and killed my fantasies of being a ladies. man who can get pretty girls left right and center.
Sure, you can be that guy, and you have to play the game. Those hoes dont just cheat on they man with just any guy. But still, she nasty.
I dont know how many girls out here "being sexually liberated" really are that. Or if they're just nasty hoes who fuck 3 guys a day, like some that I know personally.
Some girls are just hoes. It is what it is. Not all of them are like that. A lot are legit loyal. Just gotta find em lol.
I’ve seen this behavior most recently displayed by someone having marital issues. She’s noticed a decrease in her husband’s interest in her, knows he’s cheated in the past, and makes excuses not to be around. At the same time another man has been showing interest in her and flirting and she’s been playing along. I know she feels guilty, but her ego is so hurt by her husband that the attention feels too good for her to resist. It’s proof that she still has value to someone. I’m not saying I approve, because I don’t, but I do understand.
I've had little crushes on guys whilst with my boyfriend but I've always kept my distance from them and fought my thoughts on them. I love my boyfriend more than any silly crush. Men look at women all the time and usually wank to pictures of them too they just don't amit it. I think that's more upsetting personally but a man thinks sexually about other women. People can't help how they feel it's something that can't be controlled yet being responsible and logical that can be controlled
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From what iv observed.
And that I have 8 sisters.
Women keep a key chain of men in their life.
Not many will be friends to a man but a Lotta people wanna be friends with women, not true friends mind you.
So she may have 1 guy she's actually sexually attracted to, a guy for protection, a guy she talks about her feels with, a couple guys who do things for her,
I think most or this is subconscious not so much intentional, we call them orbiters.
Most women when they drop their man have 1 or 2 back ups. Maybe not her 1st picks but at least she ain't alone.
If a man is dumb enough to be friend zoned or play nice guy that's on him she's just taking advantage of them.
It could be just 1 or more of any of these.
The ,, strong independent women,, thing if you are then you will be OK if your single for a while any woman who HAS to be in a relationship instead of being alone is neither strong nor independent. And 1 does not equal the other.
It's called 'hypergamy'. Often, their reasons of getting with their current boyfriend were superficial or ingenuine (like they felt it at that moment and now their feelings changed like the seasons), to begin with. So they continue to compare their current boyfriend to other guys out there. Which goes to show the entire relationship is one-sided at most. They like the idea of getting into relationships, they don't want to actually work for it.
But they do stay with the current dude because 1. It's convenient to benefit from the pros a relationship can bring (most likely a nice guy). 2. They wait until they manage to secure another guy before letting go of their current boyfriend (aka monkeybranching).
This goes to show why so many men don't even bother to date at all. And that there are so many ingenuine relationships out there.
I've come to believe that some people do this on purpose, they probably get off from the attention and tension.
They employ the fact that they are taken as a boundary for the others- the others know that they are taken and that they can't expect anything from them because of it.
It's kind of a no-strings-attached situation for the cheater (because that's what these people really are in the end), and if the other party crosses the boundary, they can be blamed for it because "they knew they were taken".
I don't think they want to leave their partners, I think they are looking for what is, in their heads, just some "guilt free" fun.
I would say it probably goes deeper than just enjoying attention or they simply like flirting. True, some people (both men and women) simply like the attention or enjoy flirting for superficial reasons.
But, if you dig deeper sometimes you find that they have a level of comfort in the current relationship. It's familiar and safe, but it's no longer exciting. It's vanilla and blah. There is very little unknown and everything is predictable about their current boyfriend.
The crush on the other hand is something unknown. There is a mystery and excitement about them. They are able to flirt and be a little dangerous which fills that desire of wanting some excitement back in their life.
So, on the one hand, they get comfort and safety from their current boyfriend. They get the excitement and the unknown from the crush.
It's called 'hypergamy'. A woman's brain is to entertain options, other possibilities, to see out someone 'better', be it affluence, power, or looks. It's just the way women are wired.
Yes, a woman will bail on a perfectly good man if she thinks she can snag a better one. And they are easily bored, so if a guy doesn't continue to rock her world, she'll wander off looking for CHAD THUNDERCOCK.
And if a guy gets injured, sick, or loses his job, figure she'll cheat or bail. Just look what military wives do when their man is deployed.
It's called monkey-branching. You don't let go of one branch until you have a good hold on another. Women constantly look for better men, and if he shows enough interest, she'll leave whoever she's with and then continue looking for someone even better.
I used to do that shit for sport. Show enough interest that they'd feel secure and leave their guy, and then drop the bomb on em. Hell no, you're not moving in with me, you cheated on the last guy you were with. There's no relationship when she doesn't respect relationships, and I did every one of those guys a favor.
Some cheat, some do this for an ego boost, some have back up plans, some love the attention they get from these guys. I cannot speak for these girls as I wouldn't think of another man if I am in a relationship with one, but observing some I would say they do it because they can and get away with this even when that's awful behavior.
Those are very good set of questions and the reason I can think is they have character flaws and wandering eyes. Such women are greedy (emotionally).
Logically the moment they start thinking about another guy most of the time while in a relationship with their boyfriend, flirt with other guy then they should break up with their boyfriend but surprisingly they don't do it.
Unpopular opinion coming up- but it is because it is called having cake and eating it too. Both men provide something the other can't. One provides a stronger and more fun emotional connection and the other is the sexual aspect. Other may call it monkey branching.
I agree that it is frustrating when people do this in general. It shows lack of integrity and values.
I actually know many such girls who blush and seek attention from other men they find hot when they're in fact taken. If it's an ldr, i can kinda get it (do not accept it). But their bfs are literally around the same area. And the funny thing is those guys are also on the lookout for new options. But they never leave their partner be it boy or girl. They have a partner just for the sake of it.
Because he's only your boyfriend, not your husband. You're free to walk away and choose another when you like - as is he.
You're both trying to find if the relationship is a "fit" for you both. It's only natural you both are not going to close all options around you. Just have some game, and don't be an overt dick about it.
Same reason why men do it. She is disrespectful to her boyfriend but if her boyfriend knows it and is still with her, then he is to blame too or he also does it and therefore he does not care much
You can find random men are attractive while you are in a relationship but flirting not ok of course.
Many Men also cheat on women emotionally by consuming porn or following erotic models on Instagram.
Because its real, and if she has a real man he will not only be okay with it but enjoy it, i had an ex i was with for 7 years and we were so cool from the start, she loved flashing people and so did i.. i woke up to girls in bed riding me and she woke up to men in mask raping her... we are all perverts thats the answer
It's stupid to think that attraction to anyone else dies once you're in a committed elationship. While I don't think that they should flirt, I am not surprised they have crushes. I am dating and may actually marry my current girlfriend, I still have a crush on a mutual friend
Because they are not gona leave what rhey have for sure and risk something with a just fantasy and maybe lose both u get me. And also they do it because maybe they are bored with their own boyfriend so they want to see what else is out there without losing whats behind them. Lol hopefully i did explained it right sorry if i confused you
because it's natural to be attracted to others when your boyfriend/girlfriend is away. it takes serious control to not flirt with others, which is otherwise natural to happen.
You can never satisfy a woman they will always be interested in other men not matter what you do or try doing for them , they got air in that part of the brain they will never admit or realize it , but do it in front of you and still act like your crazy "how did you see that one me? I didn't do that your crazy what are you talking bout?" Sucks , LOVE SUCKS.
Keep options open women will always trade up no matter if their current man wants to marry them and treats them amazing. They will always move up. Never satisfied
They flirt to keep life interesting. And if they like other guys its because they might be attractive but they still have a boyfriend and are committed girlfriends.
It's hard to explain that without having people here butthurt about what I want to say on this topic so I'm not even going to try it.
Hard pass.
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