Damn gimme his number I'm gonna lecture him so bad on the phone. "You don't like it when you have a lovely woman right there with you huh? Instead of giving time love and attention to the one who would go above and beyond to give back so much more, you're here looking pictures of these Instagram girls who neither know nor care who you are, not respond to your dms, will leave their sugar daddy for another one if they find someone with more money, and your girlfriend right here wouldn't leave you even in hardest time. You know what? Fuck you. You don't deserve her. Go spend your whole day liking their pictures while she can go to another man who would truly value her"
I can't stand men who do that. I can understand following public figures like actresses, singers, YouTubers etc but not models for just their fake asses.
You're not crazy for being bothered. How attention shouldn't be at anyone else but you and your attention shouldn't be at anyone else but him. It's natural for anyone to feel bothered even if they weren't insecure to begin with. So please please please don't think something is wrong with you for feeling the way you do. I actually think there is something wrong if you DON'T see a problem with it.
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Love, I’m like that too. Especially after I got cheated on. Some people think it’s ok, others don’t and that’s fine. My partner is very respectful about it because he knows it’d bother me, your partner isn’t putting much thought into your feelings at all. THAT is the problem. If he won’t straighten up his act then do consider moving on and finding someone who would treat you like a damn princess. Insecurities like this will drive you crazy, you will end up questioning yourself more than you’ll ever question him. Think it through.
There's really not a big deal in "following" people on social media and "liking" all their posts. If he was leaving flirty comments and stuff then clearly that's a red flag but as it stands it seems completely normal. I follow many girls and like their posts, but I have no romantic or even sexual interest. Not to put any blame on you because there's no blame here, but anxiety and insecurity can very heavily affect your mentality and that's likely the cause of your concern. If it's really getting to you it's important to seek some kind of help, whether it's therapy or simply having a careful conversation with your partner about your feelings (but if you do this, please don't do it in an accusatory manner/some way that could make your boyfriend feel like you don't have faith in him, that can be harmful.) Also, to answer the initial question, I follow girls for the same reason I follow guys, because I want to.
okay this is your future in a nutshell you will eventually break up because he's found a new woman that he cannot wait to unwrap. And he just can't stick with one woman regardless if you re the perfect wife regardless even if he knows you're the perfect wife if his cow wrangling days aren't over, they aren't over and you can't make them be over. If you have asked him to stop and he doesn't stop, what I mentioned is true 99.9%, but if he stops like he said he would then that's a good sign. Good luck
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Is this a universal thing because my boyfriend does it too 😂 I was way worse then. We used each other's phones and ipads leisurely and it irked me everytime I saw him reacting on other women's (unrelated, not even friends, and semi nude) photos. I would unlike those photos or even unfollow the women on his account. Yeah I was petty like that. Thankfully he didn't care about what I did and found it endearing that I wanted his attention for myself.
It happened multiple times though. I just got tired of it so I just let him know not to do things he wouldn't want me to do to him because we both know I could always do worse. He became more mindful after that.It is disrespectful cuz how would he feel if you were checking out other guys and liking their pictures etc. So in a way it shows lack of respect for your relationship and it’s nothing to do with insecurity it’s more to do with respect , if your boyfriend respected you he would stop doing it , if he is still doing it behind your back then that’s something you need to ask yourself if you want to be with someone like that , cuz if you aren’t doing it and he is then maybe you should really reconsider that relationship cuz he isn’t respecting you , Love only grows when both people respect each other and sacrifice for each other never let someone walk over you
First, girls do this all the time. If he isn’t texting these girls what is the problem? Just because you guys are in a relationship doesn’t mean he won’t find other females physically appealing. But don’t feel like he likes you any less. It’s just natural. There are billions of women in the world. But there was something about you that made him say “screw those other girls” because he loves YOU. Don’t do what these other people are saying and assume it will lead to cheating. Have an honest talk with him and be understanding. But if he’s TEXTING them, that’s a problem.
I don't see any problems with it. Is there more to it or do you just not trust him? Social media site are all about people liking you're stuff and following you. how do you feel about other guys liking your stuff or following you?
Wow, umm I don't know about your man. I'm a nurse so most of my co workers are female. So if I have a "sexy cutie" that I'm following its probably Brenda from work. Brenda is hilarious and smart and sexy as hell but she ain't my girl you are... And if he doesn't make you feel special like you're his one and only true love then... A: He needs to up his game or... B: You got issues. So hire a professional detective and pay 1000s of dollars to find out you should of spent that money on therapy. Or... Tell him that it makes you feel insecure and make it not make you feel insecure... Like sit with him and talk about who this girl is and why he's liking her bikini pic... He is probably like oh... I was perving out on her but more than likely he's not.
Hmm. We if their not models what are the pictures? Like if I was in a relationship and she had a problem with me following other girls on Instagram (which I follow a lot of people. I don't know who is female and male) then maybe we would need to have a talk. I follow artist. They never show their face so i wouldn't know but still. I wouldn't see a problem with it. It would be like him having a problem of you following other guys in there, it can't just be one way. If he can't follow any females. Then you can't follow any males.
Problem starts when you interfere in partners private stuff.
Trust is what you loose in expense of access to his/her privacy.
If it's broken you will know. Just end it when it comes instead of ruining present happy lifeFirst of all its not your fault, and never would be, and also its not about you being attractive or not, don't let that mess uo with your head!
Communication and honesty is the key for everything and most of all, for a healthy, loving, long lasting relationship. Also in relationships, you both have to make each other secure, and not the other way around... hope you got the message, best of luck!My husband does it. He doesn't like all the pictures on Instagram, he just follows all the model like women on there (you know generic big boobs, big butt no clothes type)
At first it hurt my feelings but then when I thought about it, all he is doing is looking. He isn't touching, doesn't mean his unhappy with me or my looks its just its nice to look at.There is definitely an indication of insecurity in there. But, if you can prove he is still partaking in this behavior and it is excessive, you should tell him you know he is still doing it, and he needs to decide between the two of you and these other girls' photos.
When you asked him to not do it anymore you basically asked him to lie. He was wrong for telling you he won't, but you were still the one who asked. Don't take it personally. Have you ever seen a mature couple? They look at people of the opposite sex together without getting offended by what their partner likes. BE LIKE THAT. If your boyfriend is dating you and he's a mature adult then he made that choice for a reason. He won't leave you unless the relationship goes bad.
I think it is normal to be attracted to other people even when you're in a relationship. So long as he doesn't act on it, then it's not a problem. You have to trust him though. If he breaks your trust though and betrays you, I wouldn't give him another chance.
It's not like being in a relationship, or even marriage, meant that you own someone and you are owned by someone. You are both sovereign human beings first and foremost. Free to make your choices. As soon as you start limiting each other you are effectively not letting the other person be themselves, express themselves. They get frustrated. They will look for other ways to express themselves. If you become too limiting they will find someone more open-minded.
Yeah, that's going a bit too far. If you're fine with him following others guys than you're setting a double standard, and just because someone is in a relationship doesn't force them to stop associating with anyone else from that same gender in any familiarity.
Some guys are feeling you with worries and idiotic thoughts, one of the most important things in a relationship is trust and freedom. As long he doesn't cheat or flirt, you shouldn't even worry. It's just a visual stimulus nothing that should evolve feeling towards those photos, it's not that you lack something or he's planning a plan B ( guys who suggest that, definitely are not a trustworthy person).
Just because you admire a piece of art doesn't mean you want it hanging on your wall. It's only liking their pictures he is not declaring his love for them. Just relax to the day he breaks your trust.
One of two things or it could be both. He's either really insecure and has issues from the past. In which he needs to deal with before he continues on with any type of relationship with you. Or he's checking out making sure you're not cheating on him because he is cheating on you. Either way it's not healthy.
There’s a problem with social media bc let’s face it lots of women put sexy pics or revealing pictures on purpose for likes. What kind of photos does he like anyway? I know it would bother my wife and I don’t ever like any girls photos on Facebook unless it’s genuinely a nice picture including a innocent activity funny or family. I can’t stand bikini selfies and girls trying too hard but I don’t blame you for being upset bc I would be bothered
My ex worded this quite well, she was showing me a poster in her room of Cillian Murphy as Thomas Shelby and said how much she loved him. I of course replied but she said it's different, she has a crush on him but "loved" me.
I understand this is slightly different, obviously including a celebrity crush, but I feel the same result comes from it.This is definitely your problem not his. If he stopped following them and liking their pictures you would find another reason to not trust him. The reality is you are trying to reaffirm your beliefs developed from previous relationships. You need to identify what those beliefs are and address them.
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