Any place but home. You have to be out and about for anybody to see you and I think one of the best ways for a guy to approach you is if you understand your body chemistry we all have an energy inside of us we are made from energy everything about us is energy a long time ago people used to say I can see your aura around you well that order comes from the inside your energy you cannot only see it but you can feel it I don't know if you know what I'm talking about but it is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world if you know how to control your energy you could stand right next to somebody and just melt them when a guy first looks at you he doesn't really understand it but this is the first thing that happens is people feel your energy they look and then that feeling gets deeper. Have you ever heard of love at first sight it's because of energy it's the energy that you feel that brings you close to somebody when two energies touch is unreal beautiful learn about your energy and you'll be like a magnet you guys will be just drawn towards you
You don't MAKE someone approach you, you ATTRACT them. You simply cannot negotiate attraction and desire. Love can't start till attraction does, and then there needs to be a conversation. So never underestimate the value of looking your best. Get some help if you need it. f
Now, where to meet... most people find their perfect partner during the natural course of their day. So you might broaden your horizons a little where you're exposed to more people in general, you never know when 'mr. right' will be hiding. So take up a new hobby, take a cooking or a dancing class, ask for referrals from your friends and relatives. Yes, it takes time, yes it's a lot of work. And that's why you benefit from dating a lot, to gain experience and to be able to actually discern whether they're worthy or not, whether they're a match. Most simply will not be. I don't normally recommend dating at work, but sometime mr. right is a co-worker. Tread lightly. And you're right about dating apps - for losers only. For those people that cannot forge meaningful relationships with the people they meet in their daily lives.
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What would be the reasons you don't want dating apps?
Some people do find their long-term partners/spouses on dating apps, depending on the person whom you talk to. Not all dating apps are for one night stands.
There are some groups where people meet for common interests, for example, for reading, cooking, etc. if those won't be classified as "dating apps" in your definition.
I would not recommend work, as one could get fired if caught and/or the relationship and work can become conflicts of interests and can get messy.
However, I think schools (colleges, grad schools) would be good place to meet people, and others will most likely have goals and are pursuing their careers, so they'll be intellectual (if that would matter to you) assuming that they're not forced to go to school.
But if not dating apps, where else do you expect to find a guy who's for a relationship? I guess the options you're left with would be clubs, pubs, bars. I don't know how effective those places would be to find a relationship, since I have no personal experience in those 🤷🏻♀️
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Addendum: Group activities such as reading, cooking, sports, etc.
Your local Game store (not GameStop) Look for places where D&D, Magic the gathering, Warhammer 40k, etc are played.
Often times there are few, if any women there, so you have no competition. These stores often cater to a few hobbies, but usually specialize in one, if you take up one of those hobbies/ join a group you have an easy subject to talk about.
Usually the places are empty but if you ask the clerk about events or groups looking for people they'll usually tell you a time to show up when more people are around.
No one can know where you'll find your ideal partner at. However, I can tell you that you are probably doing it wrong if you're "waiting for guys to approach you." Why not approach them first? Dating seems to suck in general nowadays and only the most shallow people find each other through dating apps. I think if I were a female, I would be searching in areas I think my ideal partner would frequent often. But we can't be there at all times of the day and you'll have no idea how often this potential partner would be there.
I myself would like to find someone but don't have the physical criteria 99.9% of straight women look for nowadays in men (tall, handsome, fit, perfect in every way, etc). So I probably am not the best to ask for dating advice.
Whoever suggests dating apps is a criminal in the making and should get locked up. The reality of things is that it doesn't exist a real recipe for finding love. It kind of befalls you when you less expect it. One way to look for likeminded people would be to get into public places where you can do your hobbies: Fitness guru? Go to gyms. Avid reader? Libraries and literary cafes (awesome places, I'll add) Night owl? Night clubs (not stripper clubs, that's different) and so on and so forth. But I'd bet you that you'll eventually find your prince in the most unexpected place and time. Just be out there to not miss him.
Next time you're near him, look straight at him for a while and, when he notices, give him that "come hither" look! Or adopt bedroom eyes. If that doesn't work, Make sure you're wearing something tight or even a BIT revealing! Still no nibble? Be a bit catty or slinky when you're near him, maybe position yourself for just a few seconds so your tits are in his face like, you're reaching past him to get something and accidentally on purpose, do so so that the twins are inches away from his face. No bites? Must be a hard sell!! Flash a bit of tit! STILL nothing? Wear a short skirt with sexy panties and sit where/how he can see them if you open your legs just a bit. STILL NOTHING? Same thing, no panties! STILL NOTHING? Call 911!!! He's dead!! Either that or he's married, gay, STAUNCHLY religious or blind!!
I am glad that you said not to suggest work or dating apps because both of those are horrible options. I would recommend trying a meet-up group or some such thing. You want community involvement related activities. As far as guys approaching you, just have a smile on your face and make efforts to talk with people. Love is not an instant thing, so you have to make an active effort for an extended period of time.
Find places you that have your interest. Do not give off the leave me alone vibe. If you catch a guy you really like staring carefully look at him and give him a big smile. Show that the attention is welcome. Much more likely to approach that way. Or you could go up to him and talk to him.
Just go out to places that are more socially centered. Find things that you like to do and see if there are any classes for those things to get to meet people who are generally interested in the same things you do. Women are more likely to be approached compared to the average man so just by going out there might be people who might want to talk to you, just make sure that you come off as an open person and not give a "don't bother me" vibe
So, you know to go to meet guys. By plenty of suggestions here. If you see a guy staring at you smile, Then let's him know you're inviting for a conversation. I had a lady was staring at me, she was cute. I smiled and she smiled back, that let me know to go talk to her. When a women is staring at me and I "catch" her and she quickly looks away to me that means don't approach me. This will help pretty much anywhere including the grocery store.
Since it is a woman's responsibility to make the first move, that is easy. Find a way to be where he is likely to be, smile and say "Hi" or otherwise, indicate that likely you would be receptive to being approached. However, if like most women in their twenties, you have unrealistic standards, he may be nice and speak to you briefly but it is problematic that he will ask you out unless he is just after a one-night-stand.
The supermarket? Plenty of products to talk about, and check their basket out for compatibility. How about some club or evening classes? You could choose something you like, perhaps with a focus on the type of man it might attract. Hope this helps!
