Even if given a choice between a dark skin and lightskin person, I see most men go for the lightskin. It‘s sad yet so true. I also noticed that most of the black men or black guys I know have a lightskin girlfriend with light eyes and that stuff. Why are these people choosing lightskins over dark skins? And don’t tell me because they are ghetto, where I live there are many dark skins who are well educated, well behaved, kind and so funny to be around with.
So let‘s spill the tea, what do lightskin women have that darkskins lack?
Colorism in dating : Why do men prefer light skin women?
I think it doesn't exist in the way some people think it does. What I think is that it's easier for some people to blame racism that to take an honest look at themselves and what they can do better.
Hot is hot regardless of the color. You can't take an average looking dark skin black girl and compare her to a hot light skin black girl because it's not a fair comparison.
The only real argument for colorism on any level in regards to dating is that most people will date based on their history. Dating the same types of people as they have before.
If a girl initially started having relations with preppy white guys, she is more likely to date preppy white guys in the future. And she's less likely to date a black guy unless it's a preppy black guy.
The same kinds of things happen across the board. For me growing up I was always attracted to black girls, just not ghetto girls of any race.
The problem is that many black girls were told they're supposed to act a certain way. Which was kind of ghetto. So I didn't date many black girls early on because most I met were ghetto.
Some would try to say that's just them being themselves but that's not true. They're being what they were told they should be. Black people in general have to deal with that in America and have to shed that BS over time
It's not dark skin I'm unattracted to. It's the physical features that come with dark skin that I'm not as attracted to. I prefer sharper facial features, petite and slim body proportions and not afro curly hair. I like curly hair, but not super curly. Literally, if many attractive white or latina girls suddenly changed their skin colour to chocolate brown dark, they'd still be attractive because of their features. That being said, I also don't find the way many black people speak in their culture. I prefer "white-washed" girls in that sense.
Physical atrraction is important, but the main thing that attracts me to a girl is similarities. If she has similar views, interests, way of communicating, sense of humor, goals in life, etc and just has an overall great personality I resonate with, there's nothing that would stop me wanting to be with her.
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Because they're a rotten pile of trash and only want a fairy angel for free. NEVER DATE DARKER MEN because they want a beautiful girl but will only INSULT her reputation. They're like a worm feeding on a fresh apple.
Dunno but a lot of guys when voting on images, will give extra points just for the woman showing skin OR being lighter skinned. I noticed that it's actually not even about how attractive the woman's face is. And obviously it has nothing to do with character. There are many guys who will even claim that any blonde haired woman is 'hot' even if her face is a pig's face. These guys may not actually be capable of rating faces at all. Sort of like some people are color blind & other people are clueless about how to stack a dishwasher. It's just not one of their mental capabilities.
You could have a woman who is 10x better looking than most women, without trying, and yet she might get less votes than a so/so light skinned woman. That's just life tho. It doesn't really matter why. What one should do is focus on being the best person they can be and only give time to other people who are interested in what you have to offer. Life works out better that way & I tell men that too.
It's not the case for me personally I don't like to speculate I prefer to base everything other people like or do on what I like and do so I don't think it's the case and I'm pretty sure you can find pictures that support that too and even then you could figure this out with basic reasoning given
You speak of colourism, but I'm not sure I agree that you can call it that. Colourism denotes discrimination, which implies the denial of a right, but you don't have the right to be chosen for dating. And no one is obliged to chose a certain colour for dating.
As for lightskin women; even if you've had experiences that suggests this you'd have to look at statistics that cover wider scales before concluding that men in general "always" choose lightskin women. One set of experiences does not general truth make. But let us say this is indeed the general case then I'd assume it is because light skin has had a history of being perceived as beautiful going back a thousand years, both in Europe, the Middle East and Asia.
I don't think that something only black men do, everyone does that even when it doesn't come to dating. Historically light-skinned has always been seen as more appealing and attractive, while dark skin is usually seen as low value. So naturally, most people have always been attracted to light-skinned people because they know that if they are dark-skinned then that means the potential of their kids coming out lighter is a plus for them.
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they are prettier. and afro-bi-racial girls have more in common with white guys. mostly because they half white. also culturally speaking as well they are well-behaved and adapted to being around other races. because one of the parent had to given in to the other parents culture. and tan- to sand colored skin is the best looking. that's why white people tan.
afro - multi-ethnic girls are mixed and are one of kind look.
then light skin girls don't have the weird mental insecurity issues that brown and dark girls have.
black girls have the stigma of being mean corporate ladys or rachet city girls or lizzo
the only issue with light asking girls,( not afro bi-racial or mult-ethic)
It's normal for men to desire women that look like them and their mom, sister and women in their family.
It's black men that are obsessed with light skin women because a lot of black men simply don't like being black and dark skin woman reflects back his self hatred he has being black.
@Joey_007: Yeah it is. Everyone knows most black men are psychologically toast and desire women that don't look like them or the woman that gave them birth. Who y'all think y'all fooling? Black men don't like being black nor like black women. They worship non black women. Everyone knows that.
Black men married not counting dating outside their race more than all of other the races of men combined. That tells you something about their collective mental pathology.
If you're taking that statement as fact it can also mean of all races black men are the most desired and no sh. t I don't want to f. ck anyone that looks like my mom that would be weird (to put lightly)
Why on earth would anyone want to have sex with anyone that looked like their mother and if everyone knows black men worship non-black women, where's my memo, did I miss a meeting or something? That could be flipped to black men are the most desired men among all races don't apply dumb shiz to dumb shiz.
@Joey_007: No. Black men are the least desired men of all races statistically.
Black men just get the rejects and low hanging fruit of women that men of their own races don't desire to date or marry because they are super overweight or plain stupid to want to be with or marry.
In other words Black men typically end with women who were getting nuts busted all over them by men of their own race then left for y'all to marry or date since those women have no other option but to settle with whatever they can get.
So "Black men married not counting dating outside their race more than all of other the races of men combined" and their "the least desired men of all races statistically" those 2 statements are mutually exclusive and what do you not understand by don't apply dumb sh. t to dumb sh. t
@Joey_007: I already told you who they marry and date outside their race didn't I? Let me tell you again.
#1:Single moms. #2: Whore or former whores who were whoring with men of their own race first. #3: Stupid undesirable woman. #4: Super overweight.
Those women go to black men as their last option. I posted the link to show you women of other races don't like y'all like y'all like to think being delusional.
I dunno if that applies in the uk. If say a white woman is with a educated black man like a solicitor (very rare) he's basically the fucking king since he's educated, supposedly got the biggest nuts, to the woman she is basically the top bitch. You know! Because apparently the only thing that matters in life is money and sex. The biggest reward are their caramel kids, the skin that doesn't burn and the knowledge of the two worlds. The thing about that is their kids are seen as higher up in society than their parents now.
It's a really complex thing. It's fascinating, but as a black dark skinned woman, I'm literally just on the side lines watching everyone else date, marry reproduce and make a mess of this already messed up world. But race and skin tone is fast becoming a no go area. Not if you don't wanna be called a r*****!
@lilyanony1: Yeah, forgot about him being a famous rich star or dude with money, nevertheless their kids will be considered black because they sure as hell aren't going to look white like Trump.
@Joey_007: I just showed you by the link black men aren't desirable to other races of women. y'all are well below the negative side. Keep being delusional. I'm done with the back and forth.
Okay you need to get off your high horse and I'm tired of beating around the bush so I'll be straight forward you're hispanic, I'm black and I can tell you with full confidence nobody and I mean nobody is picking you over me as a sexual partner, life partner or other wise, anybody who does needs medical assistance attraction ain't got a thing to do with race or color anybody who says other wise has some sort of stupid agenda, i. e n. ggas with your fugly mug trying to find sh. t to make themselves feel better, there is no way in hell you believe that all that mess you're talking and with that see you around
I'm not sure funny enough I personally would put mix race women on the top off my list followed by black girls when it comes to attraction im not sure of its because I'm mixrace myself or what tho could also be how beauty standards are portrayed and how black women are represented in media
Sexual dimorphism. In all races the females tend to be lighter than the males. There is a biological reason for it. Don't pin me on the exact details, but being able to soak up more sunlight helps with calcium and breastmilk production. Thus men prefer women that are lighter skinned.
U are reading way too much into it. My current girl is white, brunette, brown eyes, but I have had pretty much any other too in the past. Black, Hispanic, blonde...
I actually prefer a black girl (like 100% afro American) it's my absolute favourite
I mean this sincerely without sarcasm. I can tell this is something frustrating you but you've made something you've noticed into an assumption that most men prefer lighter skinned women. I definitely can't take away your observations but there's no way to prove that to be true nor do I believe it
No. Just because you are Black and can't get a date doesn't make the guys racist or anything.
I prefer White Girls too not because I am racist but Just because I like the looks of White Girls more and Black Girls mostly have an entirely different way of life than I am raised too have.
It has nothing to do with the color enough Black Girls that can get me drooling
Its wited into our brains to reproduce with the ones that look different from us. So men date lighter and darker women, but in todays society light skin is cherished more.
I actually prefer a good mix. Not really black and not pale white as me. That said it's just one factor among many. So the total attraction will vary independent of your skin color.
If you looked into the history of fashion and beauty and stuff like that, you'd know how we have gotten to this point.
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But you cannot always blame history for it, times changed and still most people hang on to this excuse and don’t try to get to know darkskin women or change this...
Simply because black men just don't find other dark skin women. Nothing wrong with that. Everyone has taste. I prefer latino's simply because I feel like their better at being a girlfriend than other races
It's the same as when you're out shopping and you see a red of a blue piece of clothing. Both can look good, but in the end you have a preference. Nothing to do with what they do or don't have, some colours are just more appealing to people.
