Girls, what are must do things guys should do on a first date?

[ryanbas]

[jennifer_bloom]

Some things I expect on a first date
1 - Not saying as soon as it starts that you have to leave in a short while
2 - Offering to extend the date after the initial time
3 - Not arriving too early or late
4 - Have the cell phone on hand to call if delayed in traffic or so the date can call if they are delayed or so you guys can change meeting areas if something unexpected happens
5 - Research a few things to talk about before hand and save that for the uncommon possibility that you and your date lose the flow of conversation and new words are needed
6 - Don’t express too much emotion before the date through phone or text because it will increase nervousness during the date
7 - Never agree to eat somewhere beyond your budget
8 - Never bring co workers or family on a first date or casual first meeting because it could make you afraid to be your true self around the person
9 - Try to meet somewhere where you will not run into church people or school or family or work contacts
10 - Activities like zoos or amusement parks make fun dates but probably not something you should do until you guys are close
11 - Avoid areas where two people is not enough for a good time such as a beach or a barbecue - a night singing to guitar music or playing with your pets would be better

[Paola_AR]

1. Be confident
2. Be yourself
3. Kiss her by the end of the date (if you don’t, another will. And don’t say sorry for kissing her, say that you could not resist and compliment her someway).

😉 Your good to go!

[ryanbas]

loved it hahah!! gonna make MHO :D

[spuitkaas]

I'd like to have consent when I'm kissed though. I had situations where the guy just kissed me without the date actually being good and I hated it. You can ask 'can I kiss you?' in a sexy way and it makes everything much better.

[ryanbas]

@spuitkaas oh thanks for this explanation :) and would that kiss be on lips or or on cheek?

[Paola_AR]

Well maybe it helps if I give you a scenario. I went out on our first date with my husband and I was not that into him, I really enjoyed his company but that night during the date which was at the movies he kept looking at me and smiling.

I looked back at him laughing like “what?“ he then made the move to kiss me and that just changed everything. I went out with him thinking we were just friends but he showed me that he wanted more. Him being such a gentleman and also having a sense of humor I loved but the fact that he dared to do that just took me by surprise and showed me he can take control too.

Maybe that’s just my type of personality and reaction. It could not work for other girls. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[kyleelyn199723]

1. If he’s inviting me on the date, he’s paying
2. He must converse with me and get to know me before meeting up with me. My time requires effort beforehand , and it ensures you are more likely a safe person
3. Be yourself! can't stand men that just aren’t themselves
4. If we are eating at a restaurant, and you are rude to the waitress/waiter, I’m ditching you. I’m a waitress and you better respect that waitress
5. Lead our date. You better be talking to that hostess and asking for a table.
6. Humor , humor, humor. Humor breaks awkwardness. If you can make me laugh, you can have my heart.

[AnggieGirl]

Bring a big bouquet of nice roses and dress nicely and brush his teeth and clean his fingers and nails- he must not touch her body because he thinks it’s cute, he must give her space and be respectful always

[ryanbas]

sweet sweet... like it

[Melamore]

1. Be their authentic selfs.
2. Be open minded.
3. Make her laugh or smile.
4. Be a gentleman
5. And make sure to not call her back for a second date if you are not 100% infatuated by them. Because choosing the person you want to be with romantically for a long time is something you should take seriously and not just choose a girl because you don't want to be alone.

[Screenwriter]

Show up ON TIME! Be clean and polite. OFFER to pay, even if you insist on going Dutch. Guys always make more money than women, so the offer shows deference!

ASK ABOUT YOU FIRST. If he drones on and on, end the date early and figure you dodged a bullet. Listens well. He has some compassion!

If those all make the hit list, you have some potential!

[gaaaaa]

fcking sexist

[Screenwriter]

@gaaaaa It's sexist to be clean and polite, to ask about the woman, to listen well, show compassion? I'll flip that script and say it's equally important for the woman to do the same. But the question was about what GUYS should do. I always attempt to go Dutch. If a man insists, I'm not going to insult him. I think it's nice of him. But in early dating, Dutch is better. No obligations. Nothing sexist about what I've said.

[t_time]

*Pay! DO NOT let her pay for anything!
*Offer to pick her up.
*Plan something fun and different (surprise her)
*open the car door
*give her a complement but don't be creepy or over do it.
*be respectful
*DON'T TALK IN 3rd PERSON and DON'T TELL HER HOW YOU TALK TO GHOSTS (both of those have happend to me)

[loves2learn]

Smile! Be engaging, ask questions, show genuine interest, be flirty.

[ryanbas]

very thought provoking :D Thanks haha

[loves2learn]

You’re welcome!

[WowwGirl]

1. Pay2. Bring Flowers3. Have manners4. Remember she's not just meat but a real human

[ryanbas]

pay is a must thing?

[WowwGirl]

Absolutely for a conservative or traditional girl like myself. I will pay but not on the first date. Men court women

[ryanbas]

right...

[WowwGirl]

@gwenhwyfar what do you think?

[Gwenhwyfar]

@WowwGirl agree with you

[gaaaaa]

why are u conservative? I feel it is sexist to ask for a man to pay

[WowwGirl]

@gaaaaa that's you. I feel it's ridiculous for him not too. Guess everyone is different. You wanna split things go for it.

[WowwGirl]

@bamesjond0069 is it sexiest if a guy pays? 😳 I don't seem to understand. lt seems.

[bamesjond0069]

Ofc its sexist. But in my opinion sexist is acknowledging the differences between sexes which is good. Yeah its sexist to tell a man to carry the heavy thing... but men typically are stronger and so it ought to be that way and that way is good. So the fact its sexist is good. Same with paying for a date. Men should pay and its definitely sexist and thats good.

[Gwenhwyfar]

@gaaaaa I’m a cafeteria feminist 😊. I keep the good parts of chivalry and throw out the bad parts.

[WowwGirl]

@Gwenhwyfar lmao

[gaaaaa]

@bamesjond0069 so u think it is okay to say women are inferior?

[WowwGirl]

@gaaaaa no he's saying they are different from each other and have gender roles previously assigned that they should follow. He's saying our genitals are different so the responsibility differs one being the man providing for the female

[WowwGirl]

@gaaaaa why am I conservative?

[bamesjond0069]

@gaaaaa who said women are inferior? They are different.

[gaaaaa]

yeah, just asking

[gaaaaa]

1- genitas can be the same tho. Like genitals do not matter in yoyr gender.
2- gender roles do not matter and are quite dumb if u thimk bout it. Like we are already defined before we are abe to do something? or we cannot do somethings because of our gender? like it does not make sense

[gaaaaa]

@bamesjond0069 oh let me tell u miss thing, we can do anything a man does.

[bamesjond0069]

@gaaaaa yup but that makes you unattractive. Im not into fucking men or women who pretend to be men

[WowwGirl]

@gaaaaano not really

[WowwGirl]

Gender roles are awesome

[bamesjond0069]

Gender roles... fuck yeah.

[WowwGirl]

Ask my jewelry box or garage ❤️

[WowwGirl]

Ask his stomach and pants😂

[gaaaaa]

@bamesjond0069 they don´t ´´pretend´´ to be anything darling

[bamesjond0069]

@gaaaaa by acting like a man? Thats pretend because they aren't a man.

[Goddess_Lexii]

1.) Be genuine, and don’t play games
2.) Listen, ask questions about her, and show interest in what she says.
3.) Have fun! Smile, laugh, crack a few jokes, and have a good time.

[Jxrdyn_13]

1. Offer to pay but we go 50/50
2. Stay off phone
3. Never talk about exes
4. Arrive and leave on time
5. Dont offer to, "go back to your place"
6. Open the door and pull out the chair for her
7. Get to know her. Ask questions that aren't too personal but enough to get to know her
8. Introduce yourself
9. Let her talk aswell
10. Dont state what you want out of the relationship, its too early

[Anonymous]

1) don’t stare at my boobs the whole time. You can look but don’t stare

2) Wear a condom

3) Pick me up and pay for dinner.

[ryanbas]

wear a condom on date while having dinner?

[Opinion Owner]

Can’t be too safe these days.

[ryanbas]

how a guy can push you for sex on first date if you don't want it?

[Screenwriter]

you're killin' me!! ahahahahaha

[IveGotNoName]

I only ask one thing, he has to not assume anything.

[Aimée__LJ]

Actually talk and try get to know us. Don't just talk about yourself.

[SaoirseS]

Not be an asshole. The rest will take care of itself.

[Anonymous]

Talk about yourself but also ask use questions about ourselves. I’d also say offer to pay too.

[Opinion Owner]

*us
Autocorrect haha

[ryanbas]

ooh ok lol :D

[NehaSK]

Give a beautiful gift which the girl can keep forever
make her feel safe with you.
buy her something special or
say something special

[gaaaaa]

Show up to the date at time, be respectful and funny. He should make u feel confrtable.

[SandandWaves]

are ya funny? start with that...

[ryanbas]

umm... ok :D

[Blackcupcake]

Don’t be creepy

[Dinklex3]

Be yourself.