Why do women treat me like I'm just number on dating apps?

[reasonablemanrock]

I'd like to 1st stuff point out that this post isn't about blasting women it's more, About Discovering why women don't match with me or give me the time of day on dating apps, And the few that do rarely respond to my creative straightforward friendly but not needy messages. A little background about me. Growing up you could say I had a very good middle class life in Washington State, But the reality was that it was absolutely miserable for me because I grew up with learning disabilities and dyslexia which leads to me being very reserved and insecure which hurt my ability to Socialize with kids my age growing up. During my teen years I became very depressed from my younger years As I was always a dreamer And I always wanted big things for me And from the age of 17 to 22 I felt like I was worthless ugly and unloved and stupid. My relationship with my family became on the rocks because of my self image and the lack of success in life and the shame. I went to a therapist For a couple years from age 17 onward and slowly he helped me save my life and showed me value in myself And showed me that I wasn't stupid or incapable as I thought. as I went on to get some basic jobs and eventually got my commercial driver's license class and became a truck driver. And there was a point when I didn't even believe I could learn how to drive and yeah I proved myself wrong. If the reason why I'm giving all this background is that when I go on these dating apps and i read books and videos on what makes a good profile and I incorporate these different ideas into my profile I still don't get any matches even though I'm a good guy who's not ugly and is fun to be around and yet I don't even get heard. My parents taught me to be a man of self responsibility and to not play the blame game. Not all women are so superficial, so why can't I be at least given a chance it really hurts my feelings to see even women who puts in zero effort to get thousands of matches while I get none.

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Ran out of room for this I'll answer questions as they pop up.

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I would like to point out my interactions in real life with girls I am attracted to go way better then they do online.

[Wangan]

Dating apps are shit for men.
Girls on dating apps get flooded by men, thanks to the imbalance of genders on apps.
(usually 70% males, 30% females)
Average female on dating site is in low league (2-4) and they only want to date up so they look only at top 10% men.
In conclusion 30% of females want 10% of males on dating site. So if you are not in top 10% there's no reason to waste time on apps. Go out you got better chances irl.

PS: Men are really bad in taking photos and making profiles on apps.

[KrakenAttackin]

Way too fucking long. TL;DR.

First:. You ARE just a number on a dating app.

Second:. The only thing that matters on your profile is how you look. If a female finds you attractive she will swipe right, if not she won't. It does not matter what you wrote in a message or in your profile.

[Anonymous]

Because you are just another number man. It's all competition on those sites. You have a job, you have money. Buy some nice clothes, take good photos. Join a gym and strive to be at your prime. Use this as motivation.

[reasonablemanrock]

Yeah that is technically true but I've seen videos of guys making tinder accounts for movie characters like Shrek yes Shrek and getting way more matches then me. I do on rare blue matched with really ugly girls with crappy lifestyles and personality and I at least talk to them. There are more women in America then men so why is it so hard for me to get a date or just a chance to talk.

[reasonablemanrock]

"Blue moon"

[Avicenna]

There are more women then men only starting around age 40.

[reasonablemanrock]

There's also a huge male prison population. Can't say that about women

[Avicenna]

Pretty much everyone is a number on dating apps. It’s the nature of the beast.

[reasonablemanrock]

Well my ass numbers there's plenty of men who are jobless or have crappy jobs personalities and live their moms who have beautiful girlfriends.

[Avicenna]

Did they meet them on dating apps? If someone’s very attractive, then can get a girlfriend even if they’re unemployed.

[reasonablemanrock]

Definitely not all

[Blindguyplaying]

It's a dating app. It's literally appearance only and mymaybe 10% personality. Don't expect a soul mate off the bat

[In_Trance]

Because that's how you've presented yourself to them

[reasonablemanrock]

I present myself as me the guy who is hardworking caring, loyal and confident.

[KatherineJ]

Because that’s all anyone is on a dating app.

[reasonablemanrock]

Not my friend jerel he's bigger and uglier then me but he's Ladies man and he has tons of girlfriends and finds tinder girls easy as af. And yes I have met his girlfriends he's not lying.

[KatherineJ]

But dating apps are generally just like trying to meet people in clubs. That’s what I’m saying