Another guy on Tinder... Jesus Christ... Anybody would think that the only way you can meet girls is on Tinder. It's so annoying to see the number of guys who think like this.
Look, unless you're ridiculously good looking you're not going to do well on Tinder. You're wasting your time there. That's because Tinder is nothing like real life - the cards are stacked against you there for many reasons.
The male:female ratio is about 10:1. This gives the women there a much larger number of options in comparison to men.
I think that the reason so many guys only use Tinder is because they're so afraid to talk to women in real life. They don't meet women in their day to day lives, out on weekends etc. So they go there because they're sexually unsuccessful.
Then they, just like yourself, get barely any matches and only from women they usually wouldn't be attracted to. Over time they become sexually frustrated, and they start to think that maybe they should lower their standards. And they do. They just message any girl that isn't completely hideous - although some of them do stoop to that level too.
Then they become thirsty. Then you have these average looking women - 4s, 5s, 6s - who have all of these guys trying to pull them. Some of these guys are good looking. Therefore they think that they're the shit, and they start to actually think that they're 8s, 9s and10s.
You might be an 7 in looks, and you swipe on a 5. She's getting messages from better looking guys than you, so she thinks she's at least an 8. In the street, in a nightclub, where ever else you wouldn't give her a second look, but on Tinder she sees you as being below her.
That's why it's a stupid idea to try to use Tinder.
If you can get over approach anxiety and fear of overt rejection, which is literally the only reason so many guys use Tinder, meeting women in real life is so much easier. There's so much more to attraction than whether or not you're photogenic, which is all that mattes on Tinder. About 93% of communication is non-verbal. Your body language, mannerisms, eye contact, voice, your "energy", your "vibe". All of that is lost online.
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Dude don't take it personal ( i know, easier said than done). Online dating is a s*** show. You have 4 types of women on dating sites. 1. You have the fat and ugly women they make up the bulk (no pun intended) they're on their mainly because theycan't find anyone in real life so don't rub sand in their wound. Just politely tell them not intetested but wish them luck. Secondly you have the decent (avg) looking women. They may have a kid by now, they may have a drug habit, they may be jobless. Simply put if they're doable and a decent woman some guy would have snatchex them up by now. Thrdly there's the attractive women. They're not even intetested. Why would they be? They're typically not nice peoe and are on thete simply for the attenrion. Finally there are the catfish posing as attractive women. They usually message YOU with something obviously transparent like "hi handsome". Lol women don't do that.
In short welcome to the world of online dating unless your standards are through the floor you're best totry your prospects in real life.
There are just less attractive people , on average, in the world. The odds of you coming across them in one day looking, are low. Give it time. Or look twice. People don't always take good pictures. And some pictures are not as great in person. Try to go by substance of a person as well.
You should try a dating site where you're able to send messages whether they've liked your pic or not. Then you can choose your own attractive women to talk to. If you chat with only attractive women, sooner or later, some of them will be interested in you.
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I understand where you're coming from on this, but the truth no one is entitled to anything when it comes to dating.
You shouldn't be surprised in the least that you're encountering women you find unattractive and/or overweight. Attractive women have lots of options and don't have trouble attracting guys without going on dating apps.
Your main focus should still be meeting women IRL, where you can approach attractive ones rather than expecting to have one drop into your lap with one swipe.Umm maybe because your using a dating app, where women fucking control the entire thing. U see, tinder is the shallowist place because the population of guys is insane and girls can get what ever they want there. Those attractive girls dont think you are ugly, they can just get better easily lol.
The fat ugly chicks can't be picky.
Your overthinking it. And self improvement isn't false hope lol.
there's many things a body can do for you and a nice hair style, your just whining and entitledThe prettiest of birds are the first to get taken. It's too late for you, if you want to date a better looking bird then you have to wait until you're 40 and the recently divorced mothers start popping out of the woodwork.
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Unattractive girls are more proactive on dating sites and they play "the numbers game:" send out enough messages, likes, etc. and, eventually, one will result in a date.
Taking those steps doesn’t automatically mean you’re attractive. You could still have an ugly face or something, even with clear skin and a nice body.
It's not what YOU show, but rather what THEY see.
The attention we get cannot be directed by our own wishes. All you can do is to implicate what you look for in a text, headline or such.Maybe because you’re unattractive yourself. You get what you give.
Cuz dating apps are for losers.
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