Why do I keep attracting unattractive women?

[Anonymous]

It’s like the universe is torturing me. My goal is to attract an ATTRACTIVE woman, not unattractive ones. I wish the “universe” (I don’t believe in spiritual things like karma and stuff, but i’m using it to explain my point) would just leave me alone rather than rub it in my face that I won’t get the girls I want by having unattractive girls hit me up all over my social medias. Why is it that I keep attracting all of these unattractive women?

[Anonymous]

Because you are unattractive too and/or because attractive girls have options. Lots of options. And they are generally much less likely to make the first move on someone, because they already have lots of attractive guys going after them so they don’t need to. So it’s even more important to be proactive if you want an ”attractive girl”. You can’t sit around and wait for them to come to you, that won’t happen. Now, if you’re not attractive yourself (which I already pretty much know you aren’t, at least not your personality. A whining personality, like you show proof of with this post, is a major turn off and very unattractive for most women) then you can forget about getting an ”attractive girl”. The chances of that happening are slim to none.

[Asker]

Am I not allowed to complain about how I only get unattractive chicks in my DM’s? How do you know that i’m not actively working to improve myself? (Which I am by the way. Been doing so for four years). The only reason you’re bitter is because you’re unattractive yourself.

[thegirlfromthething]

Maybe you’re unattractive too or something about you makes them think you’re willing to look past physical appearance and date them for their personalities.

[Anonymous]

Everyone attracts some unattractive people. How you deal with it is key. They have balls to put themselves out there, at least.

[Anonymous]

Girls with lower self esteem are more likely to take random shots because they have nothing to lose meanwhile attractive girls know that they can do nothing and still get guys that are seeking them out. It's nothing to do with you, if you want attractive girls then make a move or stop complaining, you only have yourself to blame.

If you aren't willing to get rejected then you don't deserve the potential rewards, you don't get something for nothing, you've got to put in the work.

[Asker]

I’ve been there. I’ve asked out attractive girls before. All ended in rejections

[Opinion Owner]

You only need one success! It's a numbers game, the more you try the higher the chances and the more you learn so the better you get at it. But either way, the fact that girls you aren't attracted to are approaching you doesn't necessarily say anything about you.

[Asker]

Yes, but I think of the future. What if that girl were to break up with me? Then i’m back to square one. Isn’t it better to have multiple girls want you and then that way after the breakup, you can just choose one of those girls?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think so, you're acting as if you've already lost, it's better to have the good experiences even if they are temporary

[Username227]

I always recommend only speaking to women that you find attractive. The ones who are unattractive don't get much attention from men and probably like you because you didn't give a fuck about what you said when you spoke to them. You came across as confident around them because you weren't nervous about them not liking you because you didn't fancy them homie. Take initiative and go after girls you find hot.

[Elia_Mason_Garofano]

Maybe it's because you're not at the attractive women's level. In any case, why would you even want a good-looking woman when you can have a supportive one?

[Anonymous]

You are what you attract

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=IGb8MwZoTDo&t=116s

[Darkest-Knight]

Maybe you should try hitting up the attractive women

[Asker]

And get rejected? Not a smart move

[Darkest-Knight]

Beggars can't be choosers

[Asker]

I’m not begging. I’d rather die alone than date an unattractive girl

[Anonymous]

Are you even attractive to being with? lol

[Afreen23]

Maybe you are not attractive yourself.