Why do black women in America have such low self-esteem?
Black women and ugly do not even belong in the same sentence. Black women are truly naturally beautiful. To me they are truly the most feminine and have the ideal feminine face and form. Black women have features other races pay to have. Full lips, high cheek bones, almond shaped eyes, curly lashes, button nose, long legs, curvy hips, thighs, big butts, breast, and hands down have the most beautiful hair in the world. Black hair is capable of anything and is so beautiful in its natural form.
Trust me when I say black women are gorgeous. And yes men do find black women attractive. Attractive enough that they jack off to ebony where its one of the top 3 most watched categories and searched. Especially in America where black women only make up 6% of the population. Oh and IN THE WORLD too So since men clearly find black women attractive enough to jack off to them at high rates when no one is looking, why do so many men say black women are unattractive? To put it simply. Because many are racist and view black people as inferior so admitting they find black women attractive makes them feel bad and feel like something is wrong with them. To put it simply many of the men who are quick to deny black women as beautiful and say things like "I'm not attracted to black girls, or black girls are ugly' are usually the ones who are most attracted to them. Denying it is really their coping mechanism. If they deny it enough times maybe they'll start to believe it. Men who are quick to trash a women are usually into them from what i've noticed.
Most of these men would of course not date a black woman and even though they are sexually attracted to black women would never marry or date a black girl, because at the end of the day they are racist and want to uphold the worlds standard of beauty and power which in most cases is whiteness.
Why do black women keep asking racist ugly men if they find black women attractive?
"Black women have features other races pay to have"
Throwing shade at white women I see. This whole screams of insecurity. Many white women have naturally fuller lips and thicker bodies as well as many black women are skinnier-(I see it all the time) which doesn't make someone less attractive automatically anyways since MANY men on this planet prefer skinnier women. Hence why most white men stick with white women and desire east Asian women many times as well. Most east Asian men stick with east Asian women etc. You're also making a very large assumption that the majority of black women in the u. s. have a low self esteem. If a black American woman is highly attractive then believe me, she knows it and shows it off just as much as any other race. Attractive black women have very, very big egos on social media. Ever heard of "I'm a bad bitch" ? Ya lol. You are referring to the black women who are ugly or average in the u. s which is a lot, unfortunately. Those specific pictures of black women that you posted are beautiful and there is no reason that they wouldn't have confidence in themselves. I'm not sure what you're trying to aim for with this post. You can't force people to be attracted to what they simply aren't regardless of any particular feature that you personally find desirable. I wouldn't make a similar post trying to convince everyone that only rail skinny women are attractive. (I think something in the middle is ideal, on the skinnier side but still some meat) Instead of whining and attention seeking, go do something productive like forming a black American female empowerment group or something.
You can't expect a majority white country (u. s., Canada etc) to prefer black beauty over white beauty. That's like me going to Africa and getting mad because black men prefer their own women. Stupid.
@Marianna546 Yup. And if you are thankful to eyes, curve and If you are white. You will be labelled as racist of something. If you say the same statement but for white race "White women have features other races pay to have" you will be called White supremacist
Well in Asia, which is where the majority of population live, there they spend thousands of dollars to get what white women have.
I'm black and I don't really give a damn about others views of me or do this. I hardly see any black women do it outside of GAG and sites like it. Most of us accept our looks and wear them well. We are actually becoming more desirable and successful in life because of it. We're wearing our natural hair more and representing self-love as well as our culture.
I think some just ask because they want to feel part of GAG and etc. They want more people to recognize them on here since black people on GAG isn't as great in number as other races/. I see more and more every day though so that could change soon.
we have such low self-esteem because we always have people constantly putting down black women saying our dark skin and natural hair is ugly. it's even worse because it's mostly black guys saying these kinds of things hating on their own kind and being degrading like I do not get it...
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Black boys who do that are self hating and wish they were white themselves so they take their anger out on black girls. White men and black men are usually the most racist towards black women
Actually no. Black men are more racist than white men. I see white boys dating dark skinned girls more than I see a black guy dating dark skinned black female.
Black women need to stop giving a shit about other people's opinions. I've seen plenty of good looking black women. Their dark skin is a blessing! Love yourself.
Well a lot of black men put down black women themselves so i think that's one of the biggest reasons why black women are like this. I've noticed that black men usually go for anyone other than a black women whilst they are messing about/having sex and then when it's time to settle down they go back to black women and expect them to accept them back after they rejected them in the first place. I hope that makes sense.
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Black men are self hating and wish they were white themselves
I'm late to the party, but fuck it. First of all, I want to make it very clear to everyone, I'm a Brown skin Black man, not that it matters lol. See, I don't find Black women unattractive, I actually like the Black phenotype more than others because I want my children to resemble me. I think most Black men agree, or they wouldn't be 86% of married Black men with Black women. See, Black women will never tell the full story. They never want to focus on the Black men who uplift their women and talk positively about them, because they don't want those guys. They want the guys that don't want them. For Black men, it's the opposite. Having dark skin is seen as a sign if masculinity. Ask a lot of Black women, and they will tell you they don't like light skin Black men. I have light skin friends who have struggled to date Black women. They think those guys are "weak" or "pussy" from what I heard. What do we say to that? But see, it's only when Black women are affected do y'all want to talk. I'm a brown skin Black dude, so I'm in the middle. I would get with a dark skin sista if she's fit, feminine and friendly, just like I would get with any other shade of Black woman if she's fit, feminine and friendly. You completely remove accountability from yourself, and then you want to compliment White men for dating dark skin women, like they're doing them a favor or some shit lol.
Then you talk about men jacking off to Black women. That has to be it for me. See, men would jack off to anything nowadays. The step family stuff is just fucked up and weird, but to a lot of people that's what turns them on. Other people get off to hardcore and BDSM. Some people watch midget porn. I mean there's a list of weird shit people actually watch, so the fact they beat their meat to that really ain't special, and just shows how desperate you are to get some brownie points. by the way, these are the same women who complain about being "fetishized" are out here celebrating the fact men of other ethnicities are beating their ding dong to them in their private time, and they complain when Black men are fetishized by White women (which I'm also against by the way) but they want to celebrate being fetishized by White men. Go figure.
Lastly, I would like to say that other women aren't "copying Black women" they're just going with what's trendy. I'm pretty sure there was a point in time when Black women didn't care so much about having big butts as well, but now I see many sistas getting a bbl and trying to say that they are the "blueprint" for other women, whatever that means. Black men don't give a shit if a White dude wants to listen to hip hop or talk a certain way, as long as he doesn't say the n word, then we're cool. Plenty of Black men love Eminem. Black women however think Iggy Azalea is trying to copy Black women (which I gotta say Iggy is terrible, but that's the closest example I could find). If Black men were to say Eminem couldn't wear baggy clothes, or a durag, or go into hip hop, we would be in your predicament, but we are more chill. Yes, some aspects of Black culture are liked by others, but that doesn't mean you're the shit all of a sudden just because people wanted to try a couple of things. Chances are, Black women wear weaves, skin lightning treatments and nose jobs to look like White women, but nobody wants to talk about that. I don't see Black men straightening their hair or trying to look like White men, that just doesn't happen. If you want to pick a fight with everyone, you will have problems. That's my 2 cents.
First off, porn is much more different than real life. Second off, not all men who say black women are unattractive are ugly or even racist, thats just hasty generalization. I find all these women in the pictures unattractive and they can find me unattractive and I wouldn't give a fuck. Social Justice Warriors are fucking full of it.
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LMAO!!! A hit dog will holler!!! Just say you hate black people and love ebony porn and go.
I don't watch ebony porn. Im just saying you can watch any category of porn and in real life not be attracted at all to said category. Porn shouldn't be taken into consideration of anything. Its like a drug.
Calling a whole RACE of women ugly... is racist. You can say you dont date them and you wouldn’t be the worlds greatest person , but it’s not racist to say that
I'd say I agree with about 67% or two thirds. I'll chalk 1/3 up to ridiculous propaganda, but there is one thing in particular that I do like about this article is it was never "All these" or "everyone", because I hate that. No one should be classified along someone else because they took a poll of 50 college kids!
It's funny because the world offends us and acts surprised why we have such a low self esteem
Black men only want us when were lightskin or mixed. And no other race really looks our way unless they have a fetish. It's crazy because people pay to get bigger butts and lips, things we naturally have. But we are all painted as ratchet, ghetto and not feminine. Also nobody likes black hair unless it's loose. Which also sucks
It only happens on forums like GaG. At African-American culture sites, etc. it doesn't happen. Most women don't have self-esteem issues. And they get plenty of support regarding their looks, sexuality, etc.
to put it simply, there is no simple answer. since when is it racist to not be attracted to someone. its g great that you are open minded enough to date all races, Creed's, and cultures, but not everyone is built that way. if I'm not a fan of curly hair, does that make me racist? if prefer petite women, is that also racist? you are making sweeping generalizations with no proof, sounds like a politician I know.
They are beautiful. However statistically 48% of them have genital herpes. Their demographic has the largest number of children out of wedlock from multiple partners. Imagine spending the equivalent of a car payment on hair and nails each month. Their weave addiction has funded the college educations of thousands of Asian kids.
👀Woah that's some serious shit... I wasn't aware our demographic was so bad. Not all black women are horrible.
P. s. you should probably find a percentage more recent than 2010 saying 48%. As for children out of wedlock sadly it's true. But I'm not going to have children until I am married. And funding kids colleges? I spent 30 bucks a month on my braids and do my own nails. So I wouldn't say we all have a weave/ nail addiction. Our hair is a lot harder to manage though which is why we spend so much on hair. Also we consider the hair on our head as crowns so we do place a lot of focus there.
I cannot answer "Why?" Maybe just curiosity. I suppose if one asks a question on an open site like this or others like it, seeking an answer to this, there will be guys like me who care about the person a girl is, not her skin, hair, or eye color. Then there will be guys who prefer. There will be those who fetishize. And finally there will be haters who go on rants about why they don't like X, Y, or Z. The haters might be the most vocal and verbose.
People who prefer racism should be kept different in your question. Its about marrying or not. Yes if she have a good behavior & respect to other living beings. It's not just about body that I find attractive. I'm not black but I like black women more than white. If u ask me about marriage, I'm reserved for someone special till now & I'll happily marry a black woman if I get one😘
Yeah, I knew it, men like rounded jaws (wide) and women like angular jaws (also wide), black women most of them have rounded jaws but black men do not, that's what makes them attractive and they can't see the features in men, so they turn to white people, I don't know if ugly would be the best word to describe them, since I'm not racist and I said yeah they're attractive, but here you go, that's why.. thanks for ending racism by the way have a good day!!
I personally don't have any racist feelings toward African Americans, but I do feel as though they keep racism alive more than white people do just by the fact that they're always pointing to skin color for reasons for success, failure, or anything else. They bring skin color up too much. Just let it die out
Those black girls in the picture are like top of the beauty scale... your everyday black does not nearly look like that at all...
and black girls have low self esteem sometimes... well... it's not they fault... it's just the dating scene seems to value dark women less... of course they're going to feel a little shitty about it
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Those are black women and I see black women like them all the time. I live in Cali and black girls here are gorgeous. Not sure where you live bud. But anyway black women are made to feel like shit in this society and I'm here to tell them they're gorgeous.
I highly doubt it... those are model material... I doubt there is thousands of model material black girls just walking around in cali... but either way... black girls regardless of how pretty they are tend to be last pick from guys...
Im not saying it should be like that... just acknowledging that it's that way...
most of the girls being sex trafficked in the u. s are black. Hence there is a demand for black girls. The top 3 categories men watch in the world and in the US are ebony hence men enjoy masturbating to them.
I just read a study saying that black women are the least attractive race out of all races because they have an increase in testosterone. Plus slave masters used to rape slaves all the time just because they were horny, doesn't mean they find them attractive.
@normielover6969xD you mean the study by racist japanese guy where racist people rated black women as unattractive? Its not based on any evidence and also black women dont have more testosterone they have more estrogen though. www (.) healio (.) com/endocrinology/reproduction-androgen-disorders/news/print/endocrine-today/%7Bdd35b6e1-a21a-42fc-b70a-42911ee0e694%7D/estrogen-levels-higher-among-black-women-during-menstrual-cycle
@normielover6969xD Every one has black blood in them because we all came from Africa. That's basic science. In fact mitochondrial Eve is a black woman. The woman every person on this Earth descended from
Look what up? Loads of scientific evidence explains in detail that although we are convergent from the same animal type, we took different paths after that. Note that this separation happened millions if years ago. That's why you find different types of homosapiens everywhere across the globe.
@normielover6969xD that's so weird when I was single and being a thot, i mostly attracted white men. Some of them were weird tho. One had a hard time letting our affair go. A couple were married. Some had girlfriends. Two talked about impregnating me. Omg. My husband is white too. We got married after months, he jokes and says it's because the sex is so good but he was ready to marry much sooner than that lol
I mean the reason ebony is a category is because most porn features white people. Not to say that this is due to white women being more attractive but people searching for ebony porn doesn't really prove anything.
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Most of the consumers of porn are white people as well. but if they're looking up ebony at high rates that tells you something
In middle school this black guy called me chicken george and other things happened to me too. My mom was very beautiful and confident and she didn't realize my self esteem was low so I really had no help in that area since self esteem didn't naturally come to me. My mom was very loving but my dad wasn't around and I didn't grow how I needed to. So I walked around with low self esteem and let people treat me bad. Anyway I'm better now thank God
But some of us do date black women and we have no problem with so I don't understand your problem must be a mind thing with you that a white man doesn't ask you out
In my experience black women are the more confident, but for that reason they put themself in a position of criticism more often. They are beautiful and they know it, but not everyone has the same opinion and that goes for everyone and everything.
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