Would white guys also be attracted to mixed racial light skin girls? How do you attract them?

[Anonymous]

I've always had a preference for white men ever since I first started liking boys but I felt pressured to only date black guys. So, I never felt sexually attracted to any of my boyfriends other than the biracial/mixed racial ones like myself. Now I am 25 years and with seeing all the positive interracial couples BW/WM I see, I feel pretty encouraged and that it okay to date men I actually find attractive.

The problem is , I RARELY see any white men dating very light complexion or mixed racial black girls like me and I am both so I feel disadvantage. I only see them with more brown or darker complexion black women and because I see them with white men and everyone is okay with it that why I feel like I have more options. I often get told I don't look black enough and look mixed, I am pretty proud of my black side since I was raised that way and unless people asked I don't tell them. I don't really get approached by white men and I am pretty shy so I don't know how to approach them.

I just think it's because of the way I look and contrary to popular belief women who look like me pretty much only get approach by dark complexion black men so I don't feel I have many other options when I just have a preference. People really don't understand how hard it is for all black women regardless of how bright or dark we are, we don't really have any options.

I am starting to think I got no chance in hell with attracting the men I actually am attracted to, white men because of how I look. And I have no idea on how to, I keep getting hit on by black guys even when I make it clear I have a preference but I don't think my preference likes me. Should I just keep dating black guys because there the only ones that will have interest in me? I feel so damn ugly and unattractive because I'm light, mixed and don't look black enough' I guess I will just stick with my pinterest board of guys I like but could never get.

[UncleBilll]

One of my daughters is Mixed Black and white! My favorite girls to date is Mixed girls, I will date them any day and my favorite in the sack too

[Asker]

Then how come I never see white men with mixed light skinned women LOL. It would be a big encouragement, I love seeing darker complexion black women with white men but it makes me feel exiled to only dark skinned black men because I don't see anyone else that wants to date us ever, like we're a plague still. Sometimes I feel like I am ugly because I'm mixed and light- it humors me when I see darker black women with white men and I wonder if they every think about when they have daughters that look like me do they take this in account, probably not.

[UncleBilll]

Mixed girls are so pretty for sure. I am definitely attracted to them and try to date them as much as I can. Sex is great too.

[Asker]

The sex does look more satisfying from what I see on porn LOL. That's the closest I can get.

[UncleBilll]

Well if can't find anyone give me a holler

[Berethor]

Meghan? what are you talking about? mixed girls tend to look better than fully black girls.

[Asker]

Well I don't think we look better than them or vice versa, we're still black girls. I'm just wondering if white guys are attracted to us as much as the darker complexion black girls cause I don't see a lot of white men who date women who are on the lighter side like me or mixed like me. And how do you even attract them?

[Berethor]

You really see lot of white guys who date black girls? didn't black girls are the less least popular kind of girls? white features are popular, google the 'but not too black' trope.

[Asker]

Yes, I do. A looooooooot of them and this chart is from 2014 so the data is really outdated tbh, I see a lot of women from other races date black men and not many are willing to date Asian men, I read in a study from 2021, that Asian men are considered the least desireable among men as well as black women being considered the least desireable. I tried dating a Chinese guy but he fetishized black women a lot; he constantly compared me to his nigeran ex for her extremely darker complexion and big boobs but talk about her like she was dumb and clueless without him and made fun of her hair whereas me he said I wasn't black enough or dark enough but like my hair and complexion, It did not last long and I didn't really like dating him. This chart really out of date because even though guys like Asian girls where I am from, Latina girls get favored over them. I live in Cali so maybe things are a little different but this data is far too long ago. Plus, I hear from a lot of white girls that they prefer black guys to white men. Honestly, I hardly met a woman from another race that hadn't prefer one tbh...

[Anonymous]

Ohh yes I am very attracted to this type of women but like you I was constrained to the women around me, even if my fantasies and desires stick with the other ones. I wish I could see you

[Asker]

Yes! Exactly, because my community told me so I just went with what I was pressured to date but it's no chemistry at all and sex was just the worst cause I'd have to close my eyes and fantasized men I have never even dated and I felt guilty. Oh I described how I look in the comment above.

[Opinion Owner]

I totally understand that and about the chemistry and even sexual intercourse for some reason I like mixed women a lot and even black ones but they are so rare where I live that I don't even get to speak to one just maybe a few times a year if I am lucky. I often fantasize about them as well, I even like their attitude and way of speaking. I know you described but I was curious to actually see you, I am very curious how you actually look, words do not describe enough or accurate.

[Asker]

Yeah, it looks better from what I can see from porn cause thats as close as I can get lol. White men aren't rare from where I am from, I live in California so it's a little of everything, but they are usually paired with white women, hispanic women or Asian women, maybe darker complexion black women but that's about it. And there more or less married or in long term relationships so it more like there not enough available ones. I don't even know HOW to talk to one in a flirty way, in a platonic way sure easy but in a go on a date exchange numbers way? Yeah no I am completely stuck.

[Opinion Owner]

Aww you should not worry, the talking comes natural if you really like someone, also if you don't talk he will do the talking for sure if he likes you. Also better to be sublime with flirting, we don't really like easy women.

[Asker]

That's true, I tend to over think when I ever I do talk to men I am attracted to or run, I just don't know how to flirt to talking platonically is the best way I have conversation with me.

[Opinion Owner]

That's not something necesarly bad, platonic conversation gives you an opportunity to know people better

[zagor]

If you want a white guy then go where white guys are. I've seen white guys approach girls like you describe a lot of times.

[BarryLiverstone]

If you are attractive then it should work. How do you look?

[Asker]

Well, I am 5 feet even sadly, I have pretty light skin I;m a "yellow-bone," thats the best way to describe it I guess and I have brown freckles across my cheeks and over the bridge of my nose I guess like a blush maybe? I have extremely dark eyes and weirdly long lashes and thick dark brows I like to keep shaped and maintenance so I don't have to put makeup on everyday other than sunscreen of course. My hair is more 3A/3B but like these "pillow curls" they do that and my hair right above my butt but I like to keep it in braids or in an up-do, it's almost black or more like Raven colored. I full small lips, small ears, small feet, small hands but I am pretty thick and curvy, 38E, 48 inch butt I'm pretty proud of, I weigh 195lbs but I'm not fat if that makes sense. I do have a very youthful face which I do like but I sound very young and girl which I don't like, so yeah I don't look like much I guess.

[BarryLiverstone]

Five foot 195 lbs, it’s hard to imagine you are not fat in some ways. But if you work out and are healthy then guys will be attracted to you and you can see their eyes look. Do you get lots of looks or does that depend on what you wear?

[Asker]

Nope, really not fat at all. People don't believe it when I tell them cause I look like 140 but thats why I have a big butt and big boobs, thats where it all goes LOL. Plus my thighs, legs and I used to do wrestling in high school and worked out during college so I assumed I still have muscle memory but yeah not fat at all. I would like to gain more weight though because I liked to be fluffier then just big in my "assets."
I actually do eat healthy, I eat lots of fruits, veggies, I hate soda any kids so just water and tea with little sugar because I hate really sweet things. I liked to cook at home instead of eating out. I like exotic fruits as well. I eat more fish than red meats, chicken and vegetarian meals. I don't eat pork at all because I am allergic. I just recently started eating more nuts with oats because usually I just eat it with fruits. So my diet is pretty healthy and that's never been a problem.

I defiantly attract a lot of looks whether I am in sweats or a dress, but I try to dress down and cover as much because of my butt and breasts. I don't like getting all the looks especially when I am alone by myself so maybe I am getting looked at white men I just try to get in and out cause sometimes it's a little intense and men don't always take no for an answer. My problem is the only men who come up to me and talk to me are black men and I don't know how to open the door so to speak and get white men to approach or what do I say to approach them.

[BarryLiverstone]

If you want to make it more open and attractive for lighter color skin guys to approach you then you can do a few things. One would be making some friends with lighter skinned people and going out in groups with them. Another would be going up to them instead of waiting for them to approach you. And another would be using body language more obviously if you did see a guy with whiter skin you wanted to talk to. I assume you are doing some of these things already and even if the guy you meet isn’t perfect for you Or meets your standards I would suggest talking to him for practice or to make a new friend.

[Reijen]

Long story short, you're going to find guys who you're attracted to, who are also attracted to you.

[OddBeMe]

Cosplay as their favorite video game. Seriously.

[Asker]

That... seems like a good idea actually...

[OddBeMe]

Trust me.

She got me to marry her by cosplaying Pink Power ranger.

[cootjuhh]

yeah every girl with color is exciting

[Asker]

Is there something else I

[Asker]

Is there something I could be doing wrong then or just unattractive?

[cootjuhh]

they are beautyfull sweet and lovely

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes, we are attracted to mixed girls.

[slatyb]

Some would.