Do unattractive women get matches on dating apps?

[Monalisa77]

Yes

No

[Avicenna]

They probably get lots of matches. It's much easier to match on a dating app than it is to approach IRL, lots of guys on dating apps just want hookups anyway (and it doesn't matter what she looks like if you're in the dark), and unattractive women also get partners.

[Monalisa77]

I've made it plain clear on my profile they won't get it from me

[rigmarole]

Most likely. Dating apps are designed to get women to pay monthly fees like gym memberships. Thus bots are used to generate matches by default to give a certain level of perceived attention to women. Women are addicted to attention. So like a drug dealer, they get you hooked on the concept of attention, then they gradually water down the free product so that you will buy the good shit to get your fix of attention with "better matches".

[Monalisa77]

I've not paid, im using the only free one. My brother s got dates from them so i dont believe theyre all bots and u need to verify urself

[rigmarole]

They don't expect everyone to pay. They shoot for a percentage of users somewhere between 1%-5% conversion to purchase in order to be profitable. You know 95%+ will never make a purchase in any free apps. That's expected. For example in online gaming in free to play games that offer in game purchases 3.5% conversion to sale is pretty typical and that small percentage of users tends to make their first purchase in the first 2 weeks. With blanket email spam, you might get 1% conversion rate for a site with free content that offers some sort of product or service in addition to free content.

I didn't say everyone on the site is a bot, I just said there is a software mechanic to manipulate and steer users into making purchases. Therefore even unattractive women will get perceived attention. There will be bots that like them, swipe them, send them friendly or flirty messages only to evaporate into thin air... Women are the target audience. They spend more impulsively, attention addiction is greater in women, women are larger users of social media (virtual socialization), and relationships are far more sought after by women.

[Monalisa77]

I've had someone on who has a pix of someone i knew, and theyre not verified nor will send me any pics and didn't recognise me

[jarkitor20]

I've matched with conventionally unattractive women and they still get more action than unattractive men

[Monalisa77]

Why do u match with them if u dont find them attractive?

[jarkitor20]

I would find them attractive, but I would know most wouldn't.
A few I didn't find super attractive but they had many other qualities I liked more than looks

[SotiCoto]

Even the most monstrous of women would get more matches on a dating app than the most appealing of guys.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes. Lots of guys just match a large quantity of girls.

[Monalisa77]

I can't get over how desperate some look

[BarryLiverstone]

Yep both guys and girls can look desperate

[Monalisa77]

Well I've blocked the ones who r only looking for a shag

[BarryLiverstone]

Okay, well many will lie about that

[Monalisa77]

Ye ik

[BarryLiverstone]

Keep in mind girls can be desperate as well

[Monalisa77]

Ok well id like a boyfriend but i donr think liking to know all about it is desperate its normal

[BarryLiverstone]

If you want a boyfriend, have you asked friends for help? Using dating apps isn’t how you find a boyfriend

[Monalisa77]

I struggle making friends I've actually had more responses from guys than girls, i think girls probably dont think guys would like me dont think i could flirt or whatever so dont encourage me

[Monalisa77]

Well I've been told i over react when im positive guys r flirting with me. And or i miss the signs and i dont see them again.

[BarryLiverstone]

Then you have work to do. Find out why you aren’t making friends and improve that.

[Monalisa77]

And i can't talk to the ones i like. Im mute

[Monalisa77]

I dont know cos its the same everytime. With every person. Im v fridndly with everyone. I think ita obvious people dont wanna deal with someone with health issues n sadly some of those issues aren't going away

[BarryLiverstone]

There it is. Having health issues will limit your ability to have a boyfriend. But you can still have one, just may not meet the ceiling of who you are attracted to

[Monalisa77]

Wepl i have blokes flirting with me when its obvious i have health issues. Even obvious I've got poor teeth so why do they flirt and stare? I can't see their doing it to be rude.

I know other people with health issues who have bfs. It shouldn't stop u getting one. Im a v fun person who likes to make people laugh n im not a liar v loyal etc

[Monalisa77]

Also those blokes r good looking. I dont go out of my way for them unless they started it. I think my anxiety gets in the way

[BarryLiverstone]

If they are good looking, then they flirt for practice or they do it to feel desired

[Monalisa77]

Why would staring gice them pratice? I kept ignoring the last guy who did it

[Monalisa77]

They know I've got health issues 2 so they must know i look confused/in shock etc theyre not blind that im not flirting bakc

[BarryLiverstone]

I didn’t say staring. I said thee actively flirt. A guy who looks at you isn’t flirting

[Monalisa77]

No but then it must have been more tha Praticing

[BarryLiverstone]

Doesn’t have to be more.

[Monalisa77]

Why would a guy stare then, it seemd pretty intense to me. It was happening throughout the night and he's not been back since. (im only mentioning this here cos i assume im unattractive anyway , but if i was why would he behave like that (aswell as atroking my hand) he gets out n about a lot interacting with diff people. Dont know y hed be that desperate

Aswell as i dont get y guys would give me the time off day just to get a shag.

[BarryLiverstone]

One guy stared? Could be 10 reasons.

[Monalisa77]

Multiple stares, but there's been other guys too yes who have stared and flirted

[BarryLiverstone]

Ok. Well I hope I have fully answered your question. As I suggested improve social skills to obtain more friends, get off the dating apps, and flirt with less attractive guys to move forward in finding a loyal companion

[Monalisa77]

I can't go to places where u meet guys irl on my own. And as i said, people have told me im either over reacting or missing the signs.. The apps the last resort, im blindsided i matched the security guy from the job i had, i found him attractive but i didn't think hed mstch me... But then i dont think he knows its me

[Monalisa77]

My brothers met gfs from them. And i know other people who have 2. It can't hurt to try

[slatyb]

Mostly they don't. That's online dating.

[Danny_dan92]

Women get more matches than men do

[i_am_an_engineer]

Yes…it’s possible…lots of desperate guys out there