Would you date someone with opposing political views?

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I just found out that my boyfriend might be a conservative. I personally don't agree with these values at all. Should I dump him?

CallMeDave · Accepted Answer

That depends on what the difference in views is. If they have a different idea of how to solve a problem that's rational even if I don't agree with it, I can live with that. But if they deny things that have been proven to be true or want to deny other people rights then that's a deal breaker.

So for example, if someone think the best solution to the climate change crisis is something different than I do, that's fine. But if they don't believe climate change is real, that's a problem. If someone thinks that the best solution to the widening wealth gap between rich and poor is something different than I do and it's something rational (not give more to rich people and that magically the poor will benefit from that) then that's OK, but believing that poor people don't matter and it's all their own fault that they're poor is a big problem.

Also, believing in any of the crazy conspiracy theories that the right wing has concocted is a deal breaker. Believing that "fair" elections means making it harder for people that might have a different opinion than you to vote is a deal breaker.

There have to be core beliefs that climate change is real and a serious problem, that everyone eligible to vote should have an equal chance to vote and that everyone should be treated equally regardless of their race, religion, economic status, sex, sexual orientation or anything else. If there are different ideas (that are rational) about how to achieve those things that's fine but belief in those things is a requirement.

hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

Well first you have no idea what a conservative is (every person who isn't conservative has thus far not been able to explain what conservatism actually is. In fact studies show that while conservatives can empathize with the left, the left cannot empathize with conservatives), so your first step should be to well one see him as a human being like he sees you as a human being, and two to find out what he actually believes before you claim that his values don't mesh with yours.

After you've actually learned what he believes (because people on the left claim all sorts of crazy things about conservatives that are patently false. They will tell you what conservatives think but then admit that they have never watched conservative media, don't have conservative friends and don't talk to conservatives (so how would they know what a conservative believes?)), then you can decide whether or not their is too big of a gap between you two for it to work out or you could find out that you actually have more in common then you thought you did and stay together.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I dont care as long as they don’t end up screaming at me every day for 2 hours, no, thank you, can have that at my family home. I generally am not into political activists, they often have a common trait of being pushy and arrogant which I find very unpleasant to be related to in any way. If i encounter sb like this, i am gone faster than the light. I can make my life unpleasant myself or with the help of my family, i dont need this in my relationships. Of course i am not against people who have political views but dont antagonise others for not having the same. I believe in the freedom of political views

BlacklightShade · Accepted Answer

This is between you and him. But things are very tribal right now and has a bigger impact on relationships then it ever did. I personally would not be comfortable dating someone with the opposite political view as mine. I un-friended and stopped chatting with people who I don't agree with on this matter, including family. But your mileage may vary

Kaneki05 · Answer

I wouldn't at all. And yeah you probably should if it's a thing you feel strongly on and know it will cause aruguments when he say's something.
Some people can manage to date those of opposites. But in reailty it don't make any sense. It's like a killer been with a person who don't agree with killing. Just hypocritical messes. And conservatives do believe abortion is murder so if you don't you are a killer in there eye's.

JesseJayNeak · Answer

That's the shallowest reason ever. "Bruh" moment indeed

Overmind · Answer

Probably not; anyone buying into two party politics isn't the sharpest. Leaders seek to keep people powerless & how they do that is creating a us vs them mentality. The purpose is to prevent people from uniting & holding their leaders accountable. I don't mean to offend anyone but this is what I've come to truly believe.

doopayo · Answer

I wouldn’t, I never am attracted to conservatives and it’d be a reason for arguments that isn’t healthy in relationships

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

Im an independent but I am basically on the left to just don’t like labels and I’m not going to sell my soul to a political party, but it would depend on if they are Republican and conservative. I agree with very limited things on the Republican side so depending on how deep their believes are in the Republican Party possibly, but no I would never date a conservative girl

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Depends on where you both stand on certain important issues. Eg if one of you is strict pro life and the other is no, then it might cause problems, but just voting different than each others might be fine.

Leavesbound · Answer

Many married couples don't share political views. But sharing political views can make for a more tranquil relationship.

KatanaSlice · Answer

I mean I have my own political views but I'm not super political so I wouldn't really let it be a deal breaker.

dudeinohio · Answer

Don't get into political discussions... plain and simple. Keep politics out of your relationship and you'll be fine.

DaveToo · Answer

Talk it over with him. You're too young to buckle under to a fascist.

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve done this… I would not recommend it anymore. The climate is too toxic now.

dolemite89 · Answer

that’s like caring which sports team someone roots for, who cares 🤷‍♂️

Sabretooth · Answer

i'm not political... but, i couldn't be with a conservative... not after the last 4 years.

BIG-BLACK-Robinson · Answer

Yes. Break up with him and date black.

Fuentes · Answer

I would not date anyone whose super into politics

Shihab91 · Answer

well i have no political views so i don't care

Anonymous · Answer

You should dump him before it's too late.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Yes, I would.

pleasestopthis · Answer

I wouldn't.

Nachowedgie · Answer

Nope

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