Would you date someone that has different political views?

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It's election season and we seem to be more polarized then ever so I thought I'd ask. How important is it that your partner / potential partner shares the same political views you you? Would you date someone that has different political views from yourself?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Compatibility is really important to me. Political views are often a very good indicator of values, world-views, and character. I don't think most people care much about political views, because politics is frustrating and its common for most people to take pride in not caring about these things. But I honestly don't understand that, on a personal level, looking at a love interest and potential partner. It's a huge turn off when I find out that a "crush" has certain views. Who you are as a person, how you view other people, government systems, social justice issues - all of this matters to me A LOT. I can't stress that enough.

Having said that, I'm far more political than the average person, and these topics of politics, history, socio-economics, etc. come up in my daily life. You can imagine how exhausting that would be, if we two had significantly different views. I think even being supportive of a partner could be difficult, if their careers overlap into politics and controversial topics, on which they disagree. Add to that the possibility of being very serious and eventually being married and having a family together - and its definitely a NO for me.

I can see the beauty in not caring about views, to an extent. However, once to you analyze the psychological factors that go into the formation of certain opinions and world views, those views become indicative of a lot of things about a person. It's just impossible for me to not care about it.

On the other hand, I know its hard out here to find anything really worth your time, so I get it if you're trying to maximize your options of finding love. Life's hard.

Sara413 · Accepted Answer

Depends on the views. My boyfriend and I differ on how we prioritize some of our political values, but we agree on the fundamental principals that matter most and he's not super opinionated or political so we don't get into heated discussions about it even though I am very into politics.

I think it's easier being Canadian though, since most of us are pretty moderate in our views, and our party leaders tend to be pretty moderate. They just have different visions for how to get the best results. In the end, most Canadians all want the same thing which is to be safe and able to pursue a good life for ourselves.

fauchelevent · Accepted Answer

I think it would depend on what view they upheld. To go with the party system, even though it's very... vague, I would probably date someone who sided with the Lib Dems, would consider dating someone who sided with the Conservatives even though I personally think that that's a ridiculous idea, but would never date someone who voted for UKIP.

Sami365 · Accepted Answer

As long as they respect my belief and don't start arguements, I'd do the same and it wouldn't matter to me if we disagree. I just wouldn't want to fight with the person about it.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I am currently in such a relationship. Yes, she forms her own views, as she is an extremely intelligent lady, She is a recently retired judge. We occasionally discuss politics, as we both once worked in our state legislature, but we never engage in name calling and we never say that the other is wrong. We simply agree that we disagree and that it is a subject upon which reasonable people can disagree.

Other_Tommy_Wiseau · Accepted Answer

i don't care as long as she isn't stupid about it and can form her own opinions instead of listening to the cookie cutter rhetoric that each party spews out of their buttholes

Jager66 · Answer

On social issues she would have to be a leftist, NOT a neo leftist like SJW's, economically I don't care.

And she would have to be able to make important distinctions. For example, if there was a rampant problem with illegal immigrants coming from 1 particular country then naming that country as a problem and stating we need to kick out the illegal immigrants and prevent them from abusing the system in the future that this does NOT equal racism. Far to many people are far to stupid to make simple but important distinctions and it's very off putting.

xHoneyxBeex · Answer

Long term? Probably not. I have fairly strong beliefs and values which leads to me having strong political viewpoints. So, if a guy had different political beliefs, we would probably be too incompatible for the relationship to work because it's likely that we wouldn't agree on much of anything.

vonasaurus · Answer

as a pansexual, liberal-minded woman who hates doing housework and doesn't want any kids, i'm every conservative man's nightmare. lol.

that's not to say that it *couldn't* work... because it could (as long as he didn't stomp all over my beliefs, i'd return the favour).

Jessica20 · Answer

I draw the line at extremists and people who are not interested in their nation. I am a patriot (not a nazi though!) and I want someone who values their homeland as well. By interested I mean they at least go to vote and when voting, they favor those politicians that are patriots too. I also prefer people that are more open to discussion and are able to carry on a respectful conversation.

Goodgirl1 · Answer

Where does politics come in here unless he/she is a holder of a political office which means you will have to support a party or an ideology you are against? As long as you can be mature and respectful of each other's differing views I don't see why not.

JRICHARDS1996 · Answer

Provided she at least tolerates my own views and doesn't try to change or insult me, then I could make it work. I'm a pretty tolerant person. There are a few views however that would be deal breakers to me: pro-abortion and gun control. Being staunchly pro-life and fiercely NRA, I do not think I would be compatible with such a person.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I don't know maybe, for me politics is a pretty big deal and far to many people just don't care about it or are just to ignorant in the subject to understand just how important it is. Plus I like taking about politics a lot, which is why I enjoy the company of like minded people more.

WhatAreYouReading · Answer

I'm married and the guy is as Progressive and Liberal as I am!

I care a lot about Politics and love to debate so if we were on opposite ends of the spectrum on big issues no one would ever come to dinner parties at our house -lol.

naturallywonderful · Answer

I'm a liberal intersectional feminist who doesn't want kids and sucks at cooking and cleaning. The question is more: would a conservative guy even want to date me in the first place?

astrOnaut01 · Answer

It's not really the opposing political ideologies that would be an issue but how they expressed their views.

Is she expressing her perspective in a calm, rational way? or is she spouting fallacies from every direction and getting angry at my dissent

Anpu23 · Answer

My wife is a socialist, and I'm really all over the political map. we agree to disagree on many points, and as long as we both stay pleasant we have no real conflict.

justbanANNAz · Answer

i would, AS LONG as they don't sit there talking to me about politics all the time. Im not that interested.

RedRain · Answer

Yes, as long as he isn't an extremist, and is respectful of my own political views.

Xelebrum · Answer

If she's a racist, homophobic bigot, or a Donald Trump supporter (which is the same thing but with an extra side of stupid), it's a deal breaker.

ChaosKilledTheDinos · Answer

The 2nd, 3rd, and 4th options are all kind of necessary if that situation would work out.

Robbey · Answer

As long as he's not a jerk about it, it doesn't matter to me

QuestionMan · Answer

D I will not tolerate terrorist apologists and racists Otherwise as long as she's civil about it all views are acceptable.

Socialrealist · Answer

Probably not. I would never date a liberal woman with the intent of pursuing something more serious if the date is success. If it's a one-night stand then sure.

The_Advisor · Answer

Yes but we need to have some common ground. I am pretty right leaning on most issues.

Anonymous · Answer

I really wouldn't care , It's just an opinion. But if it's based on religious reasons it could be a problem , If you're just dating. No Problem.

Dred1614 · Answer

I won't tolerate an anti gun girl, but as long as we aren't at each other's throats, I'd be fine with it.

goretcki · Answer

As long as she doesn't follow blindly and isn't too hardcore, it's fine

jakeofalltrades · Answer

as long as she isn't trying to convenience me she is right all the time or is overly stubborn

ShaeNielson · Answer

I would yes but with some limitations.. If he were a Trump supporter for example I'd never even consider being with him.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. She has to be a conservative who also upholds traditional family values, otherwise no deal.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes there is nothing wrong if there is a difference of opinion in a relationship. keep your relationship out of all these things.

UhDopeDude · Answer

Don't talk about that shit hahaha

apple24 · Answer

I don't care. Unless it morally wrong.

bubbletrouble · Answer

No I would never date a libtard

evenlift · Answer

No, I wouldn't.

JCT666 · Answer

Most likely not.

Anonymous · Answer

Yea sure.

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